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EffieBlack

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Thu May 17, 2018, 01:11 PM
May 2018

You seem to be very in-tune and very "woke". Fortunately, you haven't witnessed the kind of displays that have been posted recently, but other, more subtle displays of discrimination, bias and micro-aggressions occur constantly, but they aren't as obvious and they are usually couched in ways that allow for denial and gaslighting of anyone who points them out. But I have found that it's much, much harder to to duck behind excuses when other white people call them out in a "I see what you did there and it's not cool at all" way.

I would urge you to become familiar with those, if you're not already, and be willing to challenge them when you see them.

And don't downplay the being extra friendly approach or assume that it means you're trying too hard. I think it's really important to do that - as long as you're not being patronizing, it's awesome.

All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good people to do nothing. dalton99a May 2018 #1
+1 gollygee May 2018 #63
Edmund Blake mgardener May 2018 #65
Edmund Burke Duppers May 2018 #88
+another! jimlup May 2018 #123
. underpants May 2018 #2
+++ The Polack MSgt May 2018 #5
+1 JustAnotherGen May 2018 #14
and another one NatBurner May 2018 #19
I'd like to add, if nothing else, whip out your phone and video the incident... brush May 2018 #18
:-) EffieBlack May 2018 #26
"Thoughts and prayors" makes an excellent analogy Tom Rinaldo May 2018 #3
The song Be Political, Not Polite is germane here dickthegrouch May 2018 #100
Common sense effieblack.. thank you - masterful prose.. asiliveandbreathe May 2018 #4
K&R ehrnst May 2018 #6
K&R ismnotwasm May 2018 #7
I have nothing substantive to add...except to K&R....figuratively standing by your sentiments Moostache May 2018 #8
K&R mcar May 2018 #9
Kick and Rec. The Polack MSgt May 2018 #10
Thank you for this...because I've struggled with it. CincyDem May 2018 #11
Agreed and Affirmed luc mont May 2018 #12
Kick and JustAnotherGen May 2018 #13
They have decided to post as a standalone. The Polack MSgt May 2018 #15
Whitesplaining on steroids EffieBlack May 2018 #17
And when that one didn't work so well.... started yet another one. salin May 2018 #27
I particularly enjoyed the "don't do anything unless they ask you." EffieBlack May 2018 #32
Wow - that excerpt - Captures the grotesque absurdity so well. salin May 2018 #52
Those alternative universe OPs don't seem to working out to well EffieBlack May 2018 #73
Almost like folks are a bit fed up with the "Uh - ya, maybe, BUT..." threads. salin May 2018 #74
And that was so transparent and ridiculous EffieBlack May 2018 #75
Kickage MrScorpio May 2018 #16
There's a switch many white people need to flick wonkwest May 2018 #20
This is absolutely brilliant. THANK you! EffieBlack May 2018 #22
Thanks! One really salient point I completely forgot to mention wonkwest May 2018 #38
This is such a great point EffieBlack May 2018 #41
That is an outstanding point... The Polack MSgt May 2018 #44
Hmm. I wonder if Melania's joke of an "anti-bullying" campaign actually has a purpose then: flibbitygiblets May 2018 #69
We wish they were that clever wonkwest May 2018 #85
I know exactly what you mean about that visceral loathing. That's what feels so different pnwmom May 2018 #97
Right? wonkwest May 2018 #99
I think another way of viewing the difference pnwmom May 2018 #109
You and I are 100% in accord wonkwest May 2018 #111
I should have said this before . . . pnwmom May 2018 #112
Thank you for the welcome! wonkwest May 2018 #115
Of course it's okay. Lurking is fine but speaking up is even better. pnwmom May 2018 #117
I don't think it's half the country. Not now. PatrickforO May 2018 #126
I had to read it three times JustAnotherGen May 2018 #28
Thank you so much wonkwest May 2018 #86
Stand up Betsy Ross May 2018 #21
Thank you again Effie for an excellent post. geardaddy May 2018 #23
Ah, but Haggis for Breakfast May 2018 #92
Diolch! geardaddy May 2018 #128
Fy mhleser Haggis for Breakfast May 2018 #135
Mae'n gwych dy fod ti'n defnyddio'r treigladau yn cywir! geardaddy May 2018 #137
Helo i chi, Geardaddy Haggis for Breakfast May 2018 #138
I would say something Zing Zing Zingbah May 2018 #24
K&R brer cat May 2018 #25
K & R pazzyanne May 2018 #29
Great post salin May 2018 #30
Thank you for your continued excellence and guidance. My first thought after looking at Eliot Rosewater May 2018 #31
I finally had enough SCVDem May 2018 #33
Since Trump, I had to move my membership The Polack MSgt May 2018 #51
I was in the American Legion SCVDem May 2018 #83
So it's like Rosetta Stone... tonedevil May 2018 #71
The most important word? SCVDem May 2018 #80
Bad hearing means... tonedevil May 2018 #82
K&R ck4829 May 2018 #34
K&R... spanone May 2018 #35
If you see something racist, document it Gothmog May 2018 #36
I now carry an old cell phone that has a (VERY) limitee video record capability. niyad May 2018 #46
Do what you can Gothmog May 2018 #144
I never saw that statue before, that's great. Pee Wee Reese's support was a HUGE factor.... George II May 2018 #37
You're right - that made a huge difference EffieBlack May 2018 #40
He did it during batting practice when the crowd was heckling Robinson incessantly.... George II May 2018 #47
Yup. EffieBlack May 2018 #53
A little bit off the subject (sorry), but when I was very young my father took me..... George II May 2018 #58
This seems like it ought to be easy. MontanaMama May 2018 #39
This gave me goosebumps. Thank you so much for telling this story EffieBlack May 2018 #45
Damn, that was a powerful story. Thanks for sharing. But mostly thanks for your bravery. flibbitygiblets May 2018 #50
I'm so sorry this happened to you. EffieBlack May 2018 #55
I am so sorry. MontanaMama May 2018 #56
Thank you. And apologies for hijacking this post with my story. flibbitygiblets May 2018 #67
Someone's cutting onions MariaCSR May 2018 #87
I'm not crying. YOU'RE crying! EffieBlack May 2018 #102
On March 13, 1964 Haggis for Breakfast May 2018 #94
It boggles my mind that any decent human being would NOT say something flibbitygiblets May 2018 #42
One suggestion EffieBlack May 2018 #49
Thank you so much Effie! Very helpful comments and suggestions--much appreciated. flibbitygiblets May 2018 #66
I cannot imagine NOT saying, NOT doing, something if I see that kind of hatred . niyad May 2018 #43
Beautifully done. Thanks for sharing. mahannah May 2018 #48
K&R!! Docreed2003 May 2018 #54
You damn skippy I'm gonna support in whatever way that is needed. Whether that is just standing Kirk Lover May 2018 #57
White guy here, and I have such terrible rage attached to this issue. byronius May 2018 #59
And not just racial minorities either. Oneironaut May 2018 #60
K&R PunkinPi May 2018 #61
Just, wow. sheshe2 May 2018 #62
K&R gollygee May 2018 #64
I've actually never seen an instance of outright racism in person coeur_de_lion May 2018 #68
When I was growing up in Texas, we had an AA nanny. MoonRiver May 2018 #70
Kicking this Hekate May 2018 #72
While it seems they're in a distinct minority EffieBlack May 2018 #76
This part... ProudLib72 May 2018 #91
Thanks for this cally May 2018 #125
I rec'd without comment. Iggo May 2018 #77
Yes -- and the other thing to do is get out our cells and start recording. We can do both. pnwmom May 2018 #78
Exactly EffieBlack May 2018 #79
BEAUTIFUL! Thank you, Effie! This should be an article! MariaCSR May 2018 #81
Big K & R BumRushDaShow May 2018 #84
I love this. Thank you, EffieBlack, and babylonsister May 2018 #89
I guarantee you... Rainngirl May 2018 #90
Best thread I've read on DU in a long time. Enthusiastic K&R. nt. druidity33 May 2018 #93
Thank you for that. I've always opened my big mouth when I witness something wrong. BlancheSplanchnik May 2018 #95
Society is what we make it gollygee May 2018 #96
Excellent post, Effie Empowerer May 2018 #98
Another great post MaryMagdaline May 2018 #101
I have two things to say on this: lovemydogs May 2018 #103
That's why I said that no one is expecting them to put themselves in danger EffieBlack May 2018 #105
K&R. emulatorloo May 2018 #104
Thanks for lumping a bunch of us together because of our uncontrolled skin pigmentation. DemoHack May 2018 #106
You've completely missed the point. EffieBlack May 2018 #108
No I get it. DemoHack May 2018 #113
This message was self-deleted by its author Empowerer May 2018 #114
I disagree with you. DemoHack May 2018 #127
You don't get it. The voices of PoC aren't HEARD in the same way that white people's are. pnwmom May 2018 #110
Their voices are certainly heard here.. whathehell May 2018 #131
That doesn't always appear to be the case, and some of the responses to this thread pnwmom May 2018 #133
Nothing is "always the case" whathehell May 2018 #134
This message was self-deleted by its author whathehell May 2018 #130
Very well said. Brava! secondwind May 2018 #107
I am not willing to stop sipping my latte for anything Devil Child May 2018 #116
Lol.. whathehell May 2018 #132
Post removed Post removed May 2018 #118
3-2-1 EffieBlack May 2018 #119
Its also awesome to be in your company on DU.... marble falls May 2018 #122
Dear Black Person: This White Person always Does That. whathehell May 2018 #120
Thanks for a great post, EffieBlack. You and others on DU.... KY_EnviroGuy May 2018 #121
Yes! Nitram May 2018 #124
Kick EffieBlack May 2018 #129
This is a Wonderful essay, EffieBlack! calimary May 2018 #136
excellent post heaven05 May 2018 #139
Wysplainers gonna wysplain EffieBlack May 2018 #141
heh, heh heaven05 May 2018 #143
bookmarked/k&r heaven05 May 2018 #140
Thanks! EffieBlack May 2018 #142
The ACLU trains lawyers to be observers at events Gothmog May 2018 #145
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