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BainsBane

(53,001 posts)
44. It does suck
Sat Nov 21, 2020, 05:30 PM
Nov 2020

I'm sorry for your family situation. It sounds terribly difficult.

This week, I had the first major disappointment due to COVID restrictions--the first time since COVID began, despite the fact I've been working at home since March and I had a trip cancelled. MN Governor Walz announced there should be no Thanksgiving celebrations outside the household. I was planning to go to my sister's. There was going to be 5-6 of us, and we were going to wear masks and sit 6 feet apart. But my sister is taking the order literally, so I'm alone this Thanksgiving. I'm thinking it will probably extend to Christmas as well. I know my situation doesn't compare to so many others, and certainly not to the experiences of those who are sick. But still, COVID sucks.

You certainly made the right decision for everyone involved. CatMor Nov 2020 #1
For sure! SheltieLover Nov 2020 #67
COVID Sucks! Families across the nation and the world having same conversation. LizBeth Nov 2020 #2
I told my mom that I was driving down to Florida for Christmas exboyfil Nov 2020 #3
We are the same. My boys don't want to kill me, lol. One last Christmas, but the other was two LizBeth Nov 2020 #5
You made the right choice. Liberty Belle Nov 2020 #4
No, she wouldn't remember that I was there. MineralMan Nov 2020 #9
We just cancelled Christmas with our daughter in California Chalco Nov 2020 #6
Same. We are in California, and my daughter who turns 31 a week before Christmas is in NC. MoonchildCA Nov 2020 #87
If America had a competent leader things might be different young_at_heart Nov 2020 #7
It's my first Thanksgiving and Christmas without my family also. lkinwi Nov 2020 #8
It definitely sucks! We made the same decision. woodsprite Nov 2020 #10
Your reasoning is very sound Kitchari Nov 2020 #11
My parents don't use any sort of device that supports Zoom. MineralMan Nov 2020 #14
This message was self-deleted by its author sl8 Nov 2020 #29
That wouldn't work, I'm afraid. MineralMan Nov 2020 #31
Hey man,fully understand. Wellstone ruled Nov 2020 #12
Many people are facing similar decisions. MineralMan Nov 2020 #13
Oh so true. Wellstone ruled Nov 2020 #15
Had Trump encouraged mask wearing, his drooling worshippers... 3catwoman3 Nov 2020 #19
Well, at first he thought the virus was only in Blue States MineralMan Nov 2020 #23
tRump* was so intent to minimize mask wearing... Raster Nov 2020 #88
This message was self-deleted by its author marble falls Nov 2020 #16
Doing the wrong only pays off now, if at all. Doing it right pays off later and for a long time ... marble falls Nov 2020 #17
I asked my son not to come home from college. NNadir Nov 2020 #18
I saw my two daughters who were returning from their Dad's house (he's just home from CTyankee Nov 2020 #20
I realize that at 96... cannabis_flower Nov 2020 #21
That would be great, but it would also mean someone coming MineralMan Nov 2020 #25
see this for elderly setup hkp11 Nov 2020 #37
I understand. I had to tell my father I could not visit. He is not doing well at all. cayugafalls Nov 2020 #22
Thanks. It's a bad thing all around. MineralMan Nov 2020 #28
We have given up all family holidays and visits. gademocrat7 Nov 2020 #24
Heartbreaking democrank Nov 2020 #26
Doing the right thing shouldn't be painful, but it often is. CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2020 #27
Yes it is. But, doing the wrong thing could be MineralMan Nov 2020 #30
Absolutely right. n/t CaliforniaPeggy Nov 2020 #32
I understand the agony of that decision, pnwest Nov 2020 #33
Thanks. I know you understand. MineralMan Nov 2020 #35
I had to tell my family not to come home from Japan Lefta Dissenter Nov 2020 #34
There will be subclinical COVID infections even after a large vaccination program. roamer65 Nov 2020 #36
So many of us struggling with the sadness. My 97 year old LuckyLib Nov 2020 #38
for the elderly to learn about how to zoom, etc hkp11 Nov 2020 #39
I am grateful that I don't personally have PoindexterOglethorpe Nov 2020 #40
I Am Afraid to Be There When Daughter's Second Baby is Born McKim Nov 2020 #41
My 96-year-old mother informed us by email there would be NO Thanksgiving this year Brother Buzz Nov 2020 #42
What a sweet story. Metatron Nov 2020 #66
Heartbreaking but you are making the right decision malaise Nov 2020 #43
It does suck BainsBane Nov 2020 #44
.... Hekate Nov 2020 #45
Thanks for the hugs! MineralMan Nov 2020 #51
I'm just glad your father was able to understand, and of course agreed. Hortensis Nov 2020 #46
My mother is close to death.. bsiebs Nov 2020 #47
I'm so sorry. MineralMan Nov 2020 #52
My father died of stroke, and I got there the evening before he died. Klaralven Nov 2020 #60
Yes, it's one of the hardest situations ever mtnsnake Nov 2020 #48
So many are facing similar decisions. MineralMan Nov 2020 #58
Sad as it is, that was the right decision relayerbob Nov 2020 #49
I just talked to my Dad again. MineralMan Nov 2020 #54
Hope all reamins stable through that time frame. relayerbob Nov 2020 #74
My heart goes out to you...but right decision and your dad understood. iluvtennis Nov 2020 #50
Hugs and support to you for making the right decision. love_katz Nov 2020 #53
I'm so sorry, and thank you! MineralMan Nov 2020 #56
It can be hard when we have trouble explaining to our parents about why we can't do something. love_katz Nov 2020 #61
Very sorry to hear. You made the right call, but it can't feel good. It sure sucks alright. Evolve Dammit Nov 2020 #55
Thanks. DU is very supportive. MineralMan Nov 2020 #57
I took care of my parents until the end. It's not easy at all. Best wishes. ED Evolve Dammit Nov 2020 #59
You are absolutely right making that decision. Those are difficult decisions to make. Heartbreaking. LiberalFighter Nov 2020 #62
Stay safe Joinfortmill Nov 2020 #63
Stay safe Joinfortmill Nov 2020 #64
Yes, covid sucks! Heartstrings Nov 2020 #65
I have not seen my mother since April. LSFL Nov 2020 #68
This has been a terrible year Warpy Nov 2020 #69
Makes perfect sense. warmfeet Nov 2020 #70
Lotsa selfish people travelling for nary a good reason. 634-5789 Nov 2020 #71
The right choice is often the hardest. Aussie105 Nov 2020 #72
We talk every day on the phone. MineralMan Nov 2020 #79
You did the right thing... orwell Nov 2020 #73
I am 90 locks Nov 2020 #75
Yes, these are troubling times. MineralMan Nov 2020 #78
It totally does. I applaud your decision, painful as it was MaryMagdaline Nov 2020 #76
Been 15 months since we've hugged our grandkids...COVID truly sucks... spanone Nov 2020 #77
Crowded airports in Phoenix and Chicago? ShazzieB Nov 2020 #80
I'm sorry this is happening to you and your family. BobTheSubgenius Nov 2020 #81
Video calls work. eggplant Nov 2020 #82
Sorry you had to make this sacrifice... Trueblue Texan Nov 2020 #83
A dear colleague at work was diagnosed with COVID a week ago. PatrickforO Nov 2020 #84
i keep thinking it didn't have to be this way orleans Nov 2020 #85
I have been unable to go see my 92 y.o. Mom CousinIT Nov 2020 #86
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