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Ziggysmom

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75. Your story about the couple's basement is Deja Vu!
Sun Mar 7, 2021, 07:12 PM
Mar 2021

When my mom passed I could barely walk in her basement. She was young during the Great Depression and saved everything for fear of having nothing. I hauled out over 50 trash bags of old rags, empty plastic containers like those for cottage cheese or margarine, and glass jars with covers like from Mayo or jelly.

I see the fear of change and letting go daily with my husband. He has about 50 old shirts in his closet that no longer fit, but in his mind he needs them for when he gets better and we can travel. I don’t ask about them any more and go along with his travel stories, often not letting him see my eyes tear up.

I’m gonna look over in the Chronic Health Conditions Discussion and Support (Group) area on DU and see if there are other caregivers like me to chat with. It’s really lonely and depressing some days.

Best to you 🙂

This country is going tribal. aocommunalpunch Mar 2021 #1
It's Not Going Tribal RobinA Mar 2021 #80
The online system is leaving people out JI7 Mar 2021 #2
Yep I helped my mom 93 Tree Lady Mar 2021 #21
I agree,my daughter did it for me and I have pidge Mar 2021 #24
This is the problem. Dawson Leery Mar 2021 #25
It's hardto know how to solve this moonscape Mar 2021 #27
Maybe they could ... cannabis_flower Mar 2021 #33
They are doing that now in Texas pinkstarburst Mar 2021 #36
Great! cannabis_flower Mar 2021 #46
And those with relatives who think the virus is not that serious JI7 Mar 2021 #62
I think that's a great idea MustLoveBeagles Mar 2021 #65
Kick dalton99a Mar 2021 #3
K&R MustLoveBeagles Mar 2021 #4
Here in Philly BumRushDaShow Mar 2021 #5
+1000 llmart Mar 2021 #8
Agreed ....................... turbinetree Mar 2021 #9
Email and text msg. communication for isolated appalachiablue Mar 2021 #6
+1000 llmart Mar 2021 #12
This is what I've been complaining about on several threads today. llmart Mar 2021 #7
I feel like it's part of the Hunger Games or playing Mega Millions or Powerball turbinetree Mar 2021 #15
Seniors routinely use local services and get SS and Medicare. Blue_true Mar 2021 #26
They sure know how to find seniors when they want to sell them something. llmart Mar 2021 #35
Yes. You can be found when there is a dollar to be made off you. Blue_true Mar 2021 #63
This Would Have Required RobinA Mar 2021 #81
Excellent points. nt Blue_true Mar 2021 #83
I'm sorry.. they're not being Cha Mar 2021 #10
This is not about how seniors were in one of the first classes to be allowed to get the vaccine. llmart Mar 2021 #14
Ah.. sorry. They are no hoops Cha Mar 2021 #20
lucky you, others seemed to be far worse off nt Celerity Mar 2021 #22
If she lived in the ritzy Ocean Reef Club in Key Largo, Florida, where wealthy contributors sop Mar 2021 #11
Oregon Timewas Mar 2021 #13
A friend of mine in the Portland area.. Grasswire2 Mar 2021 #16
The entire Timewas Mar 2021 #18
They decided about three weeks ago to open up M&T Stadium for mass vaccination but you basically turbinetree Mar 2021 #17
The NATIVE government (not Indian, not Casino) as about to get vax obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #42
in the same boat BatteriesNotNeeded Mar 2021 #19
Its really tough most are not tech savvy Tree Lady Mar 2021 #23
This is a job for government. FEMA's mass vaccination radius777 Mar 2021 #28
+1000. Yes, EXACTLY a job for government. yonder Mar 2021 #30
Absolutely! llmart Mar 2021 #38
I am also 70, and I can't get an appointment. tblue37 Mar 2021 #29
I am 80 days from being 75 in Albuquerque and haven't even been notified. triron Mar 2021 #53
There are no "noifications" here. You hvae to go online and try to sign up for an appointment, but tblue37 Mar 2021 #58
Even if you can't use a computer you must have a telephone. Ziggysmom Mar 2021 #31
That's a pretty heartless attitude. llmart Mar 2021 #37
Heartless no. Fearful yes. Please let me explain? Ziggysmom Mar 2021 #47
Thank you for your personal story. llmart Mar 2021 #59
Your story about the couple's basement is Deja Vu! Ziggysmom Mar 2021 #75
I Tend To Be RobinA Mar 2021 #82
1. NO ONE should have to do that 2. hahahhahahhahhaha are you serious??? obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #44
It's not heartless at all. It's one side of the coin and great advice. sciencescience Mar 2021 #51
I hear you but just understand ... KentuckyWoman Mar 2021 #55
I wonder how she got so alone treestar Mar 2021 #56
My oldest sister is 80. llmart Mar 2021 #68
I have no one. KentuckyWoman Mar 2021 #73
HOPE when Biden Administration gets supply chain sorted Laura PourMeADrink Mar 2021 #32
For sure. As for force, as usual the feds are paying states to cooperate. :) Hortensis Mar 2021 #60
GA now lowest % of population vaccinated, TX fifth lowest Laura PourMeADrink Mar 2021 #72
:) Hey, TX can use a win, I don't grudge it. AK and NM are almost 24% with Hortensis Mar 2021 #74
Interesting.. How do you think low-population #s affect vaccine rollout? Laura PourMeADrink Mar 2021 #76
Fewer to vaccinate? Just a guess. Hortensis Mar 2021 #77
Lol. Been trying to figure out why Alaska is # 1 with Laura PourMeADrink Mar 2021 #78
Reverse 911 system should be used for this MoonlitKnight Mar 2021 #34
My 90-yr-old mom would have been left out if not for family Maeve Mar 2021 #39
My sister in-law is waiting for someone to call her spinbaby Mar 2021 #40
I've been playing grocery store lotto for weeks. tavernier Mar 2021 #41
Sadly, I'm not surprised that people are being left behind, area51 Mar 2021 #43
+1 appalachiablue Mar 2021 #64
Older people without younger relatives who can help them, will have a hard time LisaL Mar 2021 #45
I know a woman on Long Island in this position. She's given up. lindysalsagal Mar 2021 #48
My friend in Great Neck gets his on the tenth. 68 y.o., with Parkinson's. Grasswire2 Mar 2021 #71
This infuriates me so much cmf Mar 2021 #49
+1. Great idea dalton99a Mar 2021 #52
I'm one of them. ananda Mar 2021 #50
Where I live, Mossfern Mar 2021 #54
I have an update on my quest for a shot, I will be getting my shot tomorrow at 9:30 AM turbinetree Mar 2021 #57
Congrats, Turbine! The feds have taken on a DUTY TO VACCINATE Hortensis Mar 2021 #61
Yes they have and thank you for your thoughts turbinetree Mar 2021 #70
These people are all on Medicare how isn't it a thing that they get a call from dsc Mar 2021 #66
In NM, the state Dept of Health is the sole determiner of when you nget notified for an triron Mar 2021 #67
can't Medicare call the health Dept and say dsc Mar 2021 #69
I guess they could but doubt they do in our state since I haven't heard of it. triron Mar 2021 #79
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