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Sun May 13, 2018, 05:42 AM May 2018

White Fragility Digest #1: 13 May 2018 [View all]

Store Manager Stands Outside of Black Woman’s Dressing Room and Reads Theft Policies

Two Black women confronted a “Fuego” store manager in Tacoma, WA, who tried to throw the ladies out of the store after claims of being racially profiled.

One of the women entered the dressing room to try on a dress when the store manager read aloud the store procedures outside of her dressing room. Both women then asked the manager what her purpose was for doing so and the employee claimed that staff members discussed theft “all the time.”

The manager then called authorities and tried to shoo the women away with scornful hand gestures. However, the girls stood their ground and made it clear they didn’t feel comfortable leaving the store just to be tackled by security. They wanted to wait for authorities to arrive and explain their side of events.

The victim who goes by Simone Intrepid Gamble posted the incident on her Facebook and wrote, “So this just happened. I was in the dressing room and while in there the manager started talking about the procedures for theft. Mind you she was not on the floor when we first arrived to the store. I select dresses then tried them on. I was going to PURCHASE one of the dresses until I heard her speaking directly in front of my dressing room about theft procedures. I then got dressed and went to tell her I wanted to buy one of the dresses and confronted her about her implicit conversation right outside the curtain. She kicked us out of the store when I tried asking her why and she then said all of this.”


"White people in North America live in a social environment that protects and insulates them from race-based stress. This insulated environment of racial protection builds white expectations for racial comfort while at the same time lowering the ability to tolerate racial stress, leading to what I refer to as White Fragility. White Fragility is a state in which even a minimum amount of racial stress becomes intolerable, triggering a range of defensive moves. These moves include the outward display of emotions such as anger, fear, and guilt, and behaviors such as argumentation, silence, and leaving the stress-inducing situation. These behaviors, in turn, function to reinstate white racial equilibrium."

Robin DiAngelo, Ph.D
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A White North Carolina High School Student Says BLM Mural Is Offensive -- So He Destroyed It MrScorpio May 2018 #1
"respect for officers because their job is not easy." BumRushDaShow May 2018 #4
student activist Emma Gonzalez retweeted steventh May 2018 #22
There's something happening here... kentuck May 2018 #2
Watch Nashville, Tenn., Mayoral Candidate Tell Roomful of Black Voters Racial Profiling Is 'Absolute MrScorpio May 2018 #3
racists hate grow and grows heaven05 May 2018 #5
People, I just want to say, you know, can we all get along? oberliner May 2018 #6
And what do you think would it take to do just that? MrScorpio May 2018 #7
Build bridges oberliner May 2018 #8
And what would these bridges look like? MrScorpio May 2018 #10
Love trumps hate oberliner May 2018 #12
Ok, and how would that apply to the three separate incidents that I posted? MrScorpio May 2018 #15
Reflect on "love trumps hate" and try to apply it to those incidents yourself oberliner May 2018 #16
Well, let's see here... MrScorpio May 2018 #20
So... what would be your suggestion? Tipperary May 2018 #25
My suggestion is that the shop-owner fire that clerk. MineralMan May 2018 #34
My suggestion? OK... MrScorpio May 2018 #42
IOW, Bring a cheesy cliched slogan to a gunfight. Easy to say when you're not tblue37 May 2018 #29
So, the victim is supposed to show love for the oppressor? MineralMan May 2018 #33
Check out last weekend's W. Kamau Bell episode of United Shades of America Blue_Adept May 2018 #35
Check this out. I've provided a link, for your convenience, below: MineralMan May 2018 #36
It's a CNN show Blue_Adept May 2018 #37
I watch almost no television programming at all. MineralMan May 2018 #38
Well fuck me with a chainsaw Blue_Adept May 2018 #40
Among the Inept, Ignorance Is Bliss meathead May 2018 #43
Here's the full episode Blue_Adept May 2018 #39
Vocal allies ProudLib72 May 2018 #31
What were the women doing not to get along? So in the name of getting along get harassed ? lunasun May 2018 #13
Nothing oberliner May 2018 #14
Here's what you are missing. Solomon May 2018 #24
What did the black women do to not get along ? JI7 May 2018 #26
Yes, we should get along by not calling the police on people of color over nothing all the time gollygee May 2018 #41
This behavior is out of control. Lonestarblue May 2018 #9
Not the least bit unbelievable mountain grammy May 2018 #19
K&R lunasun May 2018 #11
From the Daily Beast: When Calling 911 Makes the Emergency salin May 2018 #17
I should point out some context here... MrScorpio May 2018 #21
Important context. salin May 2018 #23
Since I was replying to someone else's post, you probably won't see my post #29 above, so I am tblue37 May 2018 #30
It's hard to legally regulate the behavior of people... malthaussen May 2018 #18
K&R ismnotwasm May 2018 #27
It Would be Helpful to Put Out this Store's Name on Social Media dlk May 2018 #28
It's literally in the first sentence of the article oberliner May 2018 #32
I know one of these young women Generic Other Jun 2018 #44
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