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Female. Retired. Wife-Mom-Grandma. Approx. 30 years in broadcasting, at least 20 of those in news biz. Taurus. Loves chocolate - preferably without nuts or cocoanut. Animal lover. Rock-hound from pre-school age. Proud Democrat for life. Ardent environmentalist and pro-choicer. Hoping to use my skills set for the greater good. Still married to the same guy for 40+ years. Probably because he's a proud Democrat, too. Penmanship absolutely stinks, so I'm glad I'm a fast typist! I will always love Hillary and she will always be my President.

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Hey, the Natural Gas logo fits perfectly!

Since ted cruz is the biggest gas giant in the Senate.

Come to think of it, the Onion logo fits, too. After all, onions can smell strong and make your eyes sting and water when you cut 'em.

Darwin Award-winner.

And jeff sessions in the Senate is no better. Another idiot. Just like this ridiculous pathetic dingdong.

It's like "don't buy books by crooks." That's what came out of the Watergate era.

All those fucking Nixon felons who went to jail, some of 'em "found Jesus," and all of 'em wrote books, memoirs and stuff. There arose a movement urging - "don't buy books by crooks."

Same thing here:


Sometimes you have to vote with your pocketbook. You're really voting with your conscience.

So do I. That took courage in this climate of condemnation and cold, harsh judgmentalism.

And the lack of compassion that is systemic throughout the other side of the aisle. Hell, they LAUGH at it. Remember when cheney did that? Turned up his pig snout and scoffed at the very ridiculous comedy idea of "empathy." (And my sincere apologies to pigs everywhere.)

Let's take a lesson from the fight that the LGBT community has had to wage through the years - to get where they are now.

Let's look at what one of the main undercurrents that led to a softening of the attitudes toward marriage equality.

It began to dawn on various members of Joe and Jane Q Public that - "SHIT! I KNOW somebody who's gay! SHIT! And - um - er - gee, um - I like that person. They're so nice. Their (GULP!) KIDS play with mine and they're wonderful. I've trusted my kids at their house and everything was fine - they all had a wonderful time, totally safe, great fun, we were all there having a great time!"

Or - "OMG - I'm working with a GAY guy??? He's GAY??? But ... but ... but ... gee, he's so nice! He's the kindest soul in the office. I really like him. He covered for me one day when I got that phone call and had to race home... Saw him in church the other day... But he's such a nice guy... so generous, helps out extra all the time, (GULP!) he's GAY???? Gee.... ... ... "


THIS, I think, is the key. People out there in the "heartland" or wherever it is - suddenly discover, one fine day, that they know someone who's gay. And it probably dawns on them at some point that that person, neighbor, fellow parent, coworker, relative, whoever, is NOT some weirdo or demon or I-don't-even-know-what these people might have in their misinformed brains about who gay people are. And I think there probably comes a moment when such an individual realizes that the other person is NOT gonna bite their heads off. And that the other person loves God as much as they do. And that the other person puts their pants on one-leg-at-a-time just like they do themselves. And that the other person is a good neighbor who is kind, generous, and respectful, and maybe is the first person they call if they think there's a prowler or something.

IT COMES FROM FAMILIARITY. Which teaches them with their own eyes and ears and personal experience that...

That other person DOES NOT have devil horns coming out of their heads.
That other person, they discover, DOES NOT worship Satan.
That other person, they realize, DOES NOT conform to the horror stories their favorite hate-radio host goes on and on about.
That other person, they discover, DOES NOT FIT with what they've been taught or scared into believing.
That other person, they realize, IS NOT some godless monster.
That other person lives next door, or down the street, or works down the hall from them, or they see each other at PTA meetings. AND NOTHING EVER GOES WRONG.
That the bullshit they're being fed about gays does not fit what they themselves see and hear and know and recognize personally, and therefore really can't apply here. *

* And then, some of them are bound to make the next leap - "well, if that bullshit doesn't apply here (with this person I just found out was gay), could it be that maybe it doesn't apply to others either?"

There comes a point where the established understanding doesn't fit anymore. It doesn't work anymore. It doesn't seem to apply in this case - - - and maybe others as well?

I think THAT, more than anything else, has caused the slow but steady change in attitudes about the gay community, one individual at a time. I think the familiarity, the personal knowledge of what actually is true rather than wild horror stories that are just a bunch of bunk and NOT provable or sustainable in real time, in the real world, in the real neighborhood, in the real school, the real shopping center, the real office, the real church.

There used to be across-the-board shaming of the whole idea of "gay." You didn't discuss it, you didn't mention it if one of your relative was "one of THOSE." You didn't bring it up in "polite company." It was something to be ashamed of and hidden.

But then, you start realizing that all these nice people, whom you know, whom you trust, whom you live next-door to, whom you see at the local Starbucks all the time or at the parents' meetings at school or wherever... you start realizing that there is NOTHING wrong with these nice people, and they're just what they seem to be: nice people. What you see is what you get. They're just nice people. Normal and friendly and kind and intelligent and good neighbors and helpers and all those other things you regard as good.

The problem for the choice side is that not enough women who've had abortions have "come out." Nobody knows anybody who had an abortion, and from the shit that's heaped upon the whole idea of abortion leads you to think these women are whores, harridans, monsters, godless murderers and perverts and devil-worshippers with horns coming out of their heads, yeah, that's GOTTA be it! Besides, limbaugh says so. And ted cruz's father says so. And mitch mcconnell says so. And henry hyde said so. And ex-governor bob "vaginal probe" mcdonnell said so! Well, I bet they all knew women who'd had abortions but were too ashamed to come forward and talk about it. AND PUT A HUMAN FACE ON IT.

Which means - there's NOTHING to hate, there, or condemn there, after all.

That's exactly what the gay community has done, and rightly so. THEY PUT A HUMAN FACE ON BEING GAY. A gay person is NOT a monster. As that Joan Osborne song lyric goes -
What if God was one of us?
Just a slob like one of us?
Just a stranger on the bus
Trying to make His way home?

Substitute the word "gay" for "God" and it's the same thing. The same reality.

And women who've had abortions need to come forward, and PUT A HUMAN FACE ON THIS ISSUE. Because THEY are "one of us," TOO.

Aw shit - sorry this is so long...

Zicam. I've come to swear by it.

Knocks out a cold before it can fully get up on its feet. Otherwise, I'd be miserable for three weeks or more.

And "Catholic Penicillin"! (Hot tea with honey and lemon!)

Also - a nice serving of sushi with some extra wasabi - really the only time I want a lot of wasabi on my sushi or anything else, for that matter. It really clears a stuffed-up nose!

VERY nice!

Congratulations, Omaha Steve! That's really nice of them to acknowledge all your work over all those years!


Oh you Naughty One!


Thank you for posting this, Baclava! I love this stuff. I wish we still had a space program that was really robust. It could be the only thing that might guarantee our survival as a species.

Isn't this the guy who conceived of the idea to stick a knife in the President's back and

sneak around the State Department's collective back to go play footsie deliberately with this President's opposition, so netanyahu could showboat before Congress and get some nice campaign commercial footage?

Wonder if all the other presidents he cites had sneaky shit like this pulled on them, too?

This is how he treats his country's best friend? And he thinks we're all just gonna forget that?

Aw damn. She was so clear-eyed and grounded while facing what she knew she was facing.

"So............I won't have to endure the loss of my husband, my children, or my friends...being the first to go is really going to be a freeing thing. Plus I get to play the Cancer Card whenever I want to...and so far it's been working great!

I will live every day of my life the best I can. And I think I'll spend less time on things that stress me, i.e. politics, and more time on playing."

The last sentence is everything one might need. Words to live by. What a wonderful legacy.

Safe passage, high flight, peaceful sleep FLyellowdog!

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