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hoosierspud

(148 posts)
20. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Mon Nov 2, 2020, 01:58 AM
Nov 2020

You are absolutely correct about a lot of men not going to the doctor when they leave home. When I married my husband at 41, he hadn't seen a doctor since he was 18. I told him if something happened to you, an illness or an accident, you have no medical record in this state. Also, if you had some blood test that showed something completely out of whack, doctors wouldn't know if it was something that's been going on a while or if it was due to your current condition since they don't have any baseline testing on you. I also told him if he had a stroke that left him so disabled that I would have to wipe his ass and tend to all his bodily functions, I would do it, but he would hear about every day if it happened because he refused to see a doctor. He went once, then didn't go again until he was 50 and started going yearly. Though he was in really good physical shape, he's been the one with several hospitalizations over the years.

Thank you for sharing. A beautiful son. I'm sorry for your loss. 58Sunliner Nov 2020 #1
I'm sorry to hear that. I lost a football buddy exactly the same way. In the two and a half brewens Nov 2020 #2
With deepest condolences. Vadem Nov 2020 #3
Oh no. I can't imagine the pain MontanaMama Nov 2020 #4
I am so sorry, over the loss of your son. shrike3 Nov 2020 #5
Still a young man--such a loss. I am terribly sorry. BusyBeingBest Nov 2020 #6
... Nevilledog Nov 2020 #7
This nearly did me in MFM008 Nov 2020 #8
what a truly shitty club we belong to.. SoCalDem Nov 2020 #10
I can't even imagine the depth of your pain. A young and promising life cut short. The video was alwaysinasnit Nov 2020 #9
We also lost our son at 41 the exact same way. It's heartbreaking. SharonAnn Nov 2020 #11
This message was self-deleted by its author SharonAnn Nov 2020 #12
Your brilliant love shines a hard light. ancianita Nov 2020 #13
I am very, very sorry to learn of what must be unimaginable pain you must be in. NNadir Nov 2020 #14
Hugs to you lunatica Nov 2020 #15
Thank you for this. For the reminder. Duppers Nov 2020 #16
My deepest sympathy in the loss of your son. Frustratedlady Nov 2020 #17
A great tribute grantcart Nov 2020 #18
Oh, my goodness. I am so sorry. crickets Nov 2020 #19
I'm so sorry for your loss. hoosierspud Nov 2020 #20
Your beautiful, heartrending eulogy brought tears to my eyes, my dear SoCalDem... CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2020 #21
Thank you. I am so sorry. nolabear Nov 2020 #22
I am so sorry Chili Nov 2020 #23
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved son. smirkymonkey Nov 2020 #24
Handsome young man lillypaddle Nov 2020 #25
Please accept my condolences. Dyedinthewoolliberal Nov 2020 #26
I am so sorry for your family's loss. PatrickforO Nov 2020 #27
I am so very sorry. Solly Mack Nov 2020 #28
Very, very sorry . . . people Nov 2020 #29
Oh, SoCalDem... no parent should have to bury their child... I'm so sorry... TygrBright Nov 2020 #30
Thank you for sharing this with us ailsagirl Nov 2020 #31
Deepest condolences SheltieLover Nov 2020 #32
So sad malaise Nov 2020 #33
The love for your son is a beautiful tribute you've chosen to use to help others. hlthe2b Nov 2020 #34
So young... I'm so sorry Arazi Nov 2020 #35
Deepest sympathy at your loss GeoWilliam750 Nov 2020 #36
My most profound condolences. Roisin Ni Fiachra Nov 2020 #37
Sooo sorry SoCalDem ucrdem Nov 2020 #38
I am so sorry cally Nov 2020 #39
Words are never enough at a time like this Maeve Nov 2020 #40
I am still alive now because I learned that lesson early DFW Nov 2020 #41
That is the ultimate irony here SoCalDem Nov 2020 #45
I lost a cousin who was 41 DFW Nov 2020 #46
I am so sorry, my dear SoCalDem 💔 UpInArms Nov 2020 #42
My deepest condolences... OneGrassRoot Nov 2020 #43
So heartbreaking... NurseJackie Nov 2020 #44
I am so very sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. babylonsister Nov 2020 #47
He must have been a lovely guy. His memorial video shoes so much love. mahina Nov 2020 #48
I'm so sorry, SoCal. I'll pass on Steve's lesson. Hortensis Nov 2020 #49
My sincere sympathies, SoCal Metatron Nov 2020 #50
I'm so sorry for your loss, SoCalDem. Very same thing happened to my 43 yr old nephew BComplex Nov 2020 #51
So very sorry for your loss 😢 voteearlyvoteoften Nov 2020 #52
So very sorry for your loss 😢 voteearlyvoteoften Nov 2020 #53
I should listen NorthOf270 Nov 2020 #54
Please see a doctor. SoCalDem Nov 2020 #58
So very sorry for your loss... Freedomofspeech Nov 2020 #55
My heart breaks for you nt Nululu Nov 2020 #56
My heart aches for you. I am so sorry for your loss. chia Nov 2020 #57
Thank you for sharing and warning us. Ilsa Nov 2020 #59
Can't imagine the pain you and family must be in. cry baby Nov 2020 #60
SoCAlDem... Upthevibe Nov 2020 #61
So, So sorry for your loss. joanbarnes Nov 2020 #62
So heartbreaking. May your wonderful memories give you some comfort. Lonestarblue Nov 2020 #63
Very sorry for your loss .. jb5150 Nov 2020 #64
I'm so sorry SoCalDem barbtries Nov 2020 #65
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. davsand Nov 2020 #66
I opened this link with a feeling of dread. BobTheSubgenius Nov 2020 #67
Thank you so much for sharing. colorado_ufo Nov 2020 #68
a beautiful post and a sober reminder... Phentex Nov 2020 #69
He was a party animal SoCalDem Nov 2020 #89
I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words. nt Baltimike Nov 2020 #70
I'm so very sorry. cate94 Nov 2020 #71
I am so sorry for your loss Meowmee Nov 2020 #72
Feel ya! And it is a great lesson to share Wawannabe Nov 2020 #73
So sorry for your loss. Stuart G Nov 2020 #74
I can't imagine... spanone Nov 2020 #75
So, so sorry. democrank Nov 2020 #76
Condolences on your loss.... Heartstrings Nov 2020 #77
Thank you for sharing your Steve with us cp Nov 2020 #78
that was a beautiful tribute to him--I watched every minute and feel as though I know him... renate Nov 2020 #79
This breaks my heart. My thoughts are with you. Paper Roses Nov 2020 #80
So sorry to hear about this. haele Nov 2020 #81
I am so sorry for your loss! Pugee Nov 2020 #82
*HUGS* SoCal CatWoman Nov 2020 #83
Sending you 💕💕💖💖💕. Thank you for helping others despite your pain. MLAA Nov 2020 #84
I'm so sorry for your loss wendyb-NC Nov 2020 #85
Deepest condolences. Dark n Stormy Knight Nov 2020 #86
so very sorry... handmade34 Nov 2020 #87
I cannot imagine life without him in it SoCalDem Nov 2020 #99
I cannot imagine life without him in it SoCalDem Nov 2020 #100
... peacebuzzard Nov 2020 #88
I am so sorry you lost him. redwitch Nov 2020 #90
My sincere Condolences carburyme Nov 2020 #91
My deepest condolences susanr516 Nov 2020 #92
So sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy. Miigwech Nov 2020 #93
I'm so sorry eleny Nov 2020 #94
1+... Good message! keithbvadu2 Nov 2020 #95
Oh God. ismnotwasm Nov 2020 #96
My love to you and your family. herding cats Nov 2020 #97
Heartbreaking. I'm so sorry you are carrying this pain. JudyM Nov 2020 #98
I'm so so sorry for your loss SoCalDem. joshcryer Nov 2020 #101
This message was self-deleted by its author SoCalDem Nov 2020 #102
Please go SoCalDem Nov 2020 #103
So sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing ecstatic Nov 2020 #104
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