When we are stressed, we tend to think in absolutes. (Reply #27)

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vanlassie (4,621 posts)

27. When we are stressed, we tend to think in absolutes.

This matters, because our thoughts seem true, at the time, with the result that we respond as if they ARE true.
Asking “Is it true that….” can help a lot.
“Is it true that I am being attacked for being a Christian?” The answer is one of three things.
TRUE. (In which case there is verifiable data to prove it.) FALSE, or I DON’T KNOW.

Next is the most important step. TELL THE TRUTH about the matter.
Maybe it would look like “I don’t like the way Christianity is being talked about these days.”
AND finally…. What do I choose to do about this?
It is not necessary to actually DO something. You might chose to do nothing. That’s a choice.

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104 replies	Author	Time	Post
I am just tired to the bone.. tired of it all.. [View all]	Peacetrain	Oct 2021	OP
I feel for you. I think many of us have reached exhaustion level. Hope things get brighter for you	Walleye	Oct 2021	#1
I find myself using the word "exhausted" a lot lately	PatSeg	Oct 2021	#8
The only thing that helps me is going out for a walk. Now cold weather is coming I don't know what	Walleye	Oct 2021	#12
I go outside whenever I can	PatSeg	Oct 2021	#40
I am sometimes immersed in British murder mysteries	Walleye	Oct 2021	#46
You too?	PatSeg	Oct 2021	#47
So true. American crime dramas are nothing but cliches, mostly. No decent writing or storyline	Walleye	Oct 2021	#48
Yes, there are very few Masterpiece programs	PatSeg	Oct 2021	#51
Yes, I am addicted	xxqqqzme	Nov 2021	#88
Oh you would love Acorn and/or BritBox	PatSeg	Nov 2021	#98
yes this.	panchobarnz	Nov 2021	#78
Welcome to DU!	PatSeg	Nov 2021	#97
Who is attacking you for being a Christian?	leftstreet	Oct 2021	#2
Hey, I'm an Atheist and got	multigraincracker	Oct 2021	#4
Can't Atheists fight over exactly WHICH god(s) they don't believe in?	JustABozoOnThisBus	Oct 2021	#45
So I'm learning.	multigraincracker	Oct 2021	#60
We believe in no god or gods, so by definition there is nothing to fight over in terms of selective	Celerity	Oct 2021	#76
Ummmm ...	soldierant	Nov 2021	#77
Calling it a metaphor is now starting to invent a different religion, as you are playing	Celerity	Nov 2021	#80
I'm interested in that also.	ret5hd	Oct 2021	#14
I'm not religious, but Christianity is frequently attacked here at DU.	BlackSkimmer	Oct 2021	#19
I'll "attack" any Abrahamic Monotheism,	maxsolomon	Oct 2021	#21
Why are you "attacking" Abrahamic Monotheism?	ECL213	Oct 2021	#26
I generally don't "attack", but I will discuss the things you mention.	maxsolomon	Oct 2021	#30
Agreed...	ECL213	Oct 2021	#54
I've seen the odd comment here and there...	ShazzieB	Nov 2021	#79
Where??? I have not seen that either...Where is this coming from?	Escurumbele	Oct 2021	#31
I've been a member here a long time.	BlackSkimmer	Nov 2021	#102
I don't identify as "christian" so not sensitive to this, but think the attacks are on Evangelicals.	lark	Nov 2021	#99
It is not usually a "you stupid Christian" attack.	Jakes Progress	Oct 2021	#22
See, that's the problem right there.	Act_of_Reparation	Nov 2021	#95
You lack theological basics.	Jakes Progress	Nov 2021	#103
When we are stressed, we tend to think in absolutes.	vanlassie	Oct 2021	#27
I wish your first paragraph in particular could be beamed into the psyche of everyone on Facebook	renate	Oct 2021	#34
I was immersed in this coursework for several years before	vanlassie	Oct 2021	#43
more words of wisdom!	renate	Oct 2021	#69
I learned thru a now 40 year old program called More To Life.	vanlassie	Oct 2021	#72
You forgot something	sarisataka	Oct 2021	#58
It is continual, even here.	ForgedCrank	Oct 2021	#66
Should I presume that was a rhetorical question?	Fortinbras Armstrong	Nov 2021	#96
It's very hard to get past those feeling.	multigraincracker	Oct 2021	#3
I am with you...	Pachamama	Oct 2021	#5
Just accept you as you	malaise	Oct 2021	#6
(((((hugs)))))	2 Meow Momma	Oct 2021	#7
Being a full or partial caretaker is a physically and	LuckyCharms	Oct 2021	#9
So sorry about your mom and all, Peacetrain.	Hortensis	Oct 2021	#10
so sorry about your mother's passing...	stillcool	Oct 2021	#11
I am sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a family member recently but other friends & colleagues	hlthe2b	Oct 2021	#13
I'm so sorry.	redwitch	Oct 2021	#15
Hang in there and sorry for your loss	kimbutgar	Oct 2021	#16
Many of us are going through this also.... and yes, it helps to share with DU..	secondwind	Oct 2021	#17
I'm sorry.	Mickju	Oct 2021	#18
You're grieving. It will get better.	maxsolomon	Oct 2021	#20
Glad we left	childfreebychoice	Oct 2021	#23
You are not alone. Not at all.	CrispyQ	Oct 2021	#24
A little blessing	KatK	Oct 2021	#25
Who is attacking you for being a Christian???? I have seen the opposite...where is that happening?	Escurumbele	Oct 2021	#28
Why the badgering and harsh words?	MerryBlooms	Oct 2021	#73
With you.	ancianita	Oct 2021	#29
I hope you will be gentle with yourself,	BlueSky3	Oct 2021	#32
Many of us are exhausted and with good reason. But , here is where I found hope today.	BarbD	Oct 2021	#33
I'm so sorry for your loss, & feeling despondent. I can relate.	CaptainTruth	Oct 2021	#35
It's stressful times for sure	BlueJac	Oct 2021	#36
Writing it down is an excellent idea.	calimary	Oct 2021	#37
Many here share your feelings	tiredtoo	Oct 2021	#38
My deepest sympathy to you, Peacetrain! I'm very sorry your mother passed. I know how you feel	LaMouffette	Oct 2021	#39
Sorry about your mother.	Jetheels	Oct 2021	#41
Oh, I'm so sorry	cally	Oct 2021	#42
You are in deep grief. Stay away from GD for awhile & explore the wealth of other groups here...	Hekate	Oct 2021	#44
Just get vaccinated and let natural selection do it's work.	roamer65	Oct 2021	#49
Forgot to add this...	Hekate	Oct 2021	#50
Hugs to you	MustLoveBeagles	Oct 2021	#52
Been there.	Texaswitchy	Oct 2021	#53
We have politics every day of the year now unfortunately.	pwb	Oct 2021	#55
You're not alone	ymetca	Oct 2021	#56
I think a lot of us are dangerously close to burning out	FakeNoose	Oct 2021	#57
Sending you hugs	MLAA	Oct 2021	#59
Wish I could give you	I_UndergroundPanther	Oct 2021	#61
Panther, I'm so sorry.	hamsterjill	Oct 2021	#64
Thanks	I_UndergroundPanther	Oct 2021	#71
So sorry about your mom.	Elessar Zappa	Oct 2021	#67
She was my best friend too	I_UndergroundPanther	Oct 2021	#70
Oh, Panther, I'm so sorry	Bettie	Nov 2021	#94
oh	markie	Oct 2021	#62
You need a hug!	lunatica	Oct 2021	#63
Amazing Underconcern For Elderly Safety From Covid	FrankTC	Oct 2021	#65
I'm really sorry for your loss. Yes, writing does help,	ecstatic	Oct 2021	#68
My deepest condolences, Peacetrain.	MerryBlooms	Oct 2021	#74
This message was self-deleted by its author	BannonsLiver	Oct 2021	#75
This is one of my favorite songs for when everything looks like crap.	ShazzieB	Nov 2021	#81
Grief	cate94	Nov 2021	#82
Sorry about the loss of your Mom	Sherman A1	Nov 2021	#83
I'm too tired to read all these comments	Roy Rolling	Nov 2021	#84
But I try to wake up early	Roy Rolling	Nov 2021	#85
And Lastly	Roy Rolling	Nov 2021	#86
i feel ya.	eggplant	Nov 2021	#87
Sorry about your loss.	Buckeye_Democrat	Nov 2021	#89
Sorry for your loss	Just_Vote_Dem	Nov 2021	#90
Breathe....	Karma13612	Nov 2021	#91
Sending you a hug.	Joinfortmill	Nov 2021	#92
Peacetrain I am so sorry for your loss.	bronxiteforever	Nov 2021	#93
I am so very sorry for your loss	drexelkathy	Nov 2021	#100
Upside down world	TFRD	Nov 2021	#101
sorry to hear that...	myohmy2	Nov 2021	#104

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