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In reply to the discussion: That blithering idiot called the former FLOTUS Crooked Hillary in front of the Lithuanian president. [View all]Ms. Toad
(34,055 posts)I don't think you did it thinking, "Hmmm . . . which title would be least representative of her accomplishments." But when the implications of the choice you made were pointed out to you, instead of saying, "Oops. My bad. That's not what I meant - let me fix it." you dug your heels in.
You have indicated that you chose that because it was a White House setting (or because she was the wife of a former president in the presence of a current foreign president). Are you not aware that Clinton's relationship with that foreign president was as Secretary of State, not wife of Bill? Referring to her as the wife of a president ignores, as if it was unimportant, the international, diplomatic relationship she had as Secretary of State with that very same person.
It is not your intentions that anyone is questioning - or at least I'm not questioning your intentions. Heaven knows I'm sure I say insensitive things without realizing they are insensitive - but when someone who immediately recognizes it as insensitive points it out to me, I try to respond with a little humility to figure out what generated that reaction. Sometimes I even learn from it and don't make the same insensitive mistake the next time.