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Miigwech

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Sat Dec 22, 2018, 06:37 PM Dec 2018

I am still in a state of shock [View all]

over my experiences, over the past 3 months, caring for my poor mother, who walked on, a couple of weeks ago. The hospital told my mother, after a fall, that she did not break her hip, then sent her to rehab to strengthen her, with a broken hip. After one week
in-house rehab, (because insurance would not pay for more), four days at home, she went back to emergency room due to extreme pain. The same nurse that was there for the first emergency room visit, called my Mom a liar, saying that she fell again and did not report it. The orthopedic surgeon apologized for the hospital having misread the first scan. By the time we finally got her into a special surgery hospital for total hip replacement she was so far knocked down in her health. Four weeks with a broken hip, for someone my mothers age, has a mortality rate of 80%. My Mom was living in a supposed great assisted living facility. The ambulance guys treated my Mom like a sack of potatoes. Sorry, I know most EMT's that have compassion. Those guys pulled the straps right across her skin by her ankles. I had to cover her with a blanket and made them re-secure her over the blanket. We have a giant problem with elder care ... my eyes are now open.

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I am still in a state of shock [View all] Miigwech Dec 2018 OP
So sorry to hear that. NT Adrahil Dec 2018 #1
Thank you Miigwech Dec 2018 #11
I'm so sorry. That's awful. femmedem Dec 2018 #2
Watch them like a Hawk Miigwech Dec 2018 #15
Flat films or a CT can do that just fine Horse with no Name Dec 2018 #50
As a member of the imaging team lambchopp59 Dec 2018 #63
I thank you for this... with all my heart KentuckyWoman Dec 2018 #69
This message was self-deleted by its author lambchopp59 Dec 2018 #64
Caution advised. Excessive helicoptering over some caregiver situations can be disastrous. lambchopp59 Dec 2018 #65
Sorry. Stuart G Dec 2018 #3
I am not surprised a bit. BigmanPigman Dec 2018 #4
That's horrible. Your poor mother. Vinca Dec 2018 #5
So sorry, what a nightmare. LoisB Dec 2018 #6
I do not want to alive to be in assisted living....... a kennedy Dec 2018 #7
The USA ranks 37th or 38th in the quality of healthcare provided democratisphere Dec 2018 #8
Sorry to read this. guillaumeb Dec 2018 #9
"But the company is very profitable" MyOwnPeace Dec 2018 #31
Indeed. Profit always comes first. eom guillaumeb Dec 2018 #39
The profiteers are not beholden to any party, just profits. We can find Dem-voting/supporting ones erronis Dec 2018 #40
NO argument there......... MyOwnPeace Dec 2018 #41
I am so sorry about your mom. sheshe2 Dec 2018 #10
I could write a book Ohiogal Dec 2018 #12
I'm so sorry. area51 Dec 2018 #13
What do you mean her insurance wouldn't pay for more? pnwmom Dec 2018 #14
She had Medicare Miigwech Dec 2018 #20
Again, I am so very sorry for your loss, Milgwech. pnwmom Dec 2018 #27
I am so sorry to hear about your Mother. denvine Dec 2018 #16
The United States puts none but corporate monetary value on healthcare. . . CousinIT Dec 2018 #17
We are looking into this Miigwech Dec 2018 #25
... spanone Dec 2018 #18
We learned over the years with our parents StarryNite Dec 2018 #19
! Achilleaze Dec 2018 #24
This is useful info, Starrynite! Thanks on behalf of everyone with an older parent! n/t pnwmom Dec 2018 #28
This is unacceptable. warmfeet Dec 2018 #21
So, so sorry to read about your mom. akraven Dec 2018 #22
Thanks and you are correct to really watch every inch of your own heathcare Miigwech Dec 2018 #29
So sorry Meowmee Dec 2018 #23
I am so sorry UpInArms Dec 2018 #26
And a lot of us will at some time need it. The only people who can actually afford the $6K or so PatrickforO Dec 2018 #30
I know yours was a rhetorical question, but the parasites/stockbrokers/CEOs are destroying erronis Dec 2018 #42
Exactly! And you know who gets it? PatrickforO Dec 2018 #46
Thank you. I will pay more attention to these items you list. erronis Dec 2018 #48
When Health Care is For-Profit, Ugly Things Happen dlk Dec 2018 #32
I am very sorry srobertss Dec 2018 #33
I had a relative w/serious health issues in a nursing home for 9 years. I know how it is. Honeycombe8 Dec 2018 #34
I am so sorry (((hugs))) samnsara Dec 2018 #35
my eyes are open too KT2000 Dec 2018 #36
Good grief- reading that just put me in rage. Basement Beat Dec 2018 #37
Oh, I Am So Sorry :( DarthDem Dec 2018 #38
Oh man, to deal with her loss under better circumstances would be too much. But with her being mahina Dec 2018 #43
Incredibly sorry. colorado_ufo Dec 2018 #44
Have You Considered Filing a Complaint With the State Medical Board? dlk Dec 2018 #45
I'm so very sorry, Miigwetch catbyte Dec 2018 #47
Something needs to be done Bear Creek Dec 2018 #49
Been there, our medical system sucks and I haven't seen a nursing home doc03 Dec 2018 #51
That is so sad... Mike Nelson Dec 2018 #52
don't neglect self-care bigtree Dec 2018 #53
Thank you for sharing this flamingdem Dec 2018 #54
OMG I would sue everyone for the pain they unnecessary put your poor mother through. Oppaloopa Dec 2018 #55
This is why mickswalkabout41 Dec 2018 #56
Miigwech, I am SO very sorry for your loss and for the horrible treatment your poor mother received. auntAgonist Dec 2018 #57
So sorry for the loss of your Mother pandr32 Dec 2018 #58
Get a lawyer. Brainstormy Dec 2018 #59
the main reason I don't want to put my handicapped(severely retarded) daughter demigoddess Dec 2018 #60
I'm so sorry for your loss LittleGirl Dec 2018 #61
I am in my 70's and have already decided KentuckyWoman Dec 2018 #62
I'm alone too lunatica Dec 2018 #68
Where did this happen? kiri Dec 2018 #66
When my mother was ever in the hospital lunatica Dec 2018 #67
A terribly sad but unfortunatelly true in a lot of cases, elder care abuse. Some states do have... SWBTATTReg Dec 2018 #70
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