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The Velveteen Ocelot

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3. Wow, I must have led a sheltered life.

Wed Sep 26, 2018, 12:29 PM

Sep 2018

I was talking about this very thing with some friends yesterday, and we found that none of us had ever attended or even heard of parties like that. We'd all been in college in the late '60s or early '70s, and while there was certainly plenty of drinking, pot-smoking and making out, none of us encountered gang rape - nothing worse than some crude passes or ass-grabbing, which was easily dealt with - or drugged punch or any of that other really debauched behavior. We drank til we puked sometimes but that was about it. Maybe those other things happened sometimes but we never witnessed them. But maybe the difference was that we had all either attended state universities or liberal arts colleges that didn't have fraternities. And if there were many students at our schools who had attended elite private prep schools we didn't know them. I guess that's just a different culture.

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I attended a private university during the late 70s - early 80s [View all] yardwork Sep 2018 OP

You make me wonder if we were classmates. Squinch Sep 2018 #1

All too familiar for me. Solly Mack Sep 2018 #2

Wow, I must have led a sheltered life. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #3

I never encountered parties like this, either. Late 70s, early 80s. LisaM Sep 2018 #18

Reading through the responses on this thread, it appears that fraternities are the problem. yardwork Sep 2018 #20

Yes, I think the frat "culture," especially where the members were entitled rich brats The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #23

I went to college in the mid-80s. Dulcinea Sep 2018 #35

Ditto lapfog_1 Sep 2018 #4

That describes the University of Georgia in the 1980s to a tee. GoCubsGo Sep 2018 #14

The entire culture in the 1980s was sick. Reagan got elected by Young Republicans. yardwork Sep 2018 #21

Tritto... MountCleaners Sep 2018 #26

Holy cow, just saw this. LuckyCharms Sep 2018 #5

Where's your thread or post? I'd love to read it. yardwork Sep 2018 #22

Here you go: LuckyCharms Sep 2018 #36

It has been Wellstone ruled Sep 2018 #6

Thanks for this, yardwork. This described behavior does not sound unfamiliar. R B Garr Sep 2018 #7

Yes, Facebook. The name says it all. yardwork Sep 2018 #24

I remember the pig book! janterry Sep 2018 #30

This male behavior existed at small liberal arts college campuses.. Guilded Lilly Sep 2018 #8

I don't know Kavanaugh but I know Kavanaugh C_U_L8R Sep 2018 #9

The jargon, yes! Entitled twits. yardwork Sep 2018 #25

That wasn't a "private university" exclusive BumRushDaShow Sep 2018 #10

as Micheal Moore said to Chris Hayes last night "We all know these guys" Judging from the handful mulsh Sep 2018 #11

Recommended. H2O Man Sep 2018 #12

Frats today Johnny2X2X Sep 2018 #13

Yes, the women who were targeted and victimized were blamed. yardwork Sep 2018 #38

And the frat boy douchebags are the ones currently running the country. Initech Sep 2018 #15

Thank you for all your responses. yardwork Sep 2018 #16

Check. zentrum Sep 2018 #17

I guess I was lucky to have gone to a school where this sort of partying wasn't common, The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #19

I think the decade between the 60s and the late 70s/early 80s shanny Sep 2018 #33

Could be. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #34

GOP has supported rape from day one. Women who disobey will be raped or killed Eliot Rosewater Sep 2018 #27

I picked a women's college in the early '80s torius Sep 2018 #28

Me too. Rutgers and NYU at age 14-16. By the time I was in college I could afford booze and bettyellen Sep 2018 #29

The coverage and discussions about this have impacted me personally... Moostache Sep 2018 #31

I went to a public university in the mid to late 1970's customerserviceguy Sep 2018 #32

This message was self-deleted by its author DeminPennswoods Sep 2018 #37

I graduated from a private university in 1983 AngryOldDem Sep 2018 #39

I remember a party that a good friend of mine had, at her house (she was ... SWBTATTReg Sep 2018 #40