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kimbutgar

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8. When my ex husband abused me the first time I was shocked

Reply to mcar (Original post)

Tue Feb 13, 2018, 01:02 AM

Feb 2018

I was not from that type of family. When it happened again I was too embarrassed to tell anyone. The final time was when I realized that he was gonna hurt me again if I didn’t leave the house at that moment. It was finally over. I suffered the embarrassment of the physical abuse. I went to my priest who told me to forgive my husband and beg his forgiveness. I basically gave up being a catholic that day and never looked back. Remarried and never looked back. No man would ever lay his hands on me again in anger.

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Rob Porter is my ex-husband. Heres what you should know about abuse. [View all] mcar Feb 2018 OP

I salute her too. Zoonart Feb 2018 #1

Zoonart! mcar Feb 2018 #2

((((((((((((mcar))))))))))))) Zoonart Feb 2018 #3

Sadly, in many cases where the woman doesn't leave, it's because they believe "it was my fault"! George II Feb 2018 #6

+1 kimbutgar Feb 2018 #9

(((((Zoonart)))))) so glad you are out of that horror. niyad Feb 2018 #11

(((((Niyad)))))) Zoonart Feb 2018 #15

So glad to hear that! You so deserve to be happy! SunSeeker Feb 2018 #19

That makes me so happy to hear. Blessed Be. niyad Feb 2018 #20

He also abused a former girlfriend. BigmanPigman Feb 2018 #4

K&R nt ProudProgressiveNow Feb 2018 #5

K&R Scurrilous Feb 2018 #7

When my ex husband abused me the first time I was shocked kimbutgar Feb 2018 #8

+1. Three strikes and they are out. Also, when religion enables abusers it is out on one Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2018 #10

so very glad you were able to leave--both the abuser and the abuse-enabling rcc. niyad Feb 2018 #12

I could have never told my Father he would have killed my ex. kimbutgar Feb 2018 #13

I can well understand why you did not tell him. my father had nothing but contempt for niyad Feb 2018 #14

My experience with the Catholic church coeur_de_lion Feb 2018 #16

Thank you for the post.... Upthevibe Feb 2018 #17

Thanks . . . coeur_de_lion Feb 2018 #18

Oh my gosh Dorian Gray Feb 2018 #22

Jesus Dorian Gray Feb 2018 #21