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Just an observation.. HoF post. (Original Post) boston bean Jun 2015 OP
you shouldn't be surprised at anything on here dlwickham Jun 2015 #1
We should be grateful the admins did what they did... Little Star Jun 2015 #2
I am grateful and I am happy to see it. boston bean Jun 2015 #3
I agree... I'd like to think the admins will continue to consider use of this slur ban-worthy hlthe2b Jun 2015 #6
I think it deserves the immediate banhammer as well. No matter who it is. boston bean Jun 2015 #9
Yup. Zero tolerance. The admins don't want this place to go down the toilet... CTyankee Jun 2015 #17
There are a lot of women brer cat Jun 2015 #7
Here's the thing about that BainsBane Jun 2015 #42
Message auto-removed Name removed Jun 2015 #14
Wish him well JustAnotherGen Jun 2015 #4
Far as I can tell he never used that word Duckhunter935 Jun 2015 #5
Do you really want to have this argument DURHAM D Jun 2015 #8
Cowering behind implication mitigates sexist intent? Am I correct in that? LanternWaste Jun 2015 #16
If I told you to go to H-E-double toothpicks, I haven't used the word 'Hell' either Gormy Cuss Jun 2015 #47
yep, you did not say the "H" word Duckhunter935 Jun 2015 #48
And you knew exactly what I meant Gormy Cuss Jun 2015 #49
Well I never Duckhunter935 Jun 2015 #50
Ignorance is a convenient thing to hide behind... LanternWaste Jun 2015 #57
My, you are not very nice Duckhunter935 Jun 2015 #59
He used a phrase that means the exact same thing. Jamastiene Jun 2015 #58
Nope Duckhunter935 Jun 2015 #60
It was certainly the correct thing to do. MuseRider Jun 2015 #10
Well, he is/was a member of the Permanent Moderator/Host Group. DURHAM D Jun 2015 #11
I just wanted to say Quackers Jun 2015 #12
Preaching to the choir. JTFrog Jun 2015 #19
Been busy trashing thread after thread ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #13
I think it was the tipping point Blue_Adept Jun 2015 #18
Yeah I always liked him ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #22
Agreed Blue_Adept Jun 2015 #24
That is what mercuryblues Jun 2015 #28
It's quite interesting to me that some feel the need to explain why this is acceptable elsewhere... Phentex Jun 2015 #15
Why are we still talking about this? Left coast liberal Jun 2015 #20
Because this is a feminist group and this is an issue important to us. JTFrog Jun 2015 #21
People are twisting themselves into pretzels mcar Jun 2015 #23
Aloha, mcar.. I just posted on here because it's been bothering me.. Cha Jun 2015 #26
I'm used to the infighting Cha mcar Jun 2015 #29
It goes way beyond that, mcar. Cha Jun 2015 #37
If I may.. This has been bothering me a lot that there are those who are denying that Cha Jun 2015 #25
I've pointed out what a crap argument that is myself Scootaloo Jun 2015 #27
They are implying that EarlG didn't understand it... Phentex Jun 2015 #32
The line about the tongue twister makes it clear BainsBane Jun 2015 #39
He put it in his journal too.. But, deny it they do.. Cha Jun 2015 #40
He knew what it meant. Jamastiene Jun 2015 #62
Absolutely BainsBane Jun 2015 #64
I also hope there is some consistency moving forward and that this wasn't a Hillary only rule or seaglass Jun 2015 #65
I hope so too. Jamastiene Jun 2015 #66
We had some use the phrase this weekend BainsBane Jun 2015 #67
Good post BainsBane Jun 2015 #38
Mahalo BB.. I expected to get at least one reply.. but Crickets! Cha Jun 2015 #41
I have noticed that reasonable, thoughtful responses BainsBane Jun 2015 #43
Yeah, but I was calling them all out as Cha Jun 2015 #45
You were great! boston bean Jun 2015 #53
Mahalo BB~ Right, he wasn't banned for this OP.. they were trying to be nice and let him Cha Jun 2015 #56
So now ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #30
It's because they've grown up with the language Blue_Adept Jun 2015 #31
I'm into a few comics ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #33
I love Preacher Blue_Adept Jun 2015 #34
I didn't know they were adapting it ismnotwasm Jun 2015 #35
Some changes to be sure Blue_Adept Jun 2015 #36
Yes, I served on a jury too.. where it was voted to Leave 4-3 but the post above his was a hide.. Cha Jun 2015 #44
What cracks me up MadrasT Jun 2015 #46
He used a Spoonerism that was interpreted that way Warpy Jun 2015 #51
How was the spoonerism to be taken? As a compliment? boston bean Jun 2015 #52
A lot of people didn't get it at all. Warpy Jun 2015 #54
A lot of people did. boston bean Jun 2015 #55
I know I did not Duckhunter935 Jun 2015 #61
How hard it is? BainsBane Jun 2015 #63

boston bean

(36,219 posts)
3. I am grateful and I am happy to see it.
Thu Jun 4, 2015, 08:26 PM
Jun 2015

There is just a lot of people who don't think calling a woman that is a big deal, or is a mistake.

The slur is the worst thing you can call a woman akin on a level to the N word.

hlthe2b

(102,138 posts)
6. I agree... I'd like to think the admins will continue to consider use of this slur ban-worthy
Thu Jun 4, 2015, 08:32 PM
Jun 2015

That said, I was pretty surprised to see that particular poster banned ...

CTyankee

(63,892 posts)
17. Yup. Zero tolerance. The admins don't want this place to go down the toilet...
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 12:18 PM
Jun 2015

and it is unbecoming of a Democratic website to not repudiate such insults to what may be our Democratic nominee for president. That's pretty clear to me.

brer cat

(24,525 posts)
7. There are a lot of women
Thu Jun 4, 2015, 08:37 PM
Jun 2015

who don't think he deserved a ban. I find that distressing also. I don't know of any word more degrading to women, and I don't understand women who think it wasn't a big deal.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
42. Here's the thing about that
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:49 PM
Jun 2015

Last edited Sat Jun 6, 2015, 11:16 PM - Edit history (1)

The word is used from time to time on this site, in its original untwisted form. Sometimes it's not even hidden. We had a week following the hiding of a post with the Rude Pundit blog entry where some were using it as often as they could and getting away with it. I remember being on MIRT when a new member used the word, and MIRT wouldn't vote to ban. That really pissed me off.

Evidence suggests there is more to the ban than the use of a misogynistic term. Was it because he used it toward Clinton? Was it in part to serve as an example that the anti-Hillary stuff has gotten way out of control? Clearly many in GD think so. There are, however, indications he may have been on the admins. radar before this since he wasn't selected to serve on the current MIRT, despite signing up early in the thread. I know from the time I was on MIRT, the admins rarely ban a long-time poster over a single act. It's usually an accumulation of things. I don't know all what was involved in this, and we only have EarlG's ban message.

I can see arguing he shouldn't have been banned. What troubles me is the numbers of people who insist he didn't do anything wrong, and some even follow it up by claiming there is something wrong with objecting to the word, that it doesn't bother "real women."

Response to boston bean (Reply #3)

JustAnotherGen

(31,781 posts)
4. Wish him well
Thu Jun 4, 2015, 08:31 PM
Jun 2015

And move on. And I understand why Admin did what they did. The reason behind it - is disappointing. Very disappointed that language was used towards SOS Clinton.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
16. Cowering behind implication mitigates sexist intent? Am I correct in that?
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 11:03 AM
Jun 2015

Cowering behind implication mitigates sexist intent? Am I correct in that?

Gormy Cuss

(30,884 posts)
47. If I told you to go to H-E-double toothpicks, I haven't used the word 'Hell' either
Sun Jun 7, 2015, 05:33 PM
Jun 2015

but I'm pretty sure you'd know what I meant. See the similarity?

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
58. He used a phrase that means the exact same thing.
Mon Jun 8, 2015, 10:53 AM
Jun 2015

If someone is going to use derogatory language against women, saying it exactly or using a workaround means the same thing. So, you can keep going around typing the same post over and over again. It doesn't change that what NYC_SKP posted meant the same thing. It just means you missed the point entirely.

MuseRider

(34,095 posts)
10. It was certainly the correct thing to do.
Thu Jun 4, 2015, 08:57 PM
Jun 2015

Jesus, how can anyone not get that?

I sure hope they don't give in and reconsider. It will get much worse if that happens. We all knew this was coming. Let this high profile case get overturned and it will be a free for all with all kinds of "funny" little plays on words. Damn, I can see it coming a mile off as easily as I see admins giving in to the pressure, after all a lot of women are OK with this. *sigh*

I am not anywhere near to supporting Hillary but damn. I had sensed an increase in rancor and there it was and I don't believe anyone who posts here could not figure that phrase out. I had never heard it and the moment I saw it I knew what it was. Good grief nobody here is really that dense or if so they would at least have thought to look it up.

DURHAM D

(32,606 posts)
11. Well, he is/was a member of the Permanent Moderator/Host Group.
Thu Jun 4, 2015, 09:12 PM
Jun 2015

I noticed how many of the old crew is in to support him as they go way back.

He was in with the in crowd.

Quackers

(2,256 posts)
12. I just wanted to say
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 03:14 AM
Jun 2015

I don't think what he said was right. I'm not necessarily against him getting banned. The biggest issue I take with it is that the punishment should be the same for all members. This group, probably more than any other, has seen people get away with saying it or just a slap on the wrist. I just wanted to try and explain from my point of view. Im ok with banning people who use that degrading hateful word, but that banning should apply to all members who choose to use it in a demeaning way. That's just my opinion. If I crossed the line in this group, please let me know and I will self-delete. Thank you for reading.

 

JTFrog

(14,274 posts)
19. Preaching to the choir.
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 12:46 PM
Jun 2015

Folks in this group have been asking the admins to take sexism and misogyny seriously for years here. I don't think anyone here would be opposed to seeing a) more definitive language in the TOS to cover sexism and misogyny and b) such TOS being enforced equally toward all posters.

ismnotwasm

(41,967 posts)
13. Been busy trashing thread after thread
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 07:04 AM
Jun 2015

I don't think the person was banned for a play on a misonogystic word anyway. I think there was some sort of pattern admins were looking at. I also think he will be back.


To speak to your point though, no it's not surprising. Not even a little bit. I've noticed a lot of mental contortions--everything to bringing up how other countries perceive the word to a disingenuouly indignant comparison to the word 'dick'.

Blue_Adept

(6,393 posts)
18. I think it was the tipping point
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 12:24 PM
Jun 2015

He'd become seemingly unhinged in a lot of threads and just being so utterly gleeful in disturbing attacks, a lot based in nothing relating to fact, that even those that were on his side were telling him to step back. The thread about the roosevelt island location he kicked off was pretty intense on his part and had a lot of folks surprised by the vehemence.

ismnotwasm

(41,967 posts)
22. Yeah I always liked him
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 02:03 PM
Jun 2015

Didn't agree with everything, but he could be very cool. I noticed a change in tone lately, or at least he surprised me with some of his postings. I hope he's ok.

Blue_Adept

(6,393 posts)
24. Agreed
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 02:41 PM
Jun 2015

I know a lot of people are pointing to the surgery he had last year, but it seems like something far more recent hit him to make him as intense as he was. Which is unfortunate.

mercuryblues

(14,525 posts)
28. That is what
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:14 AM
Jun 2015

I think. It was his posting pattern of late topped off with his euphemism. Excuses made to justify what he said are just that, excuses.

Phentex

(16,330 posts)
15. It's quite interesting to me that some feel the need to explain why this is acceptable elsewhere...
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 10:38 AM
Jun 2015

guess what? Some people talk about bigfoot on the internet. Some people in other countries talk about him. DU doesn't allow it yet I don't see thread after thread fursplaining why the big hairy guy should be discussed here.

The admins make the rules. It's not really difficult to understand.

mcar

(42,278 posts)
23. People are twisting themselves into pretzels
Fri Jun 5, 2015, 02:26 PM
Jun 2015

to insist that the poster didn't say what he said. Cognitive dissonance at its finest.

We really should be better than this. Sigh.

mcar

(42,278 posts)
29. I'm used to the infighting Cha
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:24 AM
Jun 2015

But this goes so far beyond that. It's happened before (POS used car salesman comes to mind). It's just so discouraging.

Cha

(296,870 posts)
25. If I may.. This has been bothering me a lot that there are those who are denying that
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 05:59 AM
Jun 2015

he did anything wrong.

I made a post to answer the OP with 300+Recs.. because I've seen so many excuse him by stating "he didn't really say it".

I said in so many words that this is SKP's doing-he has to own it.. he has to realize he made the mistake.. and apologize and maybe he will get reinstated.. and I laid it all out from "the Troll's" post to what SKP replied to him.

And, then EarlG's statement on why he was banned. I think it is clear as a bell.

It seems like I'm the only dissenting view there.. but I just quickly perused..

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=6788609

Thank you, boston bean

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
27. I've pointed out what a crap argument that is myself
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 06:08 AM
Jun 2015

NYC_SKP absolutely meant it the way it was taken. Arguing "well, it's not verbatim!" is just dumb.

Phentex

(16,330 posts)
32. They are implying that EarlG didn't understand it...
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 11:55 AM
Jun 2015

He's not stupid. He knew exactly what the words meant. (Could apply to both NYC and EarlG)

Cha

(296,870 posts)
40. He put it in his journal too.. But, deny it they do..
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:42 PM
Jun 2015


And, they're not doing SKP or their candidate any good.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
62. He knew what it meant.
Mon Jun 8, 2015, 11:03 AM
Jun 2015

He replied in agreement a few years ago to an OP using the same phrase when talking about Palin.

http://upload.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=132x7059909

So, those who claim he did not know what it meant are deluding themselves.

I do hope admins here will start taking the misogynist language more seriously from now on. I'm fed up with it. There are a lot of anti-women types of people on here, far too many.

seaglass

(8,171 posts)
65. I also hope there is some consistency moving forward and that this wasn't a Hillary only rule or
Mon Jun 8, 2015, 01:18 PM
Jun 2015

just the straw that broke the camel's back. I am not going to believe that this is a change in the admin's approach until I see actual evidence. This one situation wasn't enough. Forever hoping.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
67. We had some use the phrase this weekend
Mon Jun 8, 2015, 04:18 PM
Jun 2015

In clear defiance to the administrators' actions. I wonder what will become of those members?

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
38. Good post
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:32 PM
Jun 2015

I posted in there too. I also like NYCSkp and don't believe he's a misogynist. As you said, he made a mistake. That doesn't make him a bad person, but enabling him doesn't help either. I hope he is able to sort it out with the administrators and come back.

Cha

(296,870 posts)
41. Mahalo BB.. I expected to get at least one reply.. but Crickets!
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:48 PM
Jun 2015

Yes, they aren't helping SKP at all. Trying to deny it.

You have to own it and admit it before you can apologize. It you just keep saying "I did nothing wrong" then fat chance you have of moving on when the Admins clearly got it.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
43. I have noticed that reasonable, thoughtful responses
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:52 PM
Jun 2015

generally get fewer replies than rants or more extreme statements.

Cha

(296,870 posts)
45. Yeah, but I was calling them all out as
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:05 PM
Jun 2015

"enablers".. I thought there would be hell to pay.

What do I know!? Anyway, I don't think the "reputation" of DU will suffer because the Admins clearly saw a misogynistic slur directed at Hillary Clinton and banned the poster. There may have been other underlying issures too.. that we know nothing about yet.

But, ya have to admit it.. not try to cover it up.

boston bean

(36,219 posts)
53. You were great!
Sun Jun 7, 2015, 07:10 PM
Jun 2015

He wouldn't have been banned if he hadn't said it about Hillary Clinton.

Hell he wasn't banned for the using the killing of babies to promote a gun fantasy. And we know the admin knew about that post.

Cha

(296,870 posts)
56. Mahalo BB~ Right, he wasn't banned for this OP.. they were trying to be nice and let him
Sun Jun 7, 2015, 09:39 PM
Jun 2015

self Delete.. then he pasted it in the last post too.. trollish like behavior that also got a Hide.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022002711#post15

He had so much leeway and went further further and was egged on on.. and now they're worried about the "Reputation" of DU if they don't let him come back and oh, "who's next?!", and "we're being purged!". uh huh.

Such victims.

ismnotwasm

(41,967 posts)
30. So now
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:41 AM
Jun 2015

The little 'play on words' game has gotten completely out of hand. I've served on one jury, others have as well for variations of misogynistic words.

If the general population of DU was in their 20's or 30's, I think the behavior would be better. It's the middle-aged to older ones who are getting their giggles with this, (I can't count the times I've made incorrect assumptions of age from posting styles, it made me look at a number of my own biases)

Blue_Adept

(6,393 posts)
31. It's because they've grown up with the language
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 11:43 AM
Jun 2015

And they see it as harmless because they were never personally harmed by it.

Lack of empathy and understanding.

It's definitely a "challenging" time for many of all types in going through this phase of understanding and correcting themselves so as to not do these kinds of things. I follow a lot of writers, particular comic book writers, and seeing the dynamic there where they're dealing with a big influx of new and younger readers, and predominantly female readers, with the "old guard" fans and creators is fascinating. Some adapt really well by listening and incorporating while understanding at the same time. Others, like we see here, just can't understand what the fuss is all about.

ismnotwasm

(41,967 posts)
33. I'm into a few comics
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 02:48 PM
Jun 2015

One I find possibly 'inadvertently' homophobic is "Preacher" even though gender issues are part of the story line.

Blue_Adept

(6,393 posts)
34. I love Preacher
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 03:13 PM
Jun 2015

But it's also a product of its time, and culture, where it was written in the 90's by a Brit looking at Southern US culture. It's one of those areas where I always try to view it through the context and lens of the time to understand it. I read it when it came out and there's a lot of unsettling stuff in there across the board.

It'll be interesting to see how the TV adaptation pans out.

ismnotwasm

(41,967 posts)
35. I didn't know they were adapting it
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 03:44 PM
Jun 2015

It's a series I can read over and over. I hope they don't screw it up!

Blue_Adept

(6,393 posts)
36. Some changes to be sure
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 04:02 PM
Jun 2015

The most problematic is that they did a racial change for Tulip. so instead of a white southern girl christian upbringing, it'll be a black one, and that's a whole different set of experiences. The cast is shaping up nicely and they're filming the pilot now and it's got a series order already.

Cha

(296,870 posts)
44. Yes, I served on a jury too.. where it was voted to Leave 4-3 but the post above his was a hide..
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 08:59 PM
Jun 2015

As someone pointed out.. "this is how some Sanders supporters choose to campaign.. through misogyny?"

MadrasT

(7,237 posts)
46. What cracks me up
Sat Jun 6, 2015, 09:07 PM
Jun 2015

Is the same people shrieking that this is no big deal, and women aren't shrinking violets who need to be protected from bad words, are the *exact* same people who lost their shit a couple years back when redqueen made a comment that some men just view women as _____ dumpsters. All hell broke loose, it was the most horrible thing they ever heard, bannings were demanded, and so forth.

Why were they acting as shrinking violets themselves then? And now they are all tough ass "AS A WOMAN, I can take anything you can dish out"?

This position is wildly inconsitent with that position.

I believe some people just live to argue on the internet.

So strange to me.

Warpy

(111,169 posts)
51. He used a Spoonerism that was interpreted that way
Sun Jun 7, 2015, 05:53 PM
Jun 2015

making the mistake of answering a troll who used it first. He didn't baldly say "Hillary is a ***."

That's why he's getting support, that and the fact that he was a great poster before he got sick.

Just an observation.

BainsBane

(53,016 posts)
63. How hard it is?
Mon Jun 8, 2015, 12:32 PM
Jun 2015

The first couple letters of the first word and the last two letters of the second. The sounds are clear. What is complicated about that? Seriously?

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