Backseat Driver
Backseat Driver's Journal
We've all heard a lot about employees
"ghosting" their employers, i.e., no show/no call, situations. Does anyone have any anecdotes about the reverse: employers "ghosting" hourly new hires that go weeks without being scheduled to clock in after paperwork and training. DH is pushing 4 weeks without a work schedule for a job not billed as "seasonal," and with a nearly full-time 35-hour availability for a PT gig; his paperwork has been signed, he's done training, passing their tests and background checks; he's even received mailings regarding the employer's benefit package. Is there a "secret" push by RW leaning employers to fudge reportable Labor statistics or perhaps identity theft of personal information? I'm getting awfully suspicious about "real" employment at this large corporate big box? Our budget could sure use a paycheck, and yet: no scheduled hours even after checking personally with HR? Please share any experience about this strange phenomenon in hiring practices.
Terrified and depressed!
I've "stayed too long at the fair." No amount of counseling, medication, trying to communicate those "I" messages, embarking on extreme austerity measures for our well-being, agreeing to a "new start," has yet to impress upon him the fact that he needs to earn my trust by being both fiscally responsible and maritally responsible. I'm tired of the charade for the sake of what? Kids are grown, thank god, and say it's 50% my fault - I've lost all my self-confidence; all of my attempted savings; all my drive to turn anything around by accepting yet another empty promise. There's always something, most of all lost jobs, lost/homes, lost good name; lost ability for the kind of medical care each of us needs--vision, dental, hearing, counseling; yet another unpaid bill, none of them in my name--not the lease, not the utilities, not transportation (cars); I buy the food and hope it lasts a month; I pay for our cells; then there's the lies of forgetfulness, priorities, hidden mailings (only one key). I no longer believe that "love" looks like this..
Is there support or any assistance at shelters, hospital rooms (not suicidal), for a senior enduring elder non-physical domestic (emotional, psychological, financial) abuse? Tomorrow will be our 49th anniversary; clearly he does not respect this status or feel much gratitude for his 70 x 7 chances to make even a short-term attempt until and unless I'm already so upset it makes his case of my "fault," but I'm way beyond tears, daily prayer, meditations to still the brain pain; it's obvious the heart is weak to end it all.
I feel so foolish in this long history of enabling this charade of his; I feel as though, over the years, I've created my own charade and failure. Please help me understand why I feel so disenfranchised. so invisible, and not worth his effort. I feel totally lost...
Well, this is discouraging...
Intelligence, Not Mindset, Predicts Learning Ability https://www.labroots.com/trending/neuroscience/16147/intelligence-mindset-predicts-learning-ability
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This research comes after a recent review of research on mindset that found a weak correlation between having a growth mindset and academic achievement (Sisk: 2019). Finding that encouraging children to believe they can improve their abilities had no significant effect on their academic achievement, researchers hope that this research, combined with the more recent study on learning to play the piano, may inform education practices for better.
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Add to that: Whoa! https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/fact-or-fiction-babies-ex/
Fact or Fiction?: Babies Exposed to Classical Music End Up Smarter
Is the so-called "Mozart effect" a scientifically supported, developmental leg up or a media-fueled "scientific legend"?
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Chabris says the real danger isn't in this questionable marketing, but in parents shirking roles they are evolutionarily meant to serve. "It takes away from other kinds of interaction that might be beneficial for children," such as playing with them and keeping them engaged via social activity. That is the key to a truly intelligent child, not the symphonies of a long-dead Austrian composer.
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Well, so listening nor playing a tune has much bearing on people's intelligence...so how do we reach the politically unenlightened? Even early interaction looks pretty much impossible, and critical thinking skills could be pretty much unteachable - you got it or you don't depending on where one falls on the Bell curve of inherent "intelligence." That is disturbing and discouraging - is it even worth the higher cost of homes when buying the school system? Stupid is as stupid does is the bottom line? Not good teachers, not social life or experience? Nothing to be done except buy more protection from the Zombies? Oh, the apocalyse must surely be on its way!
OMG - I made 15-bean soup for the week w/kielbasi, but now I can't
stop going back for a "little taste" while it cools off.
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