all in the raising of. but that is the same with our boys. i am as much on the boys side as they are being conditioned and taught by society. the society that teaches girls are a fuck, male sexuality is all powerful, hits both genders.

then we grow up. we hope. older women are not the same easy prey as our younger girls. and she really needs to see it as that, cause that is how some boys are going to see her.

that is the age they are just walking into this and have the least confidence. and these young women are preyed on. older men are very good at it and know just what they are doing and why they go after the less than confident. even the girls that say they are good with the older man do it for self acceptance. 5 yrs down the road, they will admit that they were being used and happened cause of their naivete.

i have talked to my niece forever. when 12 yrs old sittin amongst a table of boys who bring up hooters and go on and on. it is about intimidating, making the girls feel uncomfortable. have power over the girls. 13 at a restaurant with a friend of hers, and an older woman, a friend of mine. the waiter rubs his crotch on her. all three sat quietly. WTF.... speak up, loud. make yourself heard. never sit there quietly. my friend told me, it was getting late, she didnt want to cause problems walking out to the car in the dark.

i told her and the girls, the very worst lesson to teach these girls, head down, mouth shut. could anyone imagine me keeping my mouth shut.

empowering the girls before they walk out the door is the best.

i told my niece about drinking, and about every bad situation had to do with drinking. i still touch base with her on how that is going. still watching out for others. that it is our job to watch out for each other.

date rape drug. a fun one. just one drink. not drunk. what is happening. must be drunk. but, didnt finish one drink. all kinds of rules with that possibility.

being aware, being confident, being empowered, having her voice are her best weapons, but the truth is in this thread. it is not about the girls. it is about our boys. in a culture that continually teach them in all ways, in all things that a girls job is to service them. that it is all about the male sexuality. let her have the gift that if she wants sex, it is as much her right as the guys. that it is hers to speak up for, not present to the guy as if it is a gift. it is no more her giving it to him, as it is him giving it to her. let her be empowered in her sexuality.

on edit... not one thing about dress.