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malaise

(267,791 posts)
Mon Feb 19, 2018, 07:09 AM Feb 2018

I can't speak for anyone else but no 19 year old young man was moving in to our home with an AR-15 [View all]

In fact unless the 19 year old had been a close friend of my child's who we knew well, he wasn't moving in without a background check. I know it's wonderful that sympathetic parents would help a child who has just lost his mother, but that weapon would have sent off alarm bells for me -maybe it's a cultural thing.

Sorry - naivete isn't a good thing in these times.

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I wouldn't even let family or friends in with that JI7 Feb 2018 #1
Precisely malaise Feb 2018 #2
I think those who opt not to have weapons feel similar Hav Feb 2018 #3
They're lucky they weren't killed first malaise Feb 2018 #5
Exactly. Google "Ronnie DeFeo" if his name doesn't ring a bell. Nt raccoon Feb 2018 #38
The kid had a key to where his guns were...it was more than an error in judgement. If it were up to Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #11
They kept the key to the safe, but apparently he had a spare marylandblue Feb 2018 #16
Safe was located in his room and he purchased it to begin with. LisaL Feb 2018 #20
wow !!! uponit7771 Feb 2018 #30
Gun safes are EXPENSIVE! How can he afford a gun safe - but not a place to live? hexola Feb 2018 #53
The mother said he was "naive" and knew very little about normal household things. pnwmom Feb 2018 #65
They gave him the spare. They knew he had access to guns. Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #22
They claim they didn't know about the spare marylandblue Feb 2018 #28
He is 19, legally an adult. So hard to envision how they would be legally responsible for him. LisaL Feb 2018 #17
He lived with them. Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #21
Morally is one thing, legally is another. LisaL Feb 2018 #23
That is true. I woud like to see laws put in place where people like this and the stepfather of Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #46
The gun seller was charged with Danascot Feb 2018 #35
The government allowed him to possess the guns, and the kid was over 18. lostnfound Feb 2018 #31
I agree with you. Bluepinky Feb 2018 #40
Yes, I agree. mountain grammy Feb 2018 #41
They either didn't care he threatened other kids with a gun...and let him keep guns or they didn't Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #47
Yes, the reason he didnt want to remain with his mothers friend was she didnt want him to have bettyellen Feb 2018 #56
Well, presumably they themselves are not mentally disturbed. LisaL Feb 2018 #19
I think they are disturbed. It is not 'normal' to give a disturbed person access to a gun. Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #24
Strangely our country will train them, give them M16s Throck Feb 2018 #4
And then ignore them when they return with PTSD malaise Feb 2018 #6
I think we precondition them to violence. Throck Feb 2018 #7
This is a prime example.... FarPoint Feb 2018 #8
I took some heat about this, and the family sounds reasonable and intelligent...but only a gun nut Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #9
I wouldnt let my BIL/SIL camp with us again woodsprite Feb 2018 #10
Good for you! Nt raccoon Feb 2018 #39
Wtf??? lunasun Feb 2018 #54
That's the kind of gun that needs to be destroyed. hunter Feb 2018 #59
A kid in mourning for a parent in possession of a gun is a gigantic red flag no matter the enculturation. nocalflea Feb 2018 #12
"Ok, dear, here's where you can put your toothbrush, and here's where you put your AR-15." Demit Feb 2018 #13
They claim they knew almost nothing about his prior issues. LisaL Feb 2018 #18
I'd claim that if I were them, after the fact, if I were so stupid as to let a SammyWinstonJack Feb 2018 #33
Aren't they gun nuts? moondust Feb 2018 #14
I think they are exactly the same. Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #25
Naivete is a downright dangerous thing in these times. FM123 Feb 2018 #15
I read a report that they thought they had the only key to the gun locker. aikoaiko Feb 2018 #26
Well, that's just kind of...fucking irresponsible. Dave Starsky Feb 2018 #44
They let him have a key. Demsrule86 Feb 2018 #48
I thought that was fabricated "truth" The empressof all Feb 2018 #64
Typically they do come with two keys. I was just reporting what they said. aikoaiko Feb 2018 #66
I agree.. rainlillie Feb 2018 #27
Agreed, plus they are lucky to be alive. MoonRiver Feb 2018 #29
I once broke up with a guy in 1982, who was moving in with me. He had a sinkingfeeling Feb 2018 #32
When I was reading for my undergraduate degree I had a classmate who was malaise Feb 2018 #42
I am not going to blame the parents for this, they tried to help this kid. nt USALiberal Feb 2018 #34
I am not blaming the parents - just pointing out that they were not responsible adults malaise Feb 2018 #43
You really do not have enough info yet but judge all you want. DU seems to be experts on everything. USALiberal Feb 2018 #45
tell yourself what you need to. LanternWaste Feb 2018 #49
K&R stonecutter357 Feb 2018 #36
Just heard on CBS Morning News. Delmette2.0 Feb 2018 #37
No, that was to his adoptive home, and his 68 year old adoptive mother died at thanksgiving. lostnfound Feb 2018 #50
You're right. Delmette2.0 Feb 2018 #60
True, and by the time he moved in with this family he was an adult csziggy Feb 2018 #61
But................freedom. guillaumeb Feb 2018 #51
NYT says he bought a gun safe and rented a truck when he moved in with them... hexola Feb 2018 #52
He probably had money from his mother csziggy Feb 2018 #62
It's the Southern gun culture Mountain Mule Feb 2018 #55
Before they moved him in... SummerSnow Feb 2018 #57
That's all I'm saying sis malaise Feb 2018 #58
I understand they felt bad for him and wanted to help. He lived SummerSnow Feb 2018 #63
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