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marlakay

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48. My husband is a 6th child born way
Wed Oct 14, 2020, 04:55 PM
Oct 2020

After the others and his parents always let him know he was a accident, they were older by then, done with kids and by the time he was 5 it was just him and a sister and by 10 she was gone.

They moved from small farm to farm yearly so he was never able to make friends moving and living so far out.

He blames his parents for most things in his life and his depression.

I had a crappy start to with abuse and parents who did nothing about it.

The difference between me and my husband is I have spent the last 15 years working on mindfulness and staying in the present. I find that is the best tool to let the past go is to stay in the now. We can't change what happened to us but we can affect how we think about it now.

I wish you well. My hubby deals with his depression with pot, works for him. I just wish he didn't have to be high to be happy but glad he has it.

I was born in '56 [View all] cate94 Oct 2020 OP
So sorry💜 MFM008 Oct 2020 #1
It does sound like a tale of woe cate94 Oct 2020 #21
9 kids is too much and I know it was the norm in the past JI7 Oct 2020 #2
True cate94 Oct 2020 #22
I'm deeply sorry that this happened to you and glad you have decent siblings. chowder66 Oct 2020 #3
I'm okay cate94 Oct 2020 #24
I'm glad to hear you're okay. chowder66 Oct 2020 #29
I'm so sorry 💔 Raine Oct 2020 #4
Thanks. cate94 Oct 2020 #25
I am so very sorry for your pain. I also am so glad that you were born. You do not control Celerity Oct 2020 #5
Thanks cate94 Oct 2020 #26
So sorry you went through all of that Meowmee Oct 2020 #6
Yes cate94 Oct 2020 #27
I was born in 55 and have a similar story padfun Oct 2020 #7
I'm sorry cate94 Oct 2020 #30
I pray you found love and peace and a sense of belonging. Boomerproud Oct 2020 #8
Thanks cate94 Oct 2020 #31
1957, last of 7, Irish-Catholic children yankeepants Oct 2020 #9
Exactly. cate94 Oct 2020 #32
It's the first child that was the reason for them having to marry in the first place many times judesedit Oct 2020 #10
That's true cate94 Oct 2020 #33
I'm sorry for your pain. Beringia Oct 2020 #11
Thanks cate94 Oct 2020 #34
I'm sorry, and I can relate. Buckeye_Democrat Oct 2020 #12
I am also the 5th child. Delmette2.0 Oct 2020 #20
I'm sorry! Buckeye_Democrat Oct 2020 #23
The food! Delmette2.0 Oct 2020 #28
I'm still thankful for the food! Buckeye_Democrat Oct 2020 #35
I'm sorry too. cate94 Oct 2020 #36
I am sorry for your pain. mercuryblues Oct 2020 #13
Totally agree about birth control. Buckeye_Democrat Oct 2020 #14
LOL mercuryblues Oct 2020 #18
Lol, yeah. Buckeye_Democrat Oct 2020 #19
It's funny but her mental illness did define me. cate94 Oct 2020 #38
What you've been through has been so hard Kitchari Oct 2020 #15
Thanks! cate94 Oct 2020 #39
: ) Kitchari Oct 2020 #43
Oh, cate94, Delphinus Oct 2020 #16
Thanks cate94 Oct 2020 #40
Oh this breaks my heart for you. I am so so sorry. LiberalLoner Oct 2020 #17
I'm sorry it made you cry cate94 Oct 2020 #41
🌹 LiberalLoner Oct 2020 #46
I don't normally respond to threads like this, mostly because I have no idea what to say, or that... A HERETIC I AM Oct 2020 #37
Well, you hit a mark with this one cate94 Oct 2020 #42
.... A HERETIC I AM Oct 2020 #45
... cate94 Oct 2020 #51
I remember reading this article - some years ago, about the unwanted Dan Oct 2020 #44
Sounds like one of the chapters in "Freakonomics" GopherGal Oct 2020 #47
It does! cate94 Oct 2020 #49
My husband is a 6th child born way marlakay Oct 2020 #48
Pot helped me cate94 Oct 2020 #50
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