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Mon May 27, 2024, 09:03 AM May 27

Today is my 20th anniversary at Democratic Underground. I migrated from [View all]

The Smirking Chimp and lurked for awhile before joining. I wanted to be at my 10,000th post before my anniversary, but fell short.

2004 was a dark period in my life and the kind folks at DU really helped me through it all. My husband and I were living in western NC and I had a job that I loved at a State university. Then duty called and I needed to move to GA to take care of my Dad and see him through to the end. My husband was also having health issues. He had cardiac issues as well as a below-the-knee amputation and I was worried about him getting around in all the ice/snow in the mountains. We made the move gradually over a period of about 5 months. In October I gave notice to my employer that my last day would be on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving.

On November 10th, my husband headed out to Georgia with our next-to-the-last load. He called me on Sunday to report how things were going and that was the last time I ever heard his voice. A couple of hours later, my sister called to say that he had collapsed in the kitchen at Dad's and the ambulance was on the way.

I made a few phone calls, threw some stuff in a bag, asked my neighbors to feed my cats and headed for GA. It was about 9:00 pm and I didn't stop until I got to Dad's about 4 hours later and found out that Bob had been pronounced dead on arrival at the hospital. He had a myocardial infarction and it was over in an instant. I found out later that my brother had done CPR on him until the EMT arrived.

The next day, my step son and I made arrangements for cremation and I went back to NC. That week was the darkest time of my life. The angels truly held me aloft. I packed up the rest of our stuff and finished training my replacement at my job. The end of the week, family and friends gathered at their mountain house and we drove to the top of Bob's favorite mountain to scatter his ashes. We stood around and shared our favorite memories of him, sang Amazing Grace, and then released his ashes to the wind.

That afternoon, my sister, brother and SIL, best friend, stepson and a couple of friends loaded up the rest of my belongings. The next morning, we got the cats in their carriers and left for Georgia. And here I am and will remain until the grim reaper comes for me.

I am thankful for DU and the community of support I have found here. You have helped me through days when I nearly give up in frustration over living in redneckistan, the days of desperation of working with cat rescue, dealing with health issues and breast cancer. You have also celebrated with me the joys of just being alive and living in this beautiful, wonderful world. Thank you for being here.

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Congrats malaise May 27 #1
Congratulations! 2naSalit May 27 #2
Happy anniversary SocialDemocrat61 May 27 #3
You are tough. Hermit-The-Prog May 27 #4
Congratulations on your 20th DUnniversary. This really is the most niyad May 27 #5
Happy 20th Anniversary KS Toronado May 27 #6
Congratulations on your anniversary. What a long and winding road you've travelled to reach this point. MLAA May 27 #7
Congrats. sinkingfeeling May 27 #8
Western NC is beautiful. Camped there a number of times many years ago. twodogsbarking May 27 #9
Happy Anniversary PatSeg May 27 #10
DH has CHF, and I am so so sorry. I know what it's like to take care of someone with those issues. shrike3 May 27 #11
Looking back, I don't even remember my last words to my husband. I hope I told him japple May 27 #12
Thank you. Unfortunately, CHF is wearing on the body, and he is starting to have other issues as well. shrike3 May 27 #13
Congratulations on the DU anniversary. badhair77 May 27 #14
Congratulations! Goddessartist May 27 #15
A great read...thanks for posting !!!! Karadeniz May 27 #16
greetings fellow long time member of du. congrats on your milestone. AllaN01Bear May 27 #17
Such a lovely post. I am so glad DU was here to help you through it all. You are a survivor but we ratchiweenie May 27 #18
Congratulations on your 20th DU Anniversary, japple Niagara May 27 #19
Thank you for sharing your story with us Wild blueberry May 27 #20
Happy Anniversary!! nt TBF May 27 #21
Congrats on your DUversary BumRushDaShow May 27 #22
20 years is quite a milestone. Congratulations! pandr32 May 27 #23
Congratulations on 20 years FemDemERA May 27 #24
Blessings to you on your DUanniversary! May your future be the brightest yet! keopeli May 27 #25
Congrats on your 20th anniversary. iluvtennis May 27 #26
Glad you've been here so long, Bayard May 27 #27
Congrats! ProfessorGAC May 27 #28
I just want to give you a hug. Nevilledog May 27 #29
Congratulations! Happy 20th Anniversary.. c-rational May 27 #30
Congratulations to another 20 year member of DU LetMyPeopleVote May 27 #31
Happy 20th! hermetic May 27 #32
Thank you, hermetic, for your friendship, and for japple May 27 #36
Congrats on the 20th! 70sEraVet May 27 #33
Congratulations! Deep State Witch May 27 #34
The honor is ours, japple. calimary May 27 #35
Feel free to use redneckistan. I think I must have borrowed it somewhere along japple May 27 #37
🌺 So glad you came, and so glad you stayed. Happy anniversary. Hekate May 27 #38
Found DU about the same time. Lurked for a decade or more but it kept me largely sane. Evolve Dammit May 27 #39
Congrats and the warmest of hugs Stinky The Clown May 27 #40
Happy birthday sister. mahina May 27 #41
Thank you for this post, peacebuzzard May 27 #42
Congrats!! AmBlue May 28 #43
Congrats we are close Tree Lady May 28 #44
You help make DU a better place and we love that you are here! William769 May 28 #45
Wow! I am so sorry for what you've been through, but it's lucky for us that you made your way here Rhiannon12866 May 28 #46
A toast to your resilience. oasis May 28 #47
Congratulations Emile May 28 #48
Congrats on this milestone! Oopsie Daisy May 28 #49
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