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samplegirl

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Thu Nov 15, 2018, 02:06 PM Nov 2018

Ok my blood is boiling today!!! [View all]

Last edited Thu Nov 15, 2018, 02:50 PM - Edit history (2)

I got a very unpleasant phone call today from my brother who was a former union rep. Now retired from his steel company sold off to Bain capital and voted for Trump. We have been at each other’s throats since his vote for trump. I post things to Facebook and I use both my maiden name and married name on it. My brother is retired and has enough money to live comfortable. Somewhere around 4,000.00’a month income not counting his bank accounts and stocks and such!

Today he asked me to not use my maiden name on Facebook as people ask him about my posts. He goes to Florida all winter his income allows him the pleasure to leave the snow! I went crazy and told him I’m not dropping my maiden name...as I’m proud of being democrat, my posts, and that my mother and father would be proud of me for defending what they taught and believed in. I wonder what his union brothers would think of him? He hates all my posts...and is embarrassed of me using his last name! I told him he’ll no I won’t drop my maiden name or my core beliefs that he somehow forgot!
I can’t help it that his friends are Republicans!

I lost my job, my husband lost his job and we both had to take lower paying jobs and my husband is still paying on a student loan in order to have his mediocre job for way less pay. We lost almost all of our 401k during the Bush years as we were unable to roll ours over as he did during that time. We are both 61 years old and struggle with arthritis because neither of us ever had easy jobs. He on the other hand sat in a crane all day with a good union job. My husband needs knee replacements in both knees and and is still in the weather all day on his feet but this time works for the state a union job just way less pay as he’s only been at it 6 years. I’m mopping floors and cleaning government subsidized housing and the mop weighs more than me!

Hell no Im not going to drop my my maiden name because I embarass his trump supporting umbrella drinking buddies! I hate trump and everything the Republican Party stands for and my Dad taught me from a young age about my vote! Part of him lives on from me!!! My brother is a widower and he can’t live long enough to spend all his money. Maybe he finds delight in watching us struggle. We have never been without work but once in our lives. I was out of work at age20 when I nearly lost my life do to Guillain Barre and collect SS disability for a year or two afterward. So I’ve never really been pain free! We have 5 1/2 more years to go before we can retire.

We have a nice home and much to be thankful for but sadly I can’t have him at my table ever again! Thanksgiving will never be the same!! But asking me to drop my maiden name was truly the last straw! He can go to Flordia in December and stay there with his trumper friends live at his sons house where he fits in.... but for now he lives in Ohio just like me and he’s going to have to deal with the thorn in his side which happens to be his baby sister who is 9 years younger than him and a whole lot smarter! He can’t seem to figure out he’s in the minority!

My parents are turning in ther graves! His last comment was he’s surprised my husband puts up with this. All the money in the world can’t replace morals. He sucks on all counts! Thanks for letting me vent! Can’t take the Blue out of this Ohio girl! Swanson makes a good turkey dinner!

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Ok my blood is boiling today!!! [View all] samplegirl Nov 2018 OP
so sorry MFM008 Nov 2018 #1
We can't talk it alway ends up this way! samplegirl Nov 2018 #9
i am so sorry girlfriend. i feel for you, my story is very similar. trueblue2007 Nov 2018 #72
I am always sad to read stories like this. madaboutharry Nov 2018 #2
My parents were both staunch democrats! samplegirl Nov 2018 #10
Hugs to you samplegirl. madaboutharry Nov 2018 #76
well, there WAS a time when families were split. Some chose the Union. Others, the Confederacy. Grasswire2 Nov 2018 #96
Sorry about your brother gratuitous Nov 2018 #3
Tell him to change HIS name to Trump. guillaumeb Nov 2018 #4
Beat me to it!! 😉 LakeArenal Nov 2018 #26
It that I've got mine samplegirl Nov 2018 #68
Sad if true. guillaumeb Nov 2018 #74
Like that idea. About him changing his name. LiberalFighter Nov 2018 #90
Stay your course and use whatever name you want. democratisphere Nov 2018 #5
I think I'm to that point but a life long fellow D.U.er and personsal friend is begging me not to as samplegirl Nov 2018 #11
I have nothing to do with my drumpf loving brother and life democratisphere Nov 2018 #12
I tried for years to wait for things to change with my RW evangelical sister. pazzyanne Nov 2018 #54
So glad you held your ground and head high and your health improved! MLAA Nov 2018 #62
You don't have speak to him. And use words. LiberalFighter Nov 2018 #92
I'm sorry blue cat Nov 2018 #6
Could there be a much bigger socialist than a union rep? I bet he doesn't like hearing that. brewens Nov 2018 #7
He hated Obama samplegirl Nov 2018 #13
It's a wonder some family will talk to me. I know they saw one exchange I had on FB. brewens Nov 2018 #15
I'm very sorry, samplegirl. Stand your ground, though as your own self-respect is more hlthe2b Nov 2018 #8
Hi samplegirl, Ohiogal Nov 2018 #14
Thanks Ohiogal samplegirl Nov 2018 #20
Almost no one can push our buttons like our siblings. Solly Mack Nov 2018 #16
Thanks Solly samplegirl Nov 2018 #46
Thankfully my sister is on the same page as me, but my mother...85...so sad onlyadream Nov 2018 #17
Simple solution ..ask him to change his last name. Le Gaucher Nov 2018 #18
I refuse to change my name samplegirl Nov 2018 #21
My thought also - seems like the brother is the one on the outs with thegenersl rurallib Nov 2018 #23
excellent reason to not do facebook grantcart Nov 2018 #19
Well you can only imagine🙄 samplegirl Nov 2018 #24
Don't ever change anything about yourself, your name, anything. It's you, period. And if ... SWBTATTReg Nov 2018 #22
Thank you samplegirl Nov 2018 #28
umbrella drinking buddies Farmer-Rick Nov 2018 #25
He's a pathetic rich samplegirl Nov 2018 #30
Is it possible to babylonsister Nov 2018 #27
I'm not blocking him samplegirl Nov 2018 #31
Sorry for you. bluestarone Nov 2018 #29
His wife was the total oppisite. samplegirl Nov 2018 #34
She's SMART!! bluestarone Nov 2018 #39
Me me me!!! samplegirl Nov 2018 #106
Best advice i saw here was tiredtoo Nov 2018 #32
Yes I think that was the best advice samplegirl Nov 2018 #36
You have a right to your name, your life and your truth n/t TexasBushwhacker Nov 2018 #33
So sorry! Jrsygrl96 Nov 2018 #35
We were all brought up devout Catholics samplegirl Nov 2018 #42
Huh? it's your name too! Did he ever think you may be the one embarrassed sharing it with him ? lunasun Nov 2018 #37
I think I will!!! samplegirl Nov 2018 #43
I avoid talking to both of my brothers Bettie Nov 2018 #38
I'm sorry, Samplegirl Niagara Nov 2018 #40
Toxic is putting it mildly samplegirl Nov 2018 #44
Sorry to hear this . . . however . . . Roadside Attraction Nov 2018 #41
Wow! samplegirl Nov 2018 #45
He's lying to you. pamela Nov 2018 #47
He don't like it that people ask him samplegirl Nov 2018 #64
Your brother has no right to ask you to change your name. Jim__ Nov 2018 #48
One thing you can count on is positive samplegirl Nov 2018 #50
Only a deeply sexist jackass would try to tell a woman what name she can use or sputter Maru Kitteh Nov 2018 #49
He is a sexist but that is the least of samplegirl Nov 2018 #51
Family is way overrated. roody Nov 2018 #52
I hope you post this on Facebook so he can read it. SleeplessinSoCal Nov 2018 #53
He was way out of line. littlemissmartypants Nov 2018 #55
He might be able to hurt me even samplegirl Nov 2018 #73
"Piss off" was the only acceptable response to that clod Tarc Nov 2018 #56
Eloquently stated Sherman A1 Nov 2018 #59
He can't ever tell me what to do samplegirl Nov 2018 #65
Sorry. Duppers Nov 2018 #57
Be proud! vishnura Nov 2018 #58
You go samplegirl! Don't take any crap from him or any republican! MLAA Nov 2018 #60
You won girl. You are not dropping your middle name but don't not Laura PourMeADrink Nov 2018 #61
That may work for some people but don't discount the need for some people to part ways r/o BlueInRedHell Nov 2018 #63
Your right. samplegirl Nov 2018 #66
Good on you AND, you were much nicer than I would have been. nt Ferrets are Cool Nov 2018 #67
Probably so samplegirl Nov 2018 #70
That and a multitude of other things. Ferrets are Cool Nov 2018 #95
Couple of comments... jmbar2 Nov 2018 #69
I won't be eating Swanson samplegirl Nov 2018 #71
I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this shanti Nov 2018 #75
Thank you samplegirl Nov 2018 #80
Why are his Republican buds seeing your posts to begin with? Zing Zing Zingbah Nov 2018 #77
I'm not sure he's telling the absolute truth. samplegirl Nov 2018 #82
You make me happy my family is dead. LOL. Vinca Nov 2018 #78
I know your right. samplegirl Nov 2018 #83
hang in there Samplegirl vlyons Nov 2018 #79
It just angers me samplegirl Nov 2018 #84
Anger is poison vlyons Nov 2018 #87
Happy to be the 100th Rec. My PITA will be here for Christmas. IADEMO2004 Nov 2018 #81
As long as I can still come to Thanksgiving. JohnnyRingo Nov 2018 #85
You will always have a seat as long as I can still cook! samplegirl Nov 2018 #86
I cant understand why or how a Union member or rep vote INdemo Nov 2018 #88
He doesn't need a union samplegirl Nov 2018 #89
His union is paying his pension. Thank God for unions - someone should tell him demosincebirth Nov 2018 #94
I retired (1999) from the Teamsters union after 40 years - shop steward for 25 years, organizer demosincebirth Nov 2018 #93
I would have asked him to drop HIS last name, because it was embarrassing me. nt Honeycombe8 Nov 2018 #91
He does embarrass me samplegirl Nov 2018 #97
That was my immediate thought as well, Honeycombe.... KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2018 #103
My suggestion, take it or leave it :-) FakeNoose Nov 2018 #98
He told my sister I hate samplegirl Nov 2018 #107
Just might have to! samplegirl Nov 2018 #113
Thanks😌 samplegirl Nov 2018 #116
Continue as you see fit. TNNurse Nov 2018 #99
Too fucking bad for him. PoindexterOglethorpe Nov 2018 #100
That's exatly how I feel! samplegirl Nov 2018 #108
Tell him he would have to pay you to not use your maiden name. Ilsa Nov 2018 #101
I'd like to samplegirl Nov 2018 #109
Ugh, 9/10ths of my family are Trump puppets. Onyrleft Nov 2018 #102
Now that's a happy Thanksgiving!...... KY_EnviroGuy Nov 2018 #104
I did a Mexican Thanksgiving a few years ago. Huevos rancheros for breakfast to Churros for dessert. Lochloosa Nov 2018 #114
I'm so sorry LittleGirl Nov 2018 #105
I'm hurt and I'm samplegirl Nov 2018 #110
That's the thing too LittleGirl Nov 2018 #111
I've never been a samplegirl Nov 2018 #112
i blocked one of my t party sisters ages ago on FB... samnsara Nov 2018 #115
That sucks big time. geardaddy Nov 2018 #117
Your brother. Aw damn, samplegirl. I'm so sorry about your having to go through calimary Nov 2018 #118
Thank you❤️❤️❤️ samplegirl Nov 2018 #119
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