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Wed May 22, 2024, 02:07 PM May 22

And old lady venting on Choice and the consequences of the loss of it [View all]

By way of background, I have about another year to reach full retirement age and my circumstances will be best if I get to that age before I retire and quit my job.

I’ve worked for a national home builder for about three years now. I am in Texas.

I have a coworker who is a Trump supporter and there is constant innuendo about all things right wing. I try not to engage and try to blow it off as much as I can.

Several months ago during a discussion with me, she started talking about abortion. I immediately made it known that I didn’t think we should continue the conversation because I felt we would disagree. She persisted. I finally admitted to her that I was pro-choice. She asked me when I thought a baby became a human being and I answered that my opinion was when the baby takes the first breath independent of the mother.

She commented back to me that I should “take that up with God”, to which I replied that my relationship with God (yes, I am a believer) was just fine.

Over the months since, she has started conversations about gun control, etc., and I have disengaged without much comment. These conversations are uncomfortable - whether they are allowed to go forward for a bit OR whether they are nipped immediately in the bud. They shouldn’t be happening at all, but the reality is that nothing would be done about her even if I did make a complaint to HR.

The point to this post is this: the moment that occurred months ago where she told me that I needed to “take that up with God” was a defining moment with me. In that moment, I made the determination that I could never be friends with her, or anyone like her. I have been that way all of my life. I can’t be friends with these crazies. They don’t have a place in my personal life. I am civil and cordial with her during any job related exchange. I think she thinks we are friends. We are not. I have never once done anything with her outside of the office. We’ve had the dreaded team building lunches which we’ve both attended, but I’ve never invited her to a specific lunch, had her over for dinner, etc.

Work is a toxic environment. It’s just that way sometimes, especially in Texas where few employee safeguards are left. I want to just do my job and get to the time when I can retire, say goodbye, and never see this person again.

Maybe I’m too cut and dry, but I could never be friends with anyone who doesn’t understand what it means for a woman to have control over her reproductive rights. I’m long past the age where I would ever have to worry about needing to end a pregnancy, but I will be damned if I have to spend my personal time with someone who thinks my daughter should be forced to bear a child if it was my daughter’s choice not to do that.

We must vote accordingly.

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You know you are handling your coworker just right. Good for you. Srkdqltr May 22 #1
Maybe next time TexasBushwhacker May 22 #2
Steer clear of this person. Hard to do at MOMFUDSKI May 22 #3
You're absolutely right in your response to this very pushy, and nosy person. It's none of her business what SWBTATTReg May 22 #4
Next time she approaches you, calimary May 22 #5
You have more patience than me. Grins May 22 #6
Among other things, it's such an arrogant thing to say. yorkster May 23 #25
Well according to her own Bible... orwell May 22 #7
Oh, what a perfect riposte. 3catwoman3 May 22 #11
It's not just one pushy person - they are all like this TBF May 22 #8
Sixth generation Texan here hamsterjill May 22 #10
Between Hondo DUgosh May 23 #28
They are all like this DENVERPOPS May 22 #15
bookmark Upthevibe May 23 #30
Memories of Mi'ssippi peppertree May 22 #9
stillborn child rmac3075 May 22 #12
Good for you! SARose May 22 #13
I needed to read this Marthe48 May 22 #14
Keeping the peace Dear_Prudence May 22 #16
Good for you! tazkcmo May 22 #17
Why can't you be as aggressive as she is? barbtries May 22 #18
I'm with you. Hang on, retirement is bliss. Joinfortmill May 22 #19
Right on! MLAA May 23 #20
If the opportunity presets itself KS Toronado May 23 #21
I had a maga fundie friend that had been my sister's caregiver. Hope22 May 23 #22
True, but in their small minds they think everyone is their friend because they are so wise. KS Toronado May 23 #23
Lol! Hope22 May 23 #29
We all just have a limit, right? hamsterjill May 23 #26
We try though. Hope22 May 23 #31
take that up with God? Ok, let's do that. patphil May 23 #24
I'm sorry XanaDUer2 May 23 #27
Somehow they ALWAYS assume you agree with them Freddie May 23 #32
I don't EVER assume anyone agrees with me... 3catwoman3 May 23 #34
That's the difference between "us" and "them" Freddie May 23 #35
The difference between Conservatives and Liberals on many issues is this... Caliman73 May 23 #33
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