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In reply to the discussion: "If you had done what he said, he wouldn't have to do this." [View all]Neema
(1,151 posts)as kids. Don't push her buttons. A grown-ass man saw that his wife was out of control and abusive, and his solution was to tell his children that they were responsible for keeping her calm. Aside from the fact that we were CHILDREN and still learning how to behave, how to react, and how to have impulse control, all from a woman who possessed none of these skills, it was IMPOSSIBLE for ANYONE to determine from one minute to the next what exactly would or wouldn't "push her buttons." It could be as small as a single fork left in the wrong place. Or a wet spot on the floor (that later turned out to be a pipe leak that was no one's faultnot that we ever got an apology for her subsequent rampage). Or it could be nothing you did at all. You could be reading quietly in your clean room after doing all your chores and she'd still kick down the door in a rage for some perceived infraction.
I struggle with all the same questions my friend. And I will not be timid or quiet. I will make all the fucking waves I can.