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In reply to the discussion: There seems to be a lot of confusion about benevolent sexism. [View all]redqueen
(115,103 posts)I wonder just how many men even still think and act this way.
I'd think most men would hold the door open for other men, too. I haven't really paid much attention. I do notice the shocked looks when I open the door for men, though. And some men will even refuse to go through, and insist that I go first.
The way I see it, simply not knowing the context, or not knowing it's benevolent sexism doesn't make it any less sexist.
I do agree that people should stop being defensive and just learn. We've all done many stupid things out of ignorance. The important thing is to not be resistant to information simply because your fee fees are hurt or you feel all personally insulted. That ego-serving bullshit helps no one, least of all the person deciding to become knowledge-resistant because it helps assuage their ego.