I'm a GRANDMA!! My son and his husband have adopted a beautiful baby boy!

[NCProgressive]

179. I reject the notion that having two mothers while growing up

is healthy for a child's well-being.

For the child's psychosexual development, it needs to bond with a "primary" maternal figure without divided attention.

When the child becomes an adult and fully understands the various roles, he/she is free to communicate and get to know the birth mother. Some adopted children do this but many don't because they don't want to be ungrateful to the adoptive parents.

You should look at it from what is good for the child and not for biological mother. Her consideration is secondary to that of the child's well-being.