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Coventina

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Wed Nov 1, 2023, 11:51 AM Nov 2023

A close co-worker of my husband's killed himself, right after he talked to him. [View all]

He's pretty shaken up by this, as would I.

He said it was pretty obvious that he was struggling in some kind of way. Just seemed really detached and uncaring.

My husband said his last conversation with him he tried to reach out and be encouraging, but didn't really get a response.

Now that he knows what he did right after the conversation, he's second-guessing himself.

I can completely understand what he's going through, because I would be doing the same thing.
(And went through a similar experience in the summer with a co-worker of mine, if anyone remembers that).

I'm not sure what to tell him, except to keep repeating that it isn't his fault, and that he tried.

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In the past two years, five acquaintances of mine have killed themselves. Torchlight Nov 2023 #1
That's very sad--if it makes your husband feel better, I'll wager that person Wingus Dingus Nov 2023 #2
Once a person reaches that point, he/she is not thinking clearly and just want to yellowdogintexas Nov 2023 #9
This is my understanding of it, too--that once your Wingus Dingus Nov 2023 #14
Or had already made the decision to end his own life Attilatheblond Nov 2023 #20
The last voice the man chose to hear was your husband's Donkees Nov 2023 #3
I'm sorry that you and your husband have had to go through this. chowder66 Nov 2023 #4
It's not his fault. haele Nov 2023 #5
The person had made their decision. Joinfortmill Nov 2023 #6
My dad did the same thing. Had breakfast with my mom, called my sister & talked with yellowdogintexas Nov 2023 #7
Thank you! Coventina Nov 2023 #13
One thing that I learned from a counselor wnylib Nov 2023 #24
Sending you hugs. MLAA Nov 2023 #23
I'm so sorry that happened to you. yardwork Nov 2023 #26
my dad called me (out of state) to wish me a happy birthday Skittles Nov 2023 #40
Suicide is devastating for those left behind RWB3 Nov 2023 #8
I'm so sorry for your losses. yardwork Nov 2023 #27
very sorry, RWB3 Skittles Nov 2023 #41
Welcome to DU, RWB3. . . . .nt Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2023 #43
Help him safeguard his own health, physical and mental. Even seeing a doctor could help. twodogsbarking Nov 2023 #10
I had a housemate commit suicide. NNadir Nov 2023 #11
There was nothing H2O Man Nov 2023 #12
I'm very sorry that happened to you. yardwork Nov 2023 #28
Thank you. H2O Man Nov 2023 #36
When someone is determined to end the pain... TygrBright Nov 2023 #15
In my years as a therapist I knew of many suicides. nolabear Nov 2023 #16
Have your husband call the suicide prevention line ... fierywoman Nov 2023 #17
I'm so sorry. area51 Nov 2023 #18
By that time, it didn't matter if your husband encouraged him to open up Warpy Nov 2023 #19
"Suicide is hardest on people left behind..." ShazzieB Nov 2023 #21
Your second sentence is moonscape Nov 2023 #45
Suicide is a symptom of an extreme mental illness. So he died from mental illness. His thoughts Maraya1969 Nov 2023 #22
That is not always the case. JanMichael Nov 2023 #25
Choosing to end your life because you have a disease TexasBushwhacker Nov 2023 #33
Thank you for sharing crimycarny Nov 2023 #34
Thank you for brining that up. I have had ECT and it worked wonders. I say it was like Maraya1969 Nov 2023 #47
I can understand when a person has a terrible illness and does not want to suffer Maraya1969 Nov 2023 #46
Only replying to the absolute statement JanMichael Nov 2023 #49
I agree--I think for children and teens especially, it's sometimes an impulsive act, coming from a Wingus Dingus Nov 2023 #50
Decades ago, I spoke to my fiance over the phone a few hours before he killed himself. femmedem Nov 2023 #29
I lost my son to suicide 1/2022 crimycarny Nov 2023 #30
I'm very sorry, what a devastating experience. Thanks for trying to help other Wingus Dingus Nov 2023 #38
Darren Criss (Glee) writes heartfelt tribute to his brother, Charles, who died by suicide crimycarny Nov 2023 #31
Very sad Catherine Vincent Nov 2023 #32
I feel for your husband as I have been there Chicagogrl1 Nov 2023 #35
I worked on a suicide prevention hotline drmeow Nov 2023 #37
I am very sorry that happened to your husband jfz9580m Nov 2023 #39
A thousand things bring a person to the point, and one call does not trigger it Bernardo de La Paz Nov 2023 #42
you might want to check out some items in the support forum. AllaN01Bear Nov 2023 #44
There's a fellow on video jogging across the Golden Gate Bridge. shrike3 Nov 2023 #48
Ugh, so sorry IbogaProject Nov 2023 #51
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