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RobinA

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139. The Funeral Home

Mon Aug 12, 2019, 11:00 PM

Aug 2019

through which my father was cremated told us that they grind up the remains after the cremation to avoid big chunks. I have some of his ashes in my car because where I want to put them I have to trespass onto railroad property and the time has not been right, but they are fairly finely ground. Not sand exactly, but no pieces. Certainly they aren’t ash in the usual sense.

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Cremate, people. [View all] Goodheart Aug 2019 OP

The whole burial thing is so extremely costly, we'll see more cremations frankly because there isn't hlthe2b Aug 2019 #1

I want to be cremated, then have the ashes buried in my yard with a camellia bush planted over me. lark Aug 2019 #4

I read a book on cremation once. Ashes are not recommended to be used in gardens tavernier Aug 2019 #32

Oh no!!! lark Aug 2019 #37

I have a friend who wants his ashes thrown into the Long Island Sound. I am guessing that CTyankee Aug 2019 #40

Damn, since the St. Johns empties into the ocean, guess I'll have to see what the rules are for that lark Aug 2019 #43

I hope you will be back good as new very soon! CTyankee Aug 2019 #48

My mother wanted her ashes spread in the Hudson River dumbcat Aug 2019 #73

No lakes or streams leftieNanner Aug 2019 #83

i would like to be buried and a tree planted on top of me so as I rot, I feed the demigoddess Aug 2019 #127

That is really the first choice of both me and my husband. lark Aug 2019 #131

You just have to skip the cremation step Ms. Toad Aug 2019 #132

So my sister in law says.. she's spent her whole life mountain grammy Aug 2019 #140

I agree. MineralMan Aug 2019 #2

This is, to me, another great example of how funerals and the question of what to do with the body,, EarnestPutz Aug 2019 #38

Yes, I've been paying attention to that Washington St. idea. yonder Aug 2019 #110

They used to say that crazy old hippies like me wanted to ..... EarnestPutz Aug 2019 #146

Cremation ashes are not so easy to just throw off into the wind. Farmer-Rick Aug 2019 #3

Who's going to stop you? I doubt there's a cremation ash patrol. :) Goodheart Aug 2019 #9

There is at Disney Land........... Bengus81 Aug 2019 #11

Anywhere but Disney Land Midnightwalk Aug 2019 #22

That could be an attraction at Disneyland. LuvNewcastle Aug 2019 #109

Yeah, but do you really want to send your loved one off into a place they are NOT wanted? Farmer-Rick Aug 2019 #41

I don't know what you think you saw Codeine Aug 2019 #77

You made my day Farmer-Rick Aug 2019 #82

Ask the Dude. progressoid Aug 2019 #33

Great scene from a great movie. yonder Aug 2019 #102

I've told my wife I want to be cremated. aikoaiko Aug 2019 #124

RIP Donny JDC Aug 2019 #128

Yes, you can throw them into the Grand Canyon. former9thward Aug 2019 #46

Ok, ok, I call uncle Farmer-Rick Aug 2019 #49

Which is exactly where my ashes will be spread peggysue2 Aug 2019 #68

Well good Farmer-Rick Aug 2019 #129

LOL!! peggysue2 Aug 2019 #137

You cant just toss them out the mahina Aug 2019 #86

I agree genxlib Aug 2019 #5

And the next of kin having to hear... llmart Aug 2019 #12

Yes genxlib Aug 2019 #16

I on the other hand got a huge laugh at my great aunt's viewing nolabear Aug 2019 #93

Oh my, that is hilarious! llmart Aug 2019 #100

ROFL malaise Aug 2019 #122

When my aunt died, her body was prepared for viewing at the funeral home. Grammy23 Aug 2019 #145

The cheapest disposal is donating your body to a medical school/hospital n/t malaise Aug 2019 #6

My mother yesphan Aug 2019 #31

Good for them malaise Aug 2019 #35

'Frankenstein' Science Facility StarryNite Aug 2019 #61

I don't give a damn who does what malaise Aug 2019 #64

That is exactly how I feel about it. Mariana Aug 2019 #75

Thank you! Codeine Aug 2019 #78

Way past caring malaise Aug 2019 #90

I feel the same. If nothing else, use it for cat food, if that's medically safe. eppur_se_muova Aug 2019 #85

ROFL malaise Aug 2019 #89

I probably will be cat food. As my decrepitude increases, The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2019 #126

I wouldn't care for myself however, StarryNite Aug 2019 #98

In Florida, you have to pay for preparation and transport to the facility csziggy Aug 2019 #108

Very interesting malaise Aug 2019 #113

In the packet I linked to, they might reimburse up to $650 csziggy Aug 2019 #116

Still it's way cheaper than a traditional burial malaise Aug 2019 #117

I want a really traditional burial - no embalming, no casket, no ceremony csziggy Aug 2019 #118

My mother donated her body to the cadaver lab at the medical school PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2019 #114

That is very nice malaise Aug 2019 #115

Or the military for explosive testing. egduj Aug 2019 #141

Medical schools always need cadavers. Act_of_Reparation Aug 2019 #7

Absolutely dalton99a Aug 2019 #8

Is there any explanation for the "Stair Step" graph line on the first chart"? EarnestPutz Aug 2019 #24

PPI is the Producer Price Index OnlinePoker Aug 2019 #29

Thanks, any idea about the very regular increases that create the stair step graph? EarnestPutz Aug 2019 #42

Annual price increases? OnlinePoker Aug 2019 #52

That's what I thought. The funeral industry has been accused of collusion in the past. EarnestPutz Aug 2019 #62

Probably the data base from which the info was taken was sampled about every 6 months. Lucid Dreamer Aug 2019 #135

Can I wait until I'm dead first? panader0 Aug 2019 #10

Then make sure marybourg Aug 2019 #56

The orbital mind control lasers Codeine Aug 2019 #79

Yup,the dough I have left will go to my second wife and my kids........ Bengus81 Aug 2019 #13

I really think that this is something personal people get to decide for themselves. Coventina Aug 2019 #14

What's the "objective advantage" of having your body slid into a file cabinet? Goodheart Aug 2019 #15

It doesn't pollute groundwater or the soil. Coventina Aug 2019 #17

Who said it personally offends me? Goodheart Aug 2019 #50

Are you being serious right now? You started a thread to complain about it. Coventina Aug 2019 #60

You can get green burials though. meadowlander Aug 2019 #84

My Aunt RobinA Aug 2019 #138

How sad the family didn't consult you in advance. WhiskeyGrinder Aug 2019 #18

Cremate me Bayard Aug 2019 #19

What? No Soylent Green option? hunter Aug 2019 #20

we have already decided to be cremated. kozar Aug 2019 #21

Never heard of turning ashes into diamonds. So looked it up...... Fla Dem Aug 2019 #30

yes,,,but kozar Aug 2019 #36

Certainly not questioning your decision. As I said, just never heard of it before. Fla Dem Aug 2019 #44

well,guess what ,Fla Dem? kozar Aug 2019 #67

I can't be buried on my land, so I told my family to flush me down the toilet. zackymilly Aug 2019 #23

DUzy malaise Aug 2019 #123

The higher predators (Wolves / Mountain lions) are starving. Boxerfan Aug 2019 #25

No, donate your body to science! ExciteBike66 Aug 2019 #26

We've made sure both of our daughters understand KatyMan Aug 2019 #27

I like that. I wonder if they do that on cruise ships going to the Greek Islands...that would CTyankee Aug 2019 #45

Now there's beauty. :) Goodheart Aug 2019 #51

Gotcha! Newest Reality Aug 2019 #28

I suppose being stuffed and mounted isn't an option. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2019 #34

I dunno. A velveteen ocelot sounds like a good prospect. nolabear Aug 2019 #94

I'll put it in my will. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2019 #96

Cremation just speeds up the inevitable... we all turn to dust at some point mitch96 Aug 2019 #39

The Funeral Home RobinA Aug 2019 #139

I knew a CEO who died Turbineguy Aug 2019 #47

I would like to just be put in a hole out in the woods OnlinePoker Aug 2019 #53

Here is one place whistler162 Aug 2019 #125

Alkaline hydrolysis sarisataka Aug 2019 #54

Agreed. Snackshack Aug 2019 #55

Exploding Caskets StarryNite Aug 2019 #57

Me and my wife are going to be buried using Jewish customs Mosby Aug 2019 #58

Recommended. H2O Man Aug 2019 #59

Green burials are starting to come along empedocles Aug 2019 #63

I am partial to burial... I kind of hope that in five hundred years...if we are still around Thomas Hurt Aug 2019 #65

Same here... NeoGreen Aug 2019 #70

Sky burial. maxsolomon Aug 2019 #66

Here's an objection to cremation The_jackalope Aug 2019 #69

Cremation costs fuel... albacore Aug 2019 #71

De gustibus non est disputandum... nt The_jackalope Aug 2019 #72

Sorry... albacore Aug 2019 #74

I really like the idea of a sky burial. Oneironaut Aug 2019 #76

How about going 3 miles off shore with 50# weights and over you go!!! mitch96 Aug 2019 #80

My wife has instructions to cremate me and dump the ashes MineralMan Aug 2019 #81

My parents have arranged that they'll be cremated Mariana Aug 2019 #144

I want my ashes to be dumped in Lake Superior near the Pictured Rocks. dmr Aug 2019 #87

Chapel Beach? Mendocino Aug 2019 #97

Lol, you sound like my son dmr Aug 2019 #121

That is a gorgeous area, especially in fall. llmart Aug 2019 #101

Check out the YouTube channel "Ask a Mortician" LeftinOH Aug 2019 #88

🌲 Go Green Duppers Aug 2019 #91

I want to return to the earth from which I came. lagomorph777 Aug 2019 #107

I want to be cremated and Backseat Driver Aug 2019 #92

Religious freedom rights sanatanadharma Aug 2019 #95

I'm a retired mortician backtoblue Aug 2019 #99

Great advice. yonder Aug 2019 #106

Am I weird that I honestly don't care much TDale313 Aug 2019 #103

Add my vote to not caring. Lucid Dreamer Aug 2019 #136

I have been an avid environmentalist all my adult life. llmart Aug 2019 #104

Okay how about creamation and have someone collect the ashes of a lot of people. If you split avebury Aug 2019 #105

I just want a big barbecue with plenty to drink Midnightwalk Aug 2019 #111

After we finished packing up my dad's apartment whistler162 Aug 2019 #112

freeze dry or compost greener. pansypoo53219 Aug 2019 #119

still legal in Vermont handmade34 Aug 2019 #120

Way more people have died than are living. I wonder where are all of those bodies? nt live love laugh Aug 2019 #130

Only a small percentage would have been buried in the first place. PoindexterOglethorpe Aug 2019 #134

Mushroom suit in my backyard... N_E_1 for Tennis Aug 2019 #133

That is what will happen to me, sort of..... Lady Freedom Returns Aug 2019 #142

Crypts can be be fairly environmentally responsible, actually. bluedigger Aug 2019 #143