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In reply to the discussion: I am still in a state of shock [View all]Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)It made it worse that she was bitter and wouldn't allow family to be notified of things or check up on things. She was of sound mind and wanted to take care of everything herself. That made it very hard. We weren't able to follow up on anything, rehab or whatever, or speak to her doctor. The care she got was horrible. She was low income, so you can imagine. They all have issues. One of the big problems was theft. We couldn't mail her gifts (I was out of state), because she wouldn't receive them. I had to send gifts by FedEx or UPS and require a signature. Her cheap cell phone was stolen repeatedly. Her dvd player. Her remotes. The place smelled. It was horrible.
I'd rather die than go to a nursing home. It's not like they show in the movies, with nice people walking around or playing games or cards. Most of the people are very sick, and some are mentally unwell. I hate to think about it.