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eridani

(51,907 posts)
Tue May 5, 2015, 03:44 AM May 2015

See the Long-Sleeved Gown That Got a Plus-Size Teen Booted From Prom

Good effing grief! WAs she supposed to undergo surgery before the prom, or what?

http://www.takepart.com/article/2015/05/04/see-gown-plus-size-teen-booted-from-prom?cmpid=tpdaily-eml-2015-05-04

It’s supposed to be the most special evening of a student’s high school experience. But thanks to a controversy over her dress, Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, teenager Alexus Miller-Wigfall’s prom night turned into a nightmare. Her floor-length red gown was deemed inappropriate by school officials, who chose to boot her from the event and subsequently gave her a one-day suspension from school.

According to Miller-Wigfall, who is a senior at the SciTech division of Harrisburg High School, although the gown fully covered her body, the school’s assistant principal said the size of her breasts was an issue. Miller-Wigfall said she received compliments from other educators—including district superintendent Knight Burney—but she was asked to leave the dance. Three days later, she was notified that she would be suspended for one day because her gown did not meet the prom’s dress code requirements.

“[The assistant principal] said, ‘You have more boobs than other girls. The other girls have less to show,’ ” the teen told Penn Live.

After pushback from Miller-Wigfall’s mom, Alisha Sneed, and backlash from the community and on social media, district officials decided that Miller-Wigfall would not have to serve her suspension on Friday. “The Harrisburg School District believes that proms are celebratory and memorable events in the lives of its students. Our administration, school board, faculty, and advisors strive to ensure that students enjoy themselves immensely while abiding by attire guidelines and expectations that support and promote the elegance of the prom season,” the district said in a statement. Neither school representatives nor school district officials were available for comment.

Sneed said her daughter was targeted because she is plus-size and “not flat-chested.”

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See the Long-Sleeved Gown That Got a Plus-Size Teen Booted From Prom (Original Post) eridani May 2015 OP
Authoritarians who get off on flexing their puny bit of power over kids. merrily May 2015 #1
I see nothing wrong with that dress Skittles May 2015 #2
She could be a successful plus sized model if she were interested n/t eridani May 2015 #3
she is very pretty Skittles May 2015 #4
I don't see a thing wrong with the dress at all yeoman6987 May 2015 #10
What a shame. I think she looked lovely. Arkansas Granny May 2015 #5
Shaming young women because adults can't - or won't - be adult Novara May 2015 #6
Wish I could rec this post, Novara. brer cat May 2015 #7
If you look back at all of these types of cases.... Novara May 2015 #9
Scratching my head. Erich Bloodaxe BSN May 2015 #8
Oh that poor kid!! newfie11 May 2015 #11
right now mercuryblues May 2015 #12
The school officials are idiots. They should face discipline.. mountain grammy May 2015 #13
 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
10. I don't see a thing wrong with the dress at all
Tue May 5, 2015, 08:38 AM
May 2015

And I tend to prefer a more modest look on females and she fits the bill completely. The school is so wrong here.

Novara

(5,754 posts)
6. Shaming young women because adults can't - or won't - be adult
Tue May 5, 2015, 07:27 AM
May 2015

It is not a woman's job to make sure you are not uncomfortable with her body. Once again, a school shames a young woman because they are making her responsible for others' reactions to her when it's the others who need to take responsibility for their feelings. So some girls have large breasts. Get over it and grow up. Man, this shit makes me angry.

If her body makes you uncomfortable, that's your problem. Not hers. Stop shaming girls because you can't handle your feelings.

brer cat

(24,401 posts)
7. Wish I could rec this post, Novara.
Tue May 5, 2015, 07:33 AM
May 2015

Shaming that young woman because they were uncomfortable with the size of her breasts...what complete a#%holes.

Novara

(5,754 posts)
9. If you look back at all of these types of cases....
Tue May 5, 2015, 08:08 AM
May 2015

....it's always the same thing. Dress codes in schools for girls are all about the poor boys and men (and sometimes women) who can't handle looking at a girl's body and the problem lies with their feelings rather than what the girls are wearing. And the way these things are enforced always seems to have a high amount of shaming involved.

Our society teaches young girls that they are responsible for how others react to them, and they should be ashamed if they "tempt" others. Fuck that shit. We need to be teaching boys not to leer at girls, that girls and women are not objects for their perusal.

Erich Bloodaxe BSN

(14,733 posts)
8. Scratching my head.
Tue May 5, 2015, 07:42 AM
May 2015

It doesn't sound like the gown was the problem for the folks who spoke up, but her body. Seeing the pics before reading the text, I assumed the problem was going to be that the semi-see-through top was backed with a fabric nearly matching her skin tone, making it look like she was wearing something 'peek-a-boo'.

newfie11

(8,159 posts)
11. Oh that poor kid!!
Tue May 5, 2015, 08:42 AM
May 2015

There's nothing wrong with that dress and this was her PROM!!!

For Petes sake when did the Puritans take over!

mercuryblues

(14,491 posts)
12. right now
Tue May 5, 2015, 08:56 AM
May 2015

I need a gown like that. Just got a weeks notice that I will be attending a formal event, which does not leave me time to get alterations or ordering online. But that is a style I need. Not going to be fun. I wear a size 12 pant and 16 shirt to cover my endowments. Which is why I hardly ever wear a dress. If I buy one that covers my top 1/2 the bottom looks like it is 4 sizes to big. If I find one that fits my bottom 1/2 the top falls out. Sleeves for me is a joke. My favorite saying is, why do designers think that because you are well endowed your knuckles drag on the ground.

This young lady looks entirely appropriate for the event. Right now I envy her and her Mom's skill at sewing.

mountain grammy

(26,569 posts)
13. The school officials are idiots. They should face discipline..
Tue May 5, 2015, 10:23 AM
May 2015

This rates as the dumbest move of the week.. I'm almost sorry I read it, makes me want to punch someone.

The young lady is lovely. WTF is wrong with people?

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