#me too is not the #i uncomfortable movement

[Ms. Toad]

144. Occasional misinterpretation, or inattention, isn't a problem

When it becomes habitual (regardless of intent) for a particular person, the hugger/toucher needs to pay attention and add some restraint to their behavior.

There are people who are oblivious at reading social cues - but the intent of the hugger really doesn't matter to me. My body, my right to decide by whom, when, and how it is touched. Period.

Addressing it is more challenging when it is a public person and touching/hugging is part of their public persona. With someone you know, there are far more opportunities to have that conversation in private. With someone you meet - in the spotlight - the person being touched has to decide on the spur of the moment whether to "make a scene" or tolerate it, then - after the fact - whether/how to raise the subject with a person with whom you don't have regular contact, or just let it go.

I'm glad the conversation is happening, but disappointed in the responses that trivialize/blame/put the response on the person being touched, and disappointed in the responses that insist that raising the concern trivializes the #metoo movement (although both involve physical contact, this is a much broader issue - and is unrelated to criminal behavior).