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In reply to the discussion: Just ripped a co-worker. Now I feel terrible. [View all]delrem
(9,688 posts)There's something quite a bit off about how the relationship with co-worker and the conflict was presented. I couldn't imagine myself in either role, re any issue.
I've learned from people in odd ways. One memorable instance was when I was in my 20's, at university and talking with a young woman who, it turns out, was very well traveled among interesting circles as her parents were part of some ambassadorial entourage. I said something typically clueless about Mao, after which I learned that she had lived several years in China and what she said was simply this: Mao made sure the people were fed. I was taken aback and to be honest, didn't understand, and had nothing to say, but what she said stayed with me when so much else didn't. What makes the exchange stand out was both her matter of factness and non-judgmentality. I'm quite sure that if there were any trace whatever, however implicit, of a request for apology, or acquiescence to a politically superior view, I wouldn't remember a damned thing. Not a thing.