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i hugged my sister too hard once, she got a bruise and called the cops on me... samnsara Mar 2019 #1
Seriously? 3catwoman3 Mar 2019 #31
I bruise easily, and I've never been hugged so hard as to bruise. PoindexterOglethorpe Mar 2019 #33
Please explain more Polybius Mar 2019 #49
How hard was it? TexasTowelie Mar 2019 #53
Lol! Polybius Mar 2019 #56
Cool story. Tipperary Mar 2019 #100
I'm afraid these sorts of questions are frowned upon ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #2
yes. obviously. shanny Mar 2019 #4
... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #7
Some men can be kind of creepy: demmiblue Mar 2019 #13
eeew. shanny Mar 2019 #19
It places toward the top of the creepiest things I have seen on DU. demmiblue Mar 2019 #36
Hey I told you I felt bad about how I used to think ... it was a long time ago ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #118
That is seriously creepy. Tipperary Mar 2019 #124
You're not 'just supposed to know," you're supposed to ASK. shanny Mar 2019 #9
You don't have to ask me. You can sidle up to me at the bar, plant a peck on my cheek mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #30
You'd do that whether it was a man or a woman? Wednesdays Mar 2019 #41
Suppose I said yes, it wouldn't much matter ... esp. if I was at a downtown SF bar, which I've been mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #69
It seems you can't touch anyone these days without risking DirtEdonE Mar 2019 #122
How far does that have to go? treestar Mar 2019 #112
OK shanny Mar 2019 #120
Joe Biden definitely needs to up his sensitivity level towards this subject, no question ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #123
This message was self-deleted by its author docgee Mar 2019 #57
Sorry, people with autism or Asperger's don't automatically know. docgee Mar 2019 #60
And your intent does not matter at all treestar Mar 2019 #111
I'm with you! nt LAS14 Apr 2019 #141
same way you get permission to kiss them eShirl Mar 2019 #3
Think of it like having a heart attack with a GOP medical plan. Turbineguy Mar 2019 #5
Ask. tymorial Mar 2019 #6
+1 shanny Mar 2019 #10
+2 The_jackalope Mar 2019 #12
LOL...it's really not. Iggo Mar 2019 #84
I really was not going for disingenuous. Rustynaerduwell Mar 2019 #15
You may be a touchy-feely sort of person. MineralMan Mar 2019 #21
"I'd rather live in a world where a the default attitude of a spontaneous touch is considered a form WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2019 #24
You are saying that your wishes and your habits are paramount and you really Squinch Mar 2019 #42
I would rather live in a world Codeine Mar 2019 #74
Me, too Metatron Mar 2019 #129
When someone "spontaneously touches" numerous people over and over, it's not spontaneously touching SFnomad Mar 2019 #82
Just this. Codeine Mar 2019 #83
Some of it may be personality or... Phentex Mar 2019 #106
"Victims?" cwydro Mar 2019 #127
"I'd rather live in a world where a the default attitude of a spontaneous touch is considered.... LAS14 Apr 2019 #142
I wanna hold your ha..aa...aaaand. I wanna hold your hand. defacto7 Mar 2019 #44
... orangecrush Mar 2019 #52
You know, The Beetles? Is that Alka-Seltzer you're drinking? defacto7 Mar 2019 #55
M.O.M. orangecrush Apr 2019 #138
+3 True Dough Mar 2019 #66
Yours is the only reply that I think honestly answered the original poster's question. arthurgoodwin Mar 2019 #73
That has not become customary in this society treestar Mar 2019 #113
The test may be customerserviceguy Mar 2019 #8
Refusing a handshake treestar Mar 2019 #114
Some people - and I'm one of them - prefer not to be embraced or touched The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2019 #11
Is a public figure a total stranger? treestar Mar 2019 #116
I have met Al Franken previously and wouldn't be *offended* if he put his arm around me. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2019 #119
Yeah, I'm with you on this. Beartracks Mar 2019 #14
Why is the assumption that it's OK to touch Codeine Mar 2019 #77
Try an experiment. Come up ftom behind a female coworker at the water cooler, put your hands on. CentralMass Mar 2019 #16
I have a better experiment TexasBushwhacker Mar 2019 #45
I wasn't being serious about touching a coworker. CentralMass Mar 2019 #59
But you do understand there are STILL a LOT of men who say they are "confused" TexasBushwhacker Mar 2019 #63
Yes, but I'm not one of them. CentralMass Mar 2019 #68
That just sounds absurd True Dough Mar 2019 #67
Not equivalent. treestar Mar 2019 #117
You just keep your hands to yourself, unless and until the other MineralMan Mar 2019 #17
With 23 complaints and MFM008 Mar 2019 #18
This Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2019 #39
You just don't touch them in the first place. ananda Mar 2019 #20
My wife routinely punctuates conversations with people she just met rzemanfl Mar 2019 #22
That's okay, she's female, it's different ... (nt) mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #90
"Do you need a hug?" "Can I give you a hug?" WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2019 #23
No Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #62
That seems like the sort of comment Codeine Mar 2019 #78
That might be because you have a certain attitude about someone touching you ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #92
Some things transcend ideology, sadly... nt sweetloukillbot Mar 2019 #93
Wow...just wow Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #95
Hahahahahaha TRUTH, finally, in this discussion BamaRefugee Mar 2019 #98
So you really are not interested in learning what might be acceptable. Tipperary Apr 2019 #139
This is like the twilightzone. Socal31 Mar 2019 #25
Or "Groundhog Day." The same conversation over and over and over. It isn't hard for most Squinch Mar 2019 #101
Well first, you need to read cues and determine if there is a possibility LuckyCharms Mar 2019 #26
Each person has a right to their own boundaries. That seems so obvious to me that lilactime Mar 2019 #27
It's Easy; Just Ask, "Is it Ok if I Give You a Hug"? dlk Mar 2019 #28
Here's a good idea. Don't touch a woman unless she is a close family member or invites Autumn Mar 2019 #29
Or a man. Codeine Mar 2019 #86
Think of when you first met people karynnj Mar 2019 #32
Just keep your hands to yourself pamela Mar 2019 #34
This! I don't like being touched, especially by people Luciferous Mar 2019 #79
I guess you could hand the person a form with boxes next to different types of kissing ond touching. Cold War Spook Mar 2019 #35
Just like the form with all those checkboxes Wednesdays Mar 2019 #43
Good idea, but there's never a Notary Public around when you need one. nt Buns_of_Fire Mar 2019 #85
Yes. That is a perfectly measured response to the fact that a woman expressed an objection Squinch Mar 2019 #104
Completely agree.Touching is part of being human.nt delisen Mar 2019 #37
That's just disgusting. Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #65
Yes, within family units or close knit tribal communities, that might be true. procon Mar 2019 #91
It's not so hard. If you wouldn't kiss a male co-worker or acquaintance, pnwmom Mar 2019 #38
"I'm not trying to be a troll, but..." Squinch Mar 2019 #40
I feel bad for men. Women so seldom have to face this. nolabear Mar 2019 #46
I agree there are a lot of culture differences involved here. defacto7 Mar 2019 #47
Same as ever. You ask. Iggo Mar 2019 #48
How about a first kiss on a first date? Polybius Mar 2019 #50
Yes. GaYellowDawg Mar 2019 #64
A few times I waited so long they kissed me first Polybius Mar 2019 #72
That's always great, isn't it? GaYellowDawg Mar 2019 #125
Yup, I didn't mind at all Polybius Mar 2019 #134
Say "please" still_one Mar 2019 #51
I once hugged my friend when she was lying in bed vercetti2021 Mar 2019 #54
Seriously? Ms. Toad Mar 2019 #58
Why the need to touch others? SHRED Mar 2019 #61
Exactly. Codeine Mar 2019 #76
I put my hand out for a handshake. MicaelS Mar 2019 #136
Does this include handshakes? n/t MicaelS Mar 2019 #137
Try elbows klook Mar 2019 #70
Face it Flounder.... You're screwed either way ! Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #71
Dude. Codeine Mar 2019 #80
Again and again cheap shots Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #96
LOLOLOL! You first!!! Squinch Mar 2019 #108
These threads have taught me that there are some truly creepy guys on this board. Tipperary Mar 2019 #102
Oh my God! How will you survive all the confusion!!! A woman DOESN'T want a stranger to Squinch Mar 2019 #107
"Girl?" cwydro Mar 2019 #130
Why do you want to touch someone? kentuck Mar 2019 #75
Retired teacher, 40 years in the classroom Aussie105 Mar 2019 #81
General Release Form signed and notarized. democratisphere Mar 2019 #87
Maybe try wearing a sign around your neck that says ... SFnomad Mar 2019 #88
Attention Smackdown2019 Mar 2019 #89
Wow. This is disgusting. Squinch Mar 2019 #109
Wow. cwydro Mar 2019 #128
Why do you think you're entitled to touch anyone, for any reason? procon Mar 2019 #94
Exactly. lilactime Mar 2019 #97
I don't think that. Rustynaerduwell Mar 2019 #99
Bingo. 50 Shades Of Blue Mar 2019 #103
I do not even like shaking hands with people who have at140 Mar 2019 #105
It is getting beyond the point of absurd treestar Mar 2019 #110
I saw this video not too long ago: Aristus Mar 2019 #115
I read a book called Will Ladybug Hug? to 2 year olds in preschool... Phentex Mar 2019 #121
in the military it's as simple as qazplm135 Mar 2019 #126
Is it really that hard to just say "can I give you a hug?" cwydro Mar 2019 #131
When in doubt, don't touch. milestogo Mar 2019 #132
You say, May I touch you? WhiteTara Mar 2019 #133
by leaving it up to the persmission you want to touch to give permission fishwax Mar 2019 #135
Very well stated!!!! nt LAS14 Apr 2019 #140
How come so many answers advise "Can I give you a hug?" LAS14 Apr 2019 #143
If it's a hug you're planning, then check to see if the other person is... LAS14 Apr 2019 #144
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