Sun Jan 8, 2023, 01:12 PM

We are moving mom to a care facility

On Thursday. Been bedridden since June after getting covid. We've had full time care giving in the home at $12,000/ month.
She wants to get out of bed, and who can blame her. But caregiver and I can't manage it. A family friend owns a facility and a room came up. At only $6000/month, we grabbed it. Told caregiver yesterday which broke my heart; she's almost family at this point.
Mom doesn't know yet, and that's another challenge.
Thank goodness I recorded It's a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad World yesterday on our local pbs station. It's giving me some comic relief between all the crying.

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We are moving mom to a care facility (Original post)	Beatlelvr	Jan 8	OP
You have my sympathy, and good luck.	Walleye	Jan 8	#1
This is so tough	cyclonefence	Jan 8	#2
I'm a senior move manager and that's the hardest thing to do	kimbutgar	Jan 8	#3
Yes	Beatlelvr	Jan 8	#4
If at all possible, have the current caregiver come to visit, spend a little time with Mom	No Vested Interest	Jan 9	#5
How did the transition go for your mom, Beatlelvr?	JudyM	Jan 26	#6
Well I'm a month late to this post	leighbythesea2	Feb 9	#7

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Sun Jan 8, 2023, 01:16 PM

Walleye (22,609 posts)

1. You have my sympathy, and good luck.

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Sun Jan 8, 2023, 01:18 PM

cyclonefence (3,995 posts)

2. This is so tough

Hugs to all of you.

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Sun Jan 8, 2023, 01:26 PM

kimbutgar (18,390 posts)

3. I'm a senior move manager and that's the hardest thing to do

Especially when they get non mobile and it’s hard on all of you. Make sure you include mom in picking out some of her favorite things to take with her. Also take some photo albums.

I also got watched it’s a mad mad mad world yesterday and forgot how funny it was!

Good luck.

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Sun Jan 8, 2023, 01:38 PM

Beatlelvr (430 posts)

4. Yes

Thank you so much for the advice.

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Mon Jan 9, 2023, 03:47 AM

No Vested Interest (5,038 posts)

5. If at all possible, have the current caregiver come to visit, spend a little time with Mom

in new facility.
It will be a comfort for Mom, and caregiver can ease the transition by letting new facility team know Mom's preferences, etc.
Caregiver can also clue you and family in to any problems, and there likely will be some.

I have a family member in long-term care and pay to have a previous caregiver come twice a week for a few hours to occupy her time with games and take her out to dr. appointments and change of scenery or a snack. (My family member is much younger.)

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Thu Jan 26, 2023, 02:18 AM

JudyM (26,106 posts)

6. How did the transition go for your mom, Beatlelvr?

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Thu Feb 9, 2023, 06:51 PM

leighbythesea2 (1,127 posts)

7. Well I'm a month late to this post

Because am a caregiver too & im getting turned into a fine dust with it at the moment. Honestly no time to do anything, including be on DU.

I’m so sorry to hear of your situation. It is for the best, it sounds like— and that monthly price is not too bad.
But I feel for you on the pain it is causing you emotionally. It’s like a caregiver cannot win, in ways. I dread that day, but mine is coming. We’re spending 14k a month last 2 months. Am waiting on some testing etc for a specific issue mom is having.
I’m sure you’ve read up on caregiving, there’s your health and well being too. It sounds like the care has been very intense. I hope the transition has been ok?

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