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gollygee

(22,336 posts)
103. Then why do you keep replying about stuff other than entitlement?
Mon Mar 25, 2013, 08:01 AM
Mar 2013

You keep saying you get it, some people want sex some people don't, but you don't say a word about the belief that someone is entitled to sex if they spend a certain amount, which is the point of the whole thing.

that would be one of four reasons i never allowed a man to buy me dinner. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #1
same here musette_sf Mar 2013 #41
What are the other three? intheflow Mar 2013 #61
How about... cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #80
that was progressive /nt demwing Mar 2013 #104
Go and read her other posts from anywhere. It's accurate. Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #106
only to the most insecure of men. many more men recognize that i see them in a way seabeyond Mar 2013 #107
There is a difference between challenging various culture mores that need to be changed and flat Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #114
really? you have never heard men "joke" that a woman gets paid for sex, one way or another? seabeyond Mar 2013 #117
See above, I added more. Insulting you? Have you looked at the swath of vitriol you Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #119
and again, "bitterness"? more personal insult that you have no knowledge and yet, not addressing seabeyond Mar 2013 #120
Project much? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #121
ah come one. you can do better than that. that does not even make sense. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #136
god forbid Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #150
The moment you say, "you catch more flies with honey" or "if you took a softer tone" Squinch Mar 2013 #157
yeah SmileyRose Mar 2013 #158
I could have said delusional ranting. But I thought I'd be polite. Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #190
Oh. It's a shame you weren't able to achieve that, then. Maybe if you practice more? Squinch Mar 2013 #193
Your attempts at sarcasm really needs work Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #195
Or maybe practice won't help you. But we all still hold onto the hope! Have a lovely day. Squinch Mar 2013 #196
Ooo..I suppose that was an attempt... right? Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #197
Rec. AnotherMcIntosh Mar 2013 #187
PATRIARCHY is the chervilant Mar 2013 #188
to tell SOME men not to treat or think of us as prostitutes is to hate men. dontcha know. seabeyond Mar 2013 #189
And, still, chervilant Mar 2013 #194
Do you remember the post a short while back Squinch Mar 2013 #198
omg this is DU not elehhhhna Mar 2013 #208
Nuff said, LOL southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #151
Yes, because all men are knuckle-dragging Neanderthals who want to Arkana Mar 2013 #202
generally i made as much if not more, i never take from anyone. i do not like "owing" people, seabeyond Mar 2013 #99
Didn't really answer my question but intheflow Mar 2013 #122
you asked what the other three were. seabeyond Mar 2013 #138
Oh, sorry. intheflow Mar 2013 #144
Same here until we knew each other much better. Warpy Mar 2013 #82
If you're shelling 100 pounds on a first date, you're doing something wrong Xipe Totec Mar 2013 #2
100 pounds in London or 100 dollars in Manhattan is common for dinner for two at a restaurant with stevenleser Mar 2013 #108
As I said, if you're shelling 100 bucks on a first date you're doing it wrong Xipe Totec Mar 2013 #127
Super misleading headline. TroglodyteScholar Mar 2013 #3
So 4 out of 5 don't expect it whatchamacallit Mar 2013 #4
It is the original headline and I look at it this way The Straight Story Mar 2013 #6
So you used that headline for the same reason your source did. UnrepentantLiberal Mar 2013 #24
No, wish folks would read my other ops more - I try to use original headlines The Straight Story Mar 2013 #25
This message was self-deleted by its author markiv Mar 2013 #8
good point treestar Mar 2013 #64
Far too many OP's start with bullshit headlines BeyondGeography Mar 2013 #102
I know a few DUers who tend to characterize a small percentage of the group hughee99 Mar 2013 #140
If it's a basket of riblets at Applebee's, you're safe, ladies. TwilightGardener Mar 2013 #5
Doesn't work that way with my wife. yourout Mar 2013 #7
Huge turn-off FreeJoe Mar 2013 #46
There would be a difference between married and dating. LiberalFighter Mar 2013 #125
I know what you mean... PCIntern Mar 2013 #47
^DUzy alert, folks!^ PotatoChip Mar 2013 #118
Light bulb.......lol. I am a little slow tonight. yourout Mar 2013 #141
Sorry-this comes off as really kinda clueless and demeaning. WCLinolVir Mar 2013 #184
The last time she sprung for steak, I knew I didn't have to make the first move. Eleanors38 Mar 2013 #204
I'm poor so... white castle it is =p n/t JesterCS Mar 2013 #58
mmmm I LOVE White Castle Skittles Mar 2013 #93
If it's your wife, you're not dropping your money on her--you're dropping money that belongs... Moonwalk Mar 2013 #85
I have better luck getting her interested by doing the dishes. yourout Mar 2013 #86
I don't believe I've ever taken someone to dinner at an MineralMan Mar 2013 #9
Momma always taught me get the sex first and pay/buy dinner later The Straight Story Mar 2013 #10
Well, I've never had the money available for first dates MineralMan Mar 2013 #14
Smart Momma! If it takes money to get the sex, it ain't worth it IMO. RKP5637 Mar 2013 #76
Me neither. Because when I met my wife I had pretty much no money, Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #12
Yes, that's always an issue, especially for young folks. MineralMan Mar 2013 #20
Just another reason why you're my kinda guy, MinMan Hekate Mar 2013 #69
are you rubbing your hands with glee at the possible Whisp Mar 2013 #11
Ah well, such is not my fault The Straight Story Mar 2013 #15
Wow. You started a thread about mosques being burned down, and nobody replied? Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #17
Probably because they left the last two churches there: The Straight Story Mar 2013 #19
I posted about pubic grooming once. I think there were some 600 replies. Scuba Mar 2013 #33
I see it a little differently. Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #16
Sounds just like hiring a prostitute to me. ananda Mar 2013 #13
yes. and many times, yes often, we have had men say on du... pay for it one way or another. nt seabeyond Mar 2013 #18
One in five men said that he “expects” sex if he spends more than 100 pounds Zorra Mar 2013 #21
If a women feels obliged to have sex after an expensive dinner... Auntie Bush Mar 2013 #22
The difference is that the prostitute can spend the money on whatever she wants... Moonwalk Mar 2013 #87
Proves a woman is better off being a prostitute than an expensive dinner date. Auntie Bush Mar 2013 #131
Stop Gender discrimination in the Workplace, shatter the glass ceiling, pay men and women equally Tom Rinaldo Mar 2013 #23
Well, you are getting your wish for equal pay. RC Mar 2013 #28
I couldn't do it Ter Mar 2013 #35
you echo me exactly Skittles Mar 2013 #94
They needed a study for this? Initech Mar 2013 #26
How horrible! 99Forever Mar 2013 #27
yes. how men that think "all women are whores one way or another" justifies their little joke seabeyond Mar 2013 #30
What the.. 99Forever Mar 2013 #32
You really don't understand what she meant by that? Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #70
Maybe they're processing... very very slowly... the pace is glacial... Squinch Mar 2013 #173
It's amazing how knuckle dragging woman haters can be grouped with progressives. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #175
I like the way Squinch Mar 2013 #178
I am often ashamed to be a man. And by often I mean all the time. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #180
No, don't do that. Squinch Mar 2013 #182
ha seabeyond Mar 2013 #185
Well, you know you are one of the brave souls, right? Squinch Mar 2013 #186
i especially appreciated the last paragraph. seabeyond Mar 2013 #183
You have serious issues. Wow. Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #62
That is a correct (albeit WAY understated) assessment. 2ndAmForComputers Mar 2013 #68
Well, I try to be polite. To a point. :) Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #71
Your restraint is remarkable. 2ndAmForComputers Mar 2013 #72
My Kendo sensei required us to show good form, both on the sparring floor and off. It sort of stuck Katashi_itto Mar 2013 #74
Wow. You got a whole little bro pack really upset when you pointed out the obvious to them. Squinch Mar 2013 #172
really, huh. hear this little joke for decades. but on du, the bros are all huh???? lol. seabeyond Mar 2013 #174
The problem is the word "expects" gollygee Mar 2013 #50
Gimme a freakin' break... 99Forever Mar 2013 #54
How is that relevant? gollygee Mar 2013 #56
That's the old fashioned way treestar Mar 2013 #65
Ah, I see. So, it's OK to spend a lot of money to get women MineralMan Mar 2013 #110
Make stupid assumptions much? 99Forever Mar 2013 #111
No. MineralMan Mar 2013 #112
Perfect 99Forever Mar 2013 #113
You forgot to say "much". Iggo Mar 2013 #205
Lol! Squinch Mar 2013 #209
I'd call other people self-righteous too... LanternWaste Mar 2013 #115
I wonder if theKed Mar 2013 #29
Breaking news flash! Botany Mar 2013 #31
It's the word "expects" gollygee Mar 2013 #51
Breaking news flash! Botany Mar 2013 #59
It isn't about whether someone is "looking forward" to sex either gollygee Mar 2013 #75
"Do you understand the difference?" Botany Mar 2013 #88
You're still not getting the entitlement issue gollygee Mar 2013 #98
I understand what entitled means ..... I got a 2.3 from Ohio U Botany Mar 2013 #100
Then why do you keep replying about stuff other than entitlement? gollygee Mar 2013 #103
Because this is like a big cat toy Botany Mar 2013 #109
Awww! That doggie is adorable. smirkymonkey Mar 2013 #143
Cute doggie! smirkymonkey Mar 2013 #142
Fine ..... get the pizza, salad, and wine btw ..... Botany Mar 2013 #148
Sure, no problem. But I could do without you. smirkymonkey Mar 2013 #149
Fine by me Botany Mar 2013 #164
Is HOPING FOR the same as "expecting"? n/t cherokeeprogressive Mar 2013 #34
I don't think just hoping for would be a story gollygee Mar 2013 #52
see, and I expect a good meal after providing my usual top notch sexual experience. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #147
I am assuming that you, like me, have been on the receiving end of this and we understand the next Squinch Mar 2013 #177
Back in the day I never thought I needed to tularetom Mar 2013 #36
My better half insisted on paying for herself on our first date MannyGoldstein Mar 2013 #37
And some men expect sex after taking their dates to the drive-thru at McDonalds. edbermac Mar 2013 #38
+1 quaker bill Mar 2013 #96
if I spent that much for food olddots Mar 2013 #39
DING DING DING WE have a WINNAH!!!!! cliffordu Mar 2013 #40
Expensive meals are an effective strategy for sex LittleBlue Mar 2013 #42
we see which men would have voted that ya, spend money on a date, she owes ya. got it. no surprise seabeyond Mar 2013 #43
Does "one in five" really entitle the broad use of "men" in the headline? Matariki Mar 2013 #44
You have to consider the source (the OP). n/t flvegan Mar 2013 #45
The source is The Hindustan Times. (?!!) Demoiselle Mar 2013 #49
It wasn't a very well worded headline gollygee Mar 2013 #53
Just give me the money. Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #48
LOL. polly7 Mar 2013 #63
+1 LiberalLoner Mar 2013 #97
A minority of men expect sex after dropping two bills on dinner. Iggo Mar 2013 #55
Kind of tough to rationalize it, much better to trivialize it instead LanternWaste Mar 2013 #123
The possibility that 20% of men ever feel *entitled* to sex is a problem. antigone382 Mar 2013 #156
I'm also disappointed it's not five out of five. Iggo Mar 2013 #160
agree. AsahinaKimi Mar 2013 #161
There is the point right there. I think many of the men here who are brushing this off are not Squinch Mar 2013 #179
Yes, and chervilant Mar 2013 #192
Duh. aquart Mar 2013 #57
As it has been for milllenia GETPLANING Mar 2013 #60
I find that to be age dependent...after an expensive dinner most men I know HereSince1628 Mar 2013 #66
The only thing I expect after an expensive dinner date is to expect to have to use the men's room. goodthanksandyou Mar 2013 #67
Ha, I had a date who got upset when I wouldn't go to bed with him on our one and only date Lydia Leftcoast Mar 2013 #73
I can see why it was your one and only, and what a jerk. polly7 Mar 2013 #81
Well, there are customary norms. Deep13 Mar 2013 #77
Expecting is nothing like *getting* Raine1967 Mar 2013 #78
Right. Expectations and disappointment are facts of life. nt Deep13 Mar 2013 #139
Men expect a lot of things they no right to expect. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #79
I wonder... Mike Nelson Mar 2013 #83
I take all my first dates to the BK Lounge (Burger King). bluedigger Mar 2013 #84
Well, yes, of course. Except sometimes, it's going to be by yourself. n/t Ian David Mar 2013 #89
not me arely staircase Mar 2013 #90
My experience is that they expect sex no matter what they spend. Cleita Mar 2013 #91
Along with a not insignificant number temporary311 Mar 2013 #133
IME you and Cleita are right. nt raccoon Mar 2013 #137
I've never spent a hundred bucks on a meal for me and some girl madokie Mar 2013 #92
That's right. I usually figure that when she spends that much on me, she's after me lucky charms. Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #95
Ya gotta love this light thread reaches 100 responses! Don't know what it means. graham4anything Mar 2013 #101
I enjoy the system my girlfriend and I have we alternate who pays it's worked for 5 years Arcanetrance Mar 2013 #105
The only think I expect after an expensive dinner is a wee bit of heart-burn LanternWaste Mar 2013 #116
Guys who drop that kind of cash with the expectation of sex are idiots and are pretty lazy MrScorpio Mar 2013 #124
+1, this "entitled to sex" mentality is NOT healthy sexuality. alp227 Mar 2013 #154
Sex is better on an empty stomach Auggie Mar 2013 #126
+1 Go Vols Mar 2013 #146
Speak for yourself friend. You can also get some pretty nasty STDs southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #152
How can empty stomach sex lead to STDs? Auggie Mar 2013 #166
Empty stomach or not and no matter how hard you try having many partners southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #167
Thank you, southernyankeebelle ... Auggie Mar 2013 #169
your welcome. Sometimes there is a bigger picture. southernyankeebelle Mar 2013 #171
I cooked dinner for my boyfriend's birthday last night and spent £100 on it. sibelian Mar 2013 #128
spent much more than that--it was called a wedding reception--and i did have some expectations dembotoz Mar 2013 #129
So only 1 in 5 men are cads as measured this way? yellowcanine Mar 2013 #130
Ah, this I agree with. Statistics & Karma. Eleanors38 Mar 2013 #206
I guess we should be pleased that 80% of men DON'T expect sex, no matter how much they spend. kdmorris Mar 2013 #132
The headline "4 out of 5 men are decent enough blokes" temporary311 Mar 2013 #134
No, it probably wouldn't kdmorris Mar 2013 #135
I dunno, I usually feel a little bloated after a spiced ham or what have you... Dr Fate Mar 2013 #145
Stupid me I've been putting out everytime a chick buys me a drink. Exultant Democracy Mar 2013 #153
Always insist on sex first. JVS Mar 2013 #155
I definitely expect it first. That way you can find out if you really like them enough cbdo2007 Mar 2013 #159
DURING Warren DeMontague Mar 2013 #163
Does 'expect' mean 'feel entitled to' or 'anticipate'? RedCappedBandit Mar 2013 #162
The choice of the word 'expect'... Bay Boy Mar 2013 #165
Which is why I pay. jessie04 Mar 2013 #168
Women expect more expensive things after expensive dinner dates: study cbdo2007 Mar 2013 #170
Study: Expensive demands narrative is lame Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #176
Sounds like you are Squinch Mar 2013 #201
In other news.... SoCalNative Mar 2013 #181
Mr. Rathbone, it's time for your close-up slackmaster Mar 2013 #191
I would feel just terrible if I thought ... dawg Mar 2013 #199
.... seabeyond Mar 2013 #200
Personally, I expect sex DURING the meal. Screw this "after dinner" crap. Arkana Mar 2013 #203
You know what I expect? Nothing Rex Mar 2013 #207
Um, yeah...who the hell spends the equivalent of $150 on dinner?? Blue_Tires Mar 2013 #210
Well, maybe a blow job sfpcjock Mar 2013 #211
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