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In reply to the discussion: I hated being pregnant. [View all]Hortensis
(58,785 posts)I hope you're raising them to be strong, indepedent, competent women. But while they're young that's on their parents also.
My daughter and I were talking about this. We agreed that in those days I would have had a talk with her, hopefully before she was sexually active but thinking about it, and then we would have been off to the gynecologist. These days there are shots and implants so that I wouldn't have to watch her take a BCP every day. And I'd have an abortion pill available anyway.
And I would. We know several couples who got to raise grandchildren in their middle and retirement years because one of their kids wasn't up to the huge job. Best birth control incentive in the world.
Seriously, all the posts on this forum that portray women as even more victimized than they are likely to be are not helpful. Even worse for the notion of being helpless (!) to control their futures. I don't get the appeal of victimhood, but some who come here are really into helplessness, grievance, victim roles and may be acting them out for all we know. With or without abortion, some who didn't intend it will be be schlepping children to the park and cleaning handprints off the walls instead of lunching with friends. Mostly ex-friends, of course. Extremely different lifestyle.
Better to be empowered and proactive.