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The Velveteen Ocelot

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19. I guess I was lucky to have gone to a school where this sort of partying wasn't common,

Wed Sep 26, 2018, 05:02 PM

Sep 2018

although there was plenty of garden-variety beer drinking and pot smoking. I would have been a prime target for one of those frat party gang rapes because I was kind of nerdy and shy, and I wanted to be popular and accepted but didn't know how to go about it. I'd have been the girl who was flattered and pleased to have been invited to a party where the cool kids were, and I'd have drunk the spiked punch because I'd have been too clueless to see what was going on until it was too late. I'd have been fresh meat. And I probably never would have reported it to anyone, either.

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I attended a private university during the late 70s - early 80s [View all] yardwork Sep 2018 OP

You make me wonder if we were classmates. Squinch Sep 2018 #1

All too familiar for me. Solly Mack Sep 2018 #2

Wow, I must have led a sheltered life. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #3

I never encountered parties like this, either. Late 70s, early 80s. LisaM Sep 2018 #18

Reading through the responses on this thread, it appears that fraternities are the problem. yardwork Sep 2018 #20

Yes, I think the frat "culture," especially where the members were entitled rich brats The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #23

I went to college in the mid-80s. Dulcinea Sep 2018 #35

Ditto lapfog_1 Sep 2018 #4

That describes the University of Georgia in the 1980s to a tee. GoCubsGo Sep 2018 #14

The entire culture in the 1980s was sick. Reagan got elected by Young Republicans. yardwork Sep 2018 #21

Tritto... MountCleaners Sep 2018 #26

Holy cow, just saw this. LuckyCharms Sep 2018 #5

Where's your thread or post? I'd love to read it. yardwork Sep 2018 #22

Here you go: LuckyCharms Sep 2018 #36

It has been Wellstone ruled Sep 2018 #6

Thanks for this, yardwork. This described behavior does not sound unfamiliar. R B Garr Sep 2018 #7

Yes, Facebook. The name says it all. yardwork Sep 2018 #24

I remember the pig book! janterry Sep 2018 #30

This male behavior existed at small liberal arts college campuses.. Guilded Lilly Sep 2018 #8

I don't know Kavanaugh but I know Kavanaugh C_U_L8R Sep 2018 #9

The jargon, yes! Entitled twits. yardwork Sep 2018 #25

That wasn't a "private university" exclusive BumRushDaShow Sep 2018 #10

as Micheal Moore said to Chris Hayes last night "We all know these guys" Judging from the handful mulsh Sep 2018 #11

Recommended. H2O Man Sep 2018 #12

Frats today Johnny2X2X Sep 2018 #13

Yes, the women who were targeted and victimized were blamed. yardwork Sep 2018 #38

And the frat boy douchebags are the ones currently running the country. Initech Sep 2018 #15

Thank you for all your responses. yardwork Sep 2018 #16

Check. zentrum Sep 2018 #17

I guess I was lucky to have gone to a school where this sort of partying wasn't common, The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #19

I think the decade between the 60s and the late 70s/early 80s shanny Sep 2018 #33

Could be. The Velveteen Ocelot Sep 2018 #34

GOP has supported rape from day one. Women who disobey will be raped or killed Eliot Rosewater Sep 2018 #27

I picked a women's college in the early '80s torius Sep 2018 #28

Me too. Rutgers and NYU at age 14-16. By the time I was in college I could afford booze and bettyellen Sep 2018 #29

The coverage and discussions about this have impacted me personally... Moostache Sep 2018 #31

I went to a public university in the mid to late 1970's customerserviceguy Sep 2018 #32

This message was self-deleted by its author DeminPennswoods Sep 2018 #37

I graduated from a private university in 1983 AngryOldDem Sep 2018 #39

I remember a party that a good friend of mine had, at her house (she was ... SWBTATTReg Sep 2018 #40