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XanaDUer2

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Name: Mary
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Hometown: Miami
Home country: United States
Member since: Sat Jul 4, 2020, 11:14 AM
Number of posts: 6,689

About Me

I was a member since the beginning of DU, but drifted away. During Trump, I decided to come back to the community of like-minded people for support and hope. In my last iteration here, I hit 10,000 posts, but will start again!

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anybody like Altman's 3 Women?

one of my favorite films. James Cromwell's dad also stars

*UPDATE* I asked for the FMLA at work last Monday

Again, thank you DU fam for reading my posts and all your input, advice, thoughts, and kindness.

I was going to ask for it this past Tuesday, but I was so stressed out I decided to move it up to past Monday to get it over with. I was shaking so badly. It went well. My doctor wanted me out asap, but I didn't want to do that to the scheduler lady, who just lost a baby and is very nice. So, we chose June 8th. Which is great because I miss Staff Day, too.

My boss accepted it and was great. I was pleasantly surprised. We did the paperwork yesterday. I will bring my doctor his part to fill out Tuesday. It is supposed to be for a month, but I think it will be longer. My doctor said to say a month at this point, since he is very concerned about me. But he is going to do what is best for me in any case.

I have no idea what is being thought of me, vis a vis the director, etc. I kinda don't care. My co-workers don't know, minus the scheduler lady, and I told her about my disability so she knew, and I am fine with her knowing. The others don't , and it is none of their business. I will tell the guy I supervise. I asked my boss about the evaluations, etc, and she made it sound like it would be okay, so I am going with that. I feel like I can finally breathe a bit. There may be bumps in the road I don't know about, but I don't want to think of them. I just see a path out for a while. Taking a few days off and going to the mountains. It's been two years since I was on a vacation. I miss a lot of time at work due to stress.

Some asked me to keep them up to speed on what happened, so here I am. Feeling a bit hopeful!

*UPDATE*: So, I asked for FMLA at work...

Again, thank you DU fam for reading my posts and all your input, advice, thoughts, and kindness.

I was going to ask for it this past Tuesday, but I was so stressed out I decided to move it up to past Monday to get it over with. I was shaking so badly. It went well. My doctor wanted me out asap, but I didn't want to do that to the scheduler lady, who just lost a baby and is very nice. So, we chose June 8th. Which is great because I miss Staff Day, too.

My boss accepted it and was great. I was pleasantly surprised. We did the paperwork yesterday. I will bring my doctor his part to fill out Tuesday. It is supposed to be for a month, but I think it will be longer. My doctor said to say a month at this point, since he is very concerned about me. But he is going to do what is best for me in any case.

I have no idea what is being thought of me, vis a vis the director, etc. I kinda don't care. My co-workers don't know, minus the scheduler lady, and I told her about my disability so she knew, and I am fine with her knowing. The others don't , and it is none of their business. I will tell the guy I supervise. I asked my boss about the evaluations, etc, and she made it sound like it would be okay, so I am going with that. I feel like I can finally breathe a bit. There may be bumps in the road I don't know about, but I don't want to think of them. I just see a path out for a while. Taking a few days off and going to the mountains. It's been two years since I was on a vacation. I miss a lot of time at work due to stress.

Some asked me to keep them up to speed on what happened, so here I am. Feeling a bit hopeful!

Um, Joe Scar, leadership matters

Mika just lauded the drop in covid cases and deaths, and said leadership matters. Joe, demurred and said vaccinations matter, and they do. But it's leadership that drives that, o simple country lawyer.

I know, it's Joe

Asking for FMLA this coming week. Scared to death

Cross posted in GD.

Asking for FMLA this coming week. Scared to death

Many of you kind people have been following my mental-health journey to get SSDI and the stress that my job is causing me. I thank you for your kind words and support that I have received in this community.

Including this bizarre aggressive incident:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215414863

I have gone out on FMLA twice in the last 8.5 years; this will be number 3. I feel so weak sometimes. However, my anxiety is off the charts, and I also have depression. I cannot take is anymore and maintain my physical health as well as my mental health. I keep hoping Biden will reverse what the orange asshole has done to average people who need it getting SSDI- making it more difficult than ever, and it is pretty difficult now. This is the sixth day in a row I will be working

I do know Biden overturned the constant reviews the disabled were to be subjected to go through with the end game of throwing them off SSDI. I hope more is happening behind the scenes.

I am worried that there will be an absolute shit show when I ask for FMLA. I hope to get my short-term disability for the 12 weeks, and then go on long-term disability( paid for by my employer) until I, hopefully, get SSDI. We are chronically short-staffed. This will cause a hardship on my, some nice and normal, co-workers. My boss can be very abrupt and volatile. I would consider getting an attorney if there is some issue with me , either, taking FMLA or them trying to fire me. I have saved up some money for the time I will be out. Or, because they have to, there will be angry calm. Due to being worn out for years dealing with this, I have a hard time bearing anything, and I used to be quite confident and resilient in the past. That is now not the case.

So- I am SO FRIGHTENED of asking for it again. Like, shaking thinking about it. I will be ruminating on this for the next few days. Part of me is like take a deep breath and do it. I anticipate arguments with me doing my annual evaluation. Also, doing the evaluation of my young man I supervise. I need zero contact with this job.

I have been reading the NOLO guide to getting SSDI, and I have an attorney ready to rep me when I get turned down, if I do, and am anticipating being turned down.

I took a doctor-prescribed anti-anxiety med, and am having shallow breathing in anticipation of, I think, this Tuesday coming up.

So tired of being afraid.

Asking for FMLA this coming week. Scared to death

Many of you kind people have been following my mental-health journey to get SSDI and the stress that my job is causing me. I thank you for your kind words and support that I have received in this community.

Including this bizarre aggressive incident:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100215414863

I have gone out on FMLA twice in the last 8.5 years; this will be number 3. I feel so weak sometimes. However, my anxiety is off the charts, and I also have depression. I cannot take is anymore and maintain my physical health as well as my mental health. I keep hoping Biden will reverse what the orange asshole has done to average people who need it getting SSDI- making it more difficult than ever, and it is pretty difficult now. This is the sixth day in a row I will be working

I do know Biden overturned the constant reviews the disabled were to be subjected to go through with the end game of throwing them off SSDI. I hope more is happening behind the scenes.

I am worried that there will be an absolute shit show when I ask for FMLA. I hope to get my short-term disability for the 12 weeks, and then go on long-term disability( paid for by my employer) until I, hopefully, get SSDI. We are chronically short-staffed. This will cause a hardship on my, some nice and normal, co-workers. My boss can be very abrupt and volatile. I would consider getting an attorney if there is some issue with me , either, taking FMLA or them trying to fire me. I have saved up some money for the time I will be out.Or, because they have to, there will be angry calm. Due to being worn out for years dealing with this, I have a hard time bearing anything, and I used to be quite confident and resilient in the past. That is now not the case.

So- I am SO FRIGHTENED of asking for it again. Like, shaking thinking about it. I will be ruminating on this for the next few days. Part of me is like take a deep breath and do it. I anticipate arguments with me doing my annual evaluation. Also, doing the evaluation of my young man I supervise. I need zero contact with this job.

I have been reading the NOLO guide to getting SSDI, and I have an attorney ready to rep me when I get turned down, if I do, and am anticipating being turned down.

I took a doctor-prescribed anti-anxiety med, and am having shallow breathing in anticipation of, I think, this Tuesday coming up.

Tired of being scared. Just so tired.

Thank the goddess, just filled upmy tank

my nutjob boss, whom I've referenced here before, told me I should walk far to work on a dangerous road without a sidewalk. I'm not in shape to walk that far. I bluntly told her I'm not doing that. I'm done. I'd like an EV but just cannot afford it.

Now I can drive. Done!

How you you all make grilled cheese?

I bought some Kraft Singles and white wheat bread. I usually melt butter and brown the sandwich. However, many times the bread is too browned and the cheese not melted enough

Pssst it's grilled cheese o'clock

Who is James Remar in Once Upon A Time...in Hollywood?

its driving me nuts trying to spot him. It must be a very small part.

I've loved him since The Warriors, come out to play-e-ayyyy...

I am sure a lot was cut.

My boss slapped my hand Tuesday

you, my DU family, have kindly read and commented on my posts here. Mainly, my toxic job, mental health, and future attempt to get SSDI ( please make it easier to get, Mr Biden. Disabled Americans are counting on you).


Anyway, I was helping her with some PC wires, she told me to watch a service desk, I started moving towards said desk, and she impatiently smacked my left hand. This has never happened in my 25 years of working at various places in my field.

Going up the chain of command or HR will not have a good outcome for me. I've decided to request FMLA third time, in 2.5 weeks. Let the chips fall where they may. I am applying for SSDI and have a lawyer for when I'm turned down.

For my sanity, I need to remove myself from this toxic situation.
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