#me too is not the #i uncomfortable movement

[Ms. Toad]

118. You would be wrong about how long ago uninvited hugs were acceptable.

In one group I'm part of - in which we know each other well, and generally are very physically affectionate with each other - hugging without consent has been unacceptable for well over a decade (more likely 2 decades - but I've lost track of time). We were likely ahead of the curve in talking explicitly about how uncomfortable some of our members felt when they were hugged without consent. But that doesn't mean that the hugs were acceptable - merely that members of our group who were uncomfortable suffered in silence - or left to avoid the discomfort.

Everyone has the right to decide by whom, how, and when they want to be touched. It has nothing to do with whether the contact is "questionable," it has do do with whether the recipient welcomes the hug.