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In reply to the discussion: I believe Vanessa Tyson for a couple of reasons. One of which is... [View all]regnaD kciN
(26,044 posts)Frankly, I think its highly-probable that both of them are telling the truth as they experienced it. She felt coerced and he, not realizing it, assumed she was participating consensualy. Ive seen other cases where Im pretty sure that, if both parties were hooked up to some hypothetical 100% accurate lie detector, both would be shown to be telling the truth.
I know that a lot of us older people made fun of the explicit positive consent rules of the past few decades (What, you now have to get a signed consent form before kissing someone?), but cases like this show to me the necessity of taking care to making absolutely sure the other party is comfortable with increasing intimacy
and especially in one-night stands or other encounters where you really dont know your partner well enough to have a level of mutual trust and communication. In other words, although Im pretty sure Fairfax wasnt intentionally committing sexual assault, you should realize its a bad idea, especially with someone you barely know, to go straight from a couple of kisses to sticking your dick in her mouth. Rushing blindly into sexual activity with someone you barely know is practically inviting after-the-fact allegations such as were seeing here.