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In reply to the discussion: Why victim-blaming is ALWAYS wrong. [View all]bettyellen
(47,209 posts)Realize you are not being helpful at all.
It's a day late and contributes to this negative narrative while contributing zilch.
People may learn the lesson and may be more careful, or they will be trusting and fooled by just one person. We've all trusted the wrong person at one point or another.
It's the way of the world. Everyone who's going to learn to be careful in a way you have he impulse to suggest will pick up on that simply by reading about the incident. You're not injecting anything new or helpful.
I know it's a human impulse to "help" but you're actually hurting thousands more who are more likely to blame themselves because of what you say. And your normalizing the horrible way victims are treated, so you unwittingly contribute to the problem.
Not helpful at all. Do us a favor and ask yourself, am I just rehashing advice that women always get thrown at them? If so, please stop.