I have read that young soldiers, wounded and dying on the battlefield,

cry out for their mothers, during wars from the Civil War to WWII, and perhaps our recent and continuing wars.

There most be something very basic about the need for comfort and love from their mothers in the last moments, when life is slipping away.

In SW Ohio, where Kroger headquarters are located,

the stores are unionized. Kroger dominates the market, as it does in so many areas of the country now.

My son formerly worked for Kroger; he now works for the new Fresh Thyme, which is expanding in this area. I believe Fresh Thyme's headquarters are in Indianapolis. I understand Fresh Thyme is backed by Meijer.

This man has become a "pop-off" on any subject

that comes along.
His stream of consciousness speaking does him, his causes, and the world at large no good.

Thanks, Malaise, from all of us.

Love this song.
I'm not terminal, not much even ill, but slowing down with age.
Love so many "friends" on DU, though they may not know it.
Steve gives us so much, regularly, daily.

Congratulations on your anniversary! nt

Pride is likely the greatest sin. - so many other sins

emanate from pride, including indifference mentioned above, sloth, lust, etc.
I believe Love is the greatest virtue; it may be called by other names as well - Charity, Kindness.

If we all just practiced simple human kindness.....

It does seem like you and all your family have been given a very heavy

load all at one time.
Each is suffering in his/her own way as each is affected not only by Tom's death, but all the attendant circumstances and aftermath.

You are level-headed in your response, though obviously upset, especially for your widowed daughter, who is being undercut and threatened.
At this time, when it seems you are being shelled from all sides, priorities need be set on what can be dealt with and what is beyond your control; then, of that within your control, which is most important, and which can wait its turn.

Your son's wife will be his prime support; unexpected death is especially hard on the young, as they haven't yet given a lot of thought to mortality. It may be very difficult for him, but he will come through this sadness.

May you get through this difficult week, Muriel, one day, one hour, at a time.
You'll be in the thoughts of those who offer support for bereavement and beyond.

Ha! I had to laugh out loud at my mis-reading of where you were going.

I'm glad you took it in the spirit in which it was intended.
Isn't that what they now refer to as confirmation bias. - we interpret words and expressions relating to our own likes and experiences.

Good of you to apologize to your daughter. Forgive yourself and let it go.
You have a larger concern until you hear from your doctor.

I have said to myself, when faced with a problem but needing peace and sleep -
"I can't do anything about it at this minute, so I'll place the problem on a shelf in the closet until it's time to deal with it, and at that time I'll take it down and do what needs to be done.

Peace, Muriel.

This is the time to take care of yourself first.

Remember what they tell us in airplanes - put on your own oxygen mask first, before taking care of those with you.
Your good husband understands and will put you first and take care of you.

You did the best thing by renting the hotel room at the time of your son-in-law's funeral.
Some of the problems of your son-in-law's family are beyond your ability to control or correct.

Obviously you want to be available for your daughter and her current needs, but at the same time, she doesn't want to see you ill and so concerned about her sorrow and burdens when you have your own immediate health concerns.

In past messages, you've mentioned going to Mass.
In that vein, I can only suggest that you give your problems and concerns to the One you pray to and honor.
Ask that One to hold your concerns at this time, to lighten the weight you are now carrying.

Earlier this week in Kentucky a long-time fugitive in poor health

gave himself up because his health had become so poor and he could not get health care through regular means - Medicare, Medicaid- as he had no proper ID- social security card, birth certificate - to show.

He was living under an assumed name and his partner had no idea of his real identity.
He is about 66 years old; the deputy who took him into custody said he looked about 90 (the photo accompanying the article verified that assessment.)