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In reply to the discussion: Victim-blaming and woman-shaming claim another victim [View all]IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)"Slut Shaming" - of which she was FALSELY ACCUSED - may have been a "secondary" problem, but *In My Opinion* the *REAL PROBLEMS* were that
1) She Was Raped.
2) EVERYONE knew she was Raped.
3) NO ONE Cared / There Was No Justice.
4) She was told SHE was responsible for her suffering.
5) She felt HELPLESS to prevent it occurring in the future.
When you tie it up with what I perceive to be NONSENSE about "slut shaming" while pretending the word doesn't even exist, or doesn't mean what it has meant for centuries, you seem to be missing the real points/sounding like a person with a specific agenda:
For you, "slut shaming" seems to be the problem, which you associate with "victim blaming" - for me, four rapists raped a girl, and she didn't feel safe because NOTHING HAPPENED TO THEM.
Our culture does not currently empower people to seek their own justice; as a civilization, we rely on police and our judicial system, which despite a record number of incarcerated citizens, does not satisfy the burning urge for justice for most crime victims, with an especial heinous record of abject failure to those who are victims of sexual crimes.
In my opinion, *this* is the real double-standard: "Trust that justice will be served/do not enact your own." When it fails, there is no sense of personal safety.
I wish she had killed the boys instead of herself. Unfortunately, that is not how we train our citizens, and odds are good these guys will commit future crimes (if they haven't already). There was no justice, the victim is dead, and the criminals roam free and are celebrated for their behavior.
As I said, "slut shaming" is the *least* of the problems this case brings up for me.