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dameatball

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41. This is just my take, but.......

Sat Apr 21, 2018, 09:12 PM

Apr 2018

There is no way he is going to change. Just be yourself, if he asks. It is not your job to change him at this point. Sounds like you live in close proximity (same home?), so maybe meeting some like minded friends once or twice a week for coffee or a glass of wine or even a walk, would help. But....what do I know??? Anyway, hugs and good luck

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I need a group hug. [View all] phylny Apr 2018 OP

Hug!!! Eko Apr 2018 #1

I am so sorry, my dear phylny....... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2018 #2

We are all sending you hugs. raging moderate Apr 2018 #3

Can you agree to not talk about it? I can't talk politics with my sister because it always Kirk Lover Apr 2018 #4

Yes, he came up to get coffee and tell me he was phylny Apr 2018 #28

In this case..... Rorey Apr 2018 #5

My father died four years ago tomorrow at age 92. I know EXACTLY what you're going through. no_hypocrisy Apr 2018 #6

Dear no hypocrisy. Thats an awful story. Here is a big hug! Sampan Apr 2018 #13

Thanks. Dad's ashes are in my sister's closet. no_hypocrisy Apr 2018 #16

God that's awful. So sorry for his stinging rebuke. flying_wahini Apr 2018 #42

No, Dad was pretty much like that for decades. no_hypocrisy Apr 2018 #48

Sending a hug democrank Apr 2018 #7

My Dad was a conservative. Eko Apr 2018 #8

... Different Drummer Apr 2018 #9

HUGS to ya bluestarone Apr 2018 #10

Yes Maraya1969 Apr 2018 #11

Sad.... Heartstrings Apr 2018 #12

I will take a hug FairDemocrat Apr 2018 #14

That sounds very stressful, you have a lot of courage Rhiannon12866 Apr 2018 #19

Hug right back at ya! nt phylny Apr 2018 #26

Welcome to DU irisblue Apr 2018 #35

So sorry. Have a big hug Sampan Apr 2018 #15

My father voted for Obama twice and he is white and 90 years old and living FairDemocrat Apr 2018 #17

Welcome to DU grantcart Apr 2018 #60

So sorry, believe me, I know how it feels. smirkymonkey Apr 2018 #18

Here's your hug. Ohiogal Apr 2018 #20

You got it! raven mad Apr 2018 #21

Here ya go trof Apr 2018 #22

... mcar Apr 2018 #23

I once had a conservative relative ask for posters of various rap artists for his b-day Tarc Apr 2018 #24

Is it racism? ConnorMarc Apr 2018 #63

Yes, it was racism Tarc Apr 2018 #70

Sympathies, and hugs. I have some relatives like that. highplainsdem Apr 2018 #25

Other family of mine has gone trumping, Ilsa Apr 2018 #27

Are you suggesting they suddenly snapped and changed? ConnorMarc Apr 2018 #64

It's been gradual, but there is no shame, now. Ilsa Apr 2018 #72

Thanks to all for caring! nt phylny Apr 2018 #29

... RKP5637 Apr 2018 #30

Here ya go, phylny Cha Apr 2018 #31

Hugs. Love him as the father who raised you and helped you become the person you are... Hekate Apr 2018 #32

Thanks so much, nt phylny Apr 2018 #33

On it irisblue Apr 2018 #34

Just sit back and watch. roamer65 Apr 2018 #36

I cannot imagine what you're going through. PoindexterOglethorpe Apr 2018 #37

So sorry... CaptainTruth Apr 2018 #38

Here you go! kairos12 Apr 2018 #39

Try to find commonality with your dad. He is 90 years old. Talk about the good old days, etc secondwind Apr 2018 #40

Great advice. Thank you! nt phylny Apr 2018 #44

This is just my take, but....... dameatball Apr 2018 #41

Thanks for your kindness. phylny Apr 2018 #43

Sadly, it is his right to be wrong. The best thing you can do is love him and be your own person dameatball Apr 2018 #45

My father is a Trumper, too. I feel your pain. Honeycombe8 Apr 2018 #46

How did your dad, and others like him, get this way? ConnorMarc Apr 2018 #65

My mother in law is the same way.I won't even get anywhere near my father in law ashling Apr 2018 #47

I'll speak for my partner's father - WW-II vet, faux watcher, staunchly anti-repuglican erronis Apr 2018 #49

What does HE say he likes the entity called FOX NEWS? ConnorMarc Apr 2018 #67

Sadly he is no longer around to answer questions. He was in NY. erronis Apr 2018 #69

Squeeze. Blue_true Apr 2018 #50

It makes sense that you're frustrated. yewberry Apr 2018 #51

I'm sorry to hear it, phyl. BobTheSubgenius Apr 2018 #52

I cant respond to everyone individually, but read phylny Apr 2018 #53

Sorry phylny gademocrat7 Apr 2018 #54

Youre a good son. tavernier Apr 2018 #55

Daughter phylny Apr 2018 #57

Ok. I had the same response years ago. tavernier Apr 2018 #58

Its quite okay. phylny Apr 2018 #59

One America News makes Fox news look like an angel SummerSnow Apr 2018 #56

Incoming! sprinkleeninow Apr 2018 #61

K&R uponit7771 Apr 2018 #62

... Aristus Apr 2018 #66

So many of us are dealing with right wing family members coeur_de_lion Apr 2018 #68

My in-laws watch that channel- fucking nuts. Adrahil Apr 2018 #71