#me too is not the #i uncomfortable movement

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64. Women are not taught to indicate when they are uncomfortable

Or even how to send off signals of "Don't mess with me!"

My Mom taught me that when I did not like how my grandfather tickled me when I was a toddler. She told me to just stiffen up, not respond, and pull away. I did that once with Granddad and after that he did not tickle me any more.

As I got older, I learned to give off negative vibes to men that show I am not interested in shows of affection - I also can allow it by my attitude and body language when the person is someone I welcome a hug or affection from. It is not an innate thing - it was learned and perfected. But it was learned and perfected by the time I was sixteen.

If Joe Biden (or any man) had grabbed my shoulders and I was uncomfortable with that, I would have stiffened my entire body indicating my lack of ease. I believe that Mr. Biden is sensitive enough that he would have immediately let go and stepped away.

Instead of learning this kind of reaction girls are taught that they must give in, not complain, and allow unwelcome contact. With the #MeToo movement women are indicating their preferences but I doubt they have learned how to convey them with their attitudes and body language.

I we want #MeToo to be an effective movement we need to start teaching young women HOW to prevent casual unwanted contacts as well as how to stop completely unwanted assaults.