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treestar

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116. Is a public figure a total stranger?
Sun Mar 31, 2019, 11:40 AM
Mar 2019

Some random man, maybe, but Al Franken if known and a politician, you aren't going to see him again, obviously hundreds of people took their photos with him and expected him to put their arm around them.

Public figures aren't entirely unfamiliar. And if you are in a position to see them in person that closely, likely most people they encounter are fine with it. How many people hug Obama when they see him? They don't consider him a total stranger.

i hugged my sister too hard once, she got a bruise and called the cops on me... samnsara Mar 2019 #1
Seriously? 3catwoman3 Mar 2019 #31
I bruise easily, and I've never been hugged so hard as to bruise. PoindexterOglethorpe Mar 2019 #33
Please explain more Polybius Mar 2019 #49
How hard was it? TexasTowelie Mar 2019 #53
Lol! Polybius Mar 2019 #56
Cool story. Tipperary Mar 2019 #100
I'm afraid these sorts of questions are frowned upon ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #2
yes. obviously. shanny Mar 2019 #4
... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #7
Some men can be kind of creepy: demmiblue Mar 2019 #13
eeew. shanny Mar 2019 #19
It places toward the top of the creepiest things I have seen on DU. demmiblue Mar 2019 #36
Hey I told you I felt bad about how I used to think ... it was a long time ago ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #118
That is seriously creepy. Tipperary Mar 2019 #124
You're not 'just supposed to know," you're supposed to ASK. shanny Mar 2019 #9
You don't have to ask me. You can sidle up to me at the bar, plant a peck on my cheek mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #30
You'd do that whether it was a man or a woman? Wednesdays Mar 2019 #41
Suppose I said yes, it wouldn't much matter ... esp. if I was at a downtown SF bar, which I've been mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #69
It seems you can't touch anyone these days without risking DirtEdonE Mar 2019 #122
How far does that have to go? treestar Mar 2019 #112
OK shanny Mar 2019 #120
Joe Biden definitely needs to up his sensitivity level towards this subject, no question ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #123
This message was self-deleted by its author docgee Mar 2019 #57
Sorry, people with autism or Asperger's don't automatically know. docgee Mar 2019 #60
And your intent does not matter at all treestar Mar 2019 #111
I'm with you! nt LAS14 Apr 2019 #141
same way you get permission to kiss them eShirl Mar 2019 #3
Think of it like having a heart attack with a GOP medical plan. Turbineguy Mar 2019 #5
Ask. tymorial Mar 2019 #6
+1 shanny Mar 2019 #10
+2 The_jackalope Mar 2019 #12
LOL...it's really not. Iggo Mar 2019 #84
I really was not going for disingenuous. Rustynaerduwell Mar 2019 #15
You may be a touchy-feely sort of person. MineralMan Mar 2019 #21
"I'd rather live in a world where a the default attitude of a spontaneous touch is considered a form WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2019 #24
You are saying that your wishes and your habits are paramount and you really Squinch Mar 2019 #42
I would rather live in a world Codeine Mar 2019 #74
Me, too Metatron Mar 2019 #129
When someone "spontaneously touches" numerous people over and over, it's not spontaneously touching SFnomad Mar 2019 #82
Just this. Codeine Mar 2019 #83
Some of it may be personality or... Phentex Mar 2019 #106
"Victims?" cwydro Mar 2019 #127
"I'd rather live in a world where a the default attitude of a spontaneous touch is considered.... LAS14 Apr 2019 #142
I wanna hold your ha..aa...aaaand. I wanna hold your hand. defacto7 Mar 2019 #44
... orangecrush Mar 2019 #52
You know, The Beetles? Is that Alka-Seltzer you're drinking? defacto7 Mar 2019 #55
M.O.M. orangecrush Apr 2019 #138
+3 True Dough Mar 2019 #66
Yours is the only reply that I think honestly answered the original poster's question. arthurgoodwin Mar 2019 #73
That has not become customary in this society treestar Mar 2019 #113
The test may be customerserviceguy Mar 2019 #8
Refusing a handshake treestar Mar 2019 #114
Some people - and I'm one of them - prefer not to be embraced or touched The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2019 #11
Is a public figure a total stranger? treestar Mar 2019 #116
I have met Al Franken previously and wouldn't be *offended* if he put his arm around me. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2019 #119
Yeah, I'm with you on this. Beartracks Mar 2019 #14
Why is the assumption that it's OK to touch Codeine Mar 2019 #77
Try an experiment. Come up ftom behind a female coworker at the water cooler, put your hands on. CentralMass Mar 2019 #16
I have a better experiment TexasBushwhacker Mar 2019 #45
I wasn't being serious about touching a coworker. CentralMass Mar 2019 #59
But you do understand there are STILL a LOT of men who say they are "confused" TexasBushwhacker Mar 2019 #63
Yes, but I'm not one of them. CentralMass Mar 2019 #68
That just sounds absurd True Dough Mar 2019 #67
Not equivalent. treestar Mar 2019 #117
You just keep your hands to yourself, unless and until the other MineralMan Mar 2019 #17
With 23 complaints and MFM008 Mar 2019 #18
This Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Mar 2019 #39
You just don't touch them in the first place. ananda Mar 2019 #20
My wife routinely punctuates conversations with people she just met rzemanfl Mar 2019 #22
That's okay, she's female, it's different ... (nt) mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #90
"Do you need a hug?" "Can I give you a hug?" WhiskeyGrinder Mar 2019 #23
No Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #62
That seems like the sort of comment Codeine Mar 2019 #78
That might be because you have a certain attitude about someone touching you ... mr_lebowski Mar 2019 #92
Some things transcend ideology, sadly... nt sweetloukillbot Mar 2019 #93
Wow...just wow Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #95
Hahahahahaha TRUTH, finally, in this discussion BamaRefugee Mar 2019 #98
So you really are not interested in learning what might be acceptable. Tipperary Apr 2019 #139
This is like the twilightzone. Socal31 Mar 2019 #25
Or "Groundhog Day." The same conversation over and over and over. It isn't hard for most Squinch Mar 2019 #101
Well first, you need to read cues and determine if there is a possibility LuckyCharms Mar 2019 #26
Each person has a right to their own boundaries. That seems so obvious to me that lilactime Mar 2019 #27
It's Easy; Just Ask, "Is it Ok if I Give You a Hug"? dlk Mar 2019 #28
Here's a good idea. Don't touch a woman unless she is a close family member or invites Autumn Mar 2019 #29
Or a man. Codeine Mar 2019 #86
Think of when you first met people karynnj Mar 2019 #32
Just keep your hands to yourself pamela Mar 2019 #34
This! I don't like being touched, especially by people Luciferous Mar 2019 #79
I guess you could hand the person a form with boxes next to different types of kissing ond touching. Cold War Spook Mar 2019 #35
Just like the form with all those checkboxes Wednesdays Mar 2019 #43
Good idea, but there's never a Notary Public around when you need one. nt Buns_of_Fire Mar 2019 #85
Yes. That is a perfectly measured response to the fact that a woman expressed an objection Squinch Mar 2019 #104
Completely agree.Touching is part of being human.nt delisen Mar 2019 #37
That's just disgusting. Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #65
Yes, within family units or close knit tribal communities, that might be true. procon Mar 2019 #91
It's not so hard. If you wouldn't kiss a male co-worker or acquaintance, pnwmom Mar 2019 #38
"I'm not trying to be a troll, but..." Squinch Mar 2019 #40
I feel bad for men. Women so seldom have to face this. nolabear Mar 2019 #46
I agree there are a lot of culture differences involved here. defacto7 Mar 2019 #47
Same as ever. You ask. Iggo Mar 2019 #48
How about a first kiss on a first date? Polybius Mar 2019 #50
Yes. GaYellowDawg Mar 2019 #64
A few times I waited so long they kissed me first Polybius Mar 2019 #72
That's always great, isn't it? GaYellowDawg Mar 2019 #125
Yup, I didn't mind at all Polybius Mar 2019 #134
Say "please" still_one Mar 2019 #51
I once hugged my friend when she was lying in bed vercetti2021 Mar 2019 #54
Seriously? Ms. Toad Mar 2019 #58
Why the need to touch others? SHRED Mar 2019 #61
Exactly. Codeine Mar 2019 #76
I put my hand out for a handshake. MicaelS Mar 2019 #136
Does this include handshakes? n/t MicaelS Mar 2019 #137
Try elbows klook Mar 2019 #70
Face it Flounder.... You're screwed either way ! Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #71
Dude. Codeine Mar 2019 #80
Again and again cheap shots Rustyeye77 Mar 2019 #96
LOLOLOL! You first!!! Squinch Mar 2019 #108
These threads have taught me that there are some truly creepy guys on this board. Tipperary Mar 2019 #102
Oh my God! How will you survive all the confusion!!! A woman DOESN'T want a stranger to Squinch Mar 2019 #107
"Girl?" cwydro Mar 2019 #130
Why do you want to touch someone? kentuck Mar 2019 #75
Retired teacher, 40 years in the classroom Aussie105 Mar 2019 #81
General Release Form signed and notarized. democratisphere Mar 2019 #87
Maybe try wearing a sign around your neck that says ... SFnomad Mar 2019 #88
Attention Smackdown2019 Mar 2019 #89
Wow. This is disgusting. Squinch Mar 2019 #109
Wow. cwydro Mar 2019 #128
Why do you think you're entitled to touch anyone, for any reason? procon Mar 2019 #94
Exactly. lilactime Mar 2019 #97
I don't think that. Rustynaerduwell Mar 2019 #99
Bingo. 50 Shades Of Blue Mar 2019 #103
I do not even like shaking hands with people who have at140 Mar 2019 #105
It is getting beyond the point of absurd treestar Mar 2019 #110
I saw this video not too long ago: Aristus Mar 2019 #115
I read a book called Will Ladybug Hug? to 2 year olds in preschool... Phentex Mar 2019 #121
in the military it's as simple as qazplm135 Mar 2019 #126
Is it really that hard to just say "can I give you a hug?" cwydro Mar 2019 #131
When in doubt, don't touch. milestogo Mar 2019 #132
You say, May I touch you? WhiteTara Mar 2019 #133
by leaving it up to the persmission you want to touch to give permission fishwax Mar 2019 #135
Very well stated!!!! nt LAS14 Apr 2019 #140
How come so many answers advise "Can I give you a hug?" LAS14 Apr 2019 #143
If it's a hug you're planning, then check to see if the other person is... LAS14 Apr 2019 #144
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