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FakeNoose

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12. Taking your parent's keys away is the hardest thing a child has to do

Sun Sep 9, 2018, 03:55 PM

Sep 2018

I get it, we went through the same thing in my family. And it was both parents - at different times.

The children in the family need to all agree to take the step together, and it should happen like an intervention. You need to confront the parent as a group and say that it's not safe for you to drive any more, and we're not allowing it. If one child doesn't agree with the others, the parent will sneak behind all the others and take advantage.

I'm surprised that the surgeon's office let your father drive home, it sounds like gross negligence. I don't believe they could get away with it today, so it must have happened several years ago. Your father may have been suffering from impaired judgment in the form of mild dementia (Alzheimer's) that was never diagnosed.

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Generally, Trump reminds me of my father when he was 92. [View all] no_hypocrisy Sep 2018 OP

He reminds me of my nephew when he was 4. cos dem Sep 2018 #1

+1 dalton99a Sep 2018 #3

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad leftieNanner Sep 2018 #2

Same here. If no driver, I would be forced to live in the surgery center until I found one. n/t Tess49 Sep 2018 #17

My Dad was like that, though towards the end, he finally accepted it MiniMe Sep 2018 #4

I wondered about that, too Ohiogal Sep 2018 #5

That is happening with my oldest brother. Blue_true Sep 2018 #9

He's Cartman in real life Runningdawg Sep 2018 #6

My mom with dementia. ginnyinWI Sep 2018 #7

You do know you just described Trump? True Blue American Sep 2018 #20

Yes ginnyinWI Sep 2018 #26

Yes, Narcisstic True Blue American Sep 2018 #27

Your dad sounds like an onery, tough dude who was prone to bad decisions. Blue_true Sep 2018 #8

Sounds like my father mommymarine2003 Sep 2018 #10

I sincerely hope True Blue American Sep 2018 #21

My Grandpa was a lot sharper at 89 than fornicate face ever was. 47of74 Sep 2018 #11

Taking your parent's keys away is the hardest thing a child has to do FakeNoose Sep 2018 #12

Oh, dear lord. PoindexterOglethorpe Sep 2018 #13

Sorry about yr Dad Marthe48 Sep 2018 #14

Sorry about your dad. They sneak out sometimes, onecent Sep 2018 #15

I can't believe the hospital let him drive. BigmanPigman Sep 2018 #16

Should be the rule all over True Blue American Sep 2018 #28

Good analogy. However: maddiemom Sep 2018 #18

Jesus, I wish it WEREN'T true. I still feel the outrage 4-1/2 years later. no_hypocrisy Sep 2018 #19

your specific example of needing others to help control or stop him may be similar but i assume your JI7 Sep 2018 #22

Actually my father was domineering, controlling, and authoritarian. no_hypocrisy Sep 2018 #23

oh, well, that's totally different than i thought JI7 Sep 2018 #24

Trump actually invokes PTSD with me. no_hypocrisy Sep 2018 #25

No, your father does not True Blue American Sep 2018 #31

It is hard to get True Blue American Sep 2018 #29

The blessing is that he didn't kill anyone else. roody Sep 2018 #30

Im so sorry about your father.. my dad is still alive at 93 and samnsara Sep 2018 #32