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this is so far beyond sickening. . . niyad Apr 2013 #1
the phrasing "educate ... about what's appropriate behavior" makes me vomit nadine_mn Apr 2013 #124
apparently this guy is in deep s*** for some remarks he made a few months ago in niyad Apr 2013 #127
Yep. Reminds me of the US commercial media's Steubenville coverage alp227 Apr 2013 #150
I'm relieved local news is handling this one a bit better so far, at least Posteritatis Apr 2013 #206
They know. They also know they can get away with it. Education won't do it. TheMadMonk Apr 2013 #156
K&R. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #2
lol, so you can't even spell out "slut" quinnox Apr 2013 #3
What is a "slut"? zappaman Apr 2013 #5
good point quinnox Apr 2013 #12
why don't you tell us BainsBane Apr 2013 #40
I'll let this woman tell you... zappaman Apr 2013 #48
does that fit the circumstances of a young woman BainsBane Apr 2013 #56
You asked a question.. zappaman Apr 2013 #77
no, you didn't answer BainsBane Apr 2013 #132
"when shew as working as the comic" JI7 Apr 2013 #76
Do you find this case amusing? MineralMan Apr 2013 #173
Yes, Zappaman..Why don't you tell us? whathehell Apr 2013 #61
Sure.! zappaman Apr 2013 #73
"Sure" my ass. whathehell Apr 2013 #88
What's your definition? zappaman Apr 2013 #89
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #114
Actually it can be applied to both genders... zappaman Apr 2013 #115
looking at the hidden post and yours, one notices that they seem to be identical. niyad Apr 2013 #119
It isn't applied to both genders BainsBane Apr 2013 #133
Sure it is. zappaman Apr 2013 #134
You do realize this OP is about a dead rape victim? BainsBane Apr 2013 #137
Sure it matters. zappaman Apr 2013 #139
It's not a different matter BainsBane Apr 2013 #140
dictionary BainsBane Apr 2013 #138
So that settles it then. zappaman Apr 2013 #145
I'll explain it to you BainsBane Apr 2013 #147
Not sure... zappaman Apr 2013 #158
Game time is over. BainsBane Apr 2013 #159
Damn. zappaman Apr 2013 #160
Like you had 5 hours ago? BainsBane Apr 2013 #163
yes zappaman Apr 2013 #164
Read my earlier replies to that question. BainsBane Apr 2013 #166
To this in particular BainsBane Apr 2013 #167
Obviously she wasn't. zappaman Apr 2013 #168
This is clearly pointless BainsBane Apr 2013 #170
Sure, your male friend's define themselves as a s**ts sbecause they are proud Luminous Animal Apr 2013 #161
What about the females I know that identify themselves as sluts? zappaman Apr 2013 #162
Read the article linked to in the OP. How is the term used? BainsBane Apr 2013 #165
when was the last time a man was shamed for having several partners? BainsBane Apr 2013 #136
+1 JustAnotherGen Apr 2013 #176
you think this is FUNNY? did it occur to you that some of us will refuse to use a word that is niyad Apr 2013 #6
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #11
remdi95 niyad Apr 2013 #15
This message was self-deleted by its author Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #118
So, the real outrage to you is uppity feminists geek tragedy Apr 2013 #16
If that's an ally BainsBane Apr 2013 #144
You are censoring others' writing BainsBane Apr 2013 #46
+1 LiberalLoner Apr 2013 #83
This message was self-deleted by its author niyad Apr 2013 #57
it is spelled out in the article, people often don't spell out things like the N word, F word JI7 Apr 2013 #9
Thank you for showing everyone what a pro-equality geek tragedy Apr 2013 #13
sadly, most of us are not the least bit surprised. niyad Apr 2013 #17
I wish feminists would stop picking on natural allies geek tragedy Apr 2013 #19
supremely grateful. saves getting a new scratching post niyad Apr 2013 #25
yeh, if only we were nicer to guys like that Whisp Apr 2013 #102
Submitted without comment geek tragedy Apr 2013 #121
If I had a dime for every time I'd heard that BainsBane Apr 2013 #153
come on, man Cali_Democrat Apr 2013 #14
so, what should my reaction be? quinnox Apr 2013 #22
Perhaps outrage about what happend to this poor girl? Cali_Democrat Apr 2013 #26
I didn't realize we all had to share your reactions... quinnox Apr 2013 #31
Thank you, you can leave now. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #34
you are very welcome quinnox Apr 2013 #36
Maybe focus more on the actual crime/tragedy? nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #28
understood quinnox Apr 2013 #35
I'm not in the business of telling people what to think. Because it pisses me off when others nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #44
don't hold your breath on that one niyad Apr 2013 #87
How about discussing the actual subject instead geek tragedy Apr 2013 #33
Just a tad bit of compassion for the victim of a gang rape would be a respectable reaction. Jamastiene Apr 2013 #41
You left out accusations of satanism quinnox Apr 2013 #49
I don't even consider Satanism all that big of a deal. Jamastiene Apr 2013 #63
+infinity geek tragedy Apr 2013 #64
zing BainsBane Apr 2013 #81
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #82
Thank you! smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #90
You are most welcome. whathehell Apr 2013 #110
Out of this whole thread, that's the *one thing* you focus on? nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #24
Maybe when you reach puberty you might understand. (nt) jeff47 Apr 2013 #29
Now you have to edit other people's writing BainsBane Apr 2013 #37
he's looking to start a flamewar so his posse geek tragedy Apr 2013 #42
and apparently they did niyad Apr 2013 #117
considering who you are replying to, opiate69 Apr 2013 #142
... theKed Apr 2013 #149
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #43
Your concern for a young sexually assault victim now deceased BainsBane Apr 2013 #51
He said above he thinks this discussion is funny. nt geek tragedy Apr 2013 #53
Yes, I know BainsBane Apr 2013 #59
Jury results (a microcosm of why DU sucks on gender issues) geek tragedy Apr 2013 #45
Fucking hell. This site, sometimes. (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #58
Another post of his did get hidden, so we geek tragedy Apr 2013 #62
It's divisive in the same way Obama is divisive BainsBane Apr 2013 #68
It's divisive in the way that seeking marriage geek tragedy Apr 2013 #70
Exactly! BainsBane Apr 2013 #71
Geek, excuse me, but whathehell Apr 2013 #93
If an earlier post gets nuked it can look like the person's still posting. Posteritatis Apr 2013 #106
Okay, thanks. n/t whathehell Apr 2013 #109
"voted 2-4 to LEAVE IT ALONE." (nt) jeff47 Apr 2013 #113
Wrong post.. Try this one: whathehell Apr 2013 #116
are you juror #6? hfojvt Apr 2013 #131
I'm sure she is physically capbable of typing it out but she prefers not to. Luminous Animal Apr 2013 #55
Kick. Luminous Animal Apr 2013 #146
lol, do you find it just as funny when people choose whathehell Apr 2013 #67
your reaction to this thread is to LOL? Is there ice in your blood? bettyellen Apr 2013 #69
In India, gang rape results in mass protests in the street BainsBane Apr 2013 #74
this gang rape was a "first world problem" and we're just SJWs typing about it all...... bettyellen Apr 2013 #78
SJWs? BainsBane Apr 2013 #79
"Social justice warrior." (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #112
that's a term to be proud of BainsBane Apr 2013 #128
It's like PC, only mindless adolescents think its a bad thing. LOL bettyellen Apr 2013 #148
Unbelievable gaspee Apr 2013 #84
As someone who's gotten annoyed at the "word police" mindwalker_i Apr 2013 #155
child pornography is not a community issue niyad Apr 2013 #4
Because as people keep telling us, revealing pictures of girls and women are going to be shared redqueen Apr 2013 #7
as I said, beyond sickening niyad Apr 2013 #8
Cops not taking rape and domestic violence seriously? geek tragedy Apr 2013 #21
Reminds me of that Canadian girl who hanged herself LittleBlue Apr 2013 #10
Online isn't 'at school'... the problem is cultural. redqueen Apr 2013 #23
I still think the school shouldn't get off the hook LittleBlue Apr 2013 #38
It's a few years back, but I attended one of those schools Posteritatis Apr 2013 #50
That's crazy LittleBlue Apr 2013 #105
I agree with you that schools should do more. redqueen Apr 2013 #66
should be mandatory for schools to report to the local police. colleges sure don't. bettyellen Apr 2013 #75
The girl in Canada was beaten up and nothing was done LittleBlue Apr 2013 #80
Yes, Amanda Todd. redqueen Apr 2013 #92
And every. Single. Fucking. Time. People pile on to blame the victim. It's infuriating. (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #27
They want to believe it can't happen to them. Or to the women in their lives, if they're male. nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #30
Yep. Or that they deserve anything they get if it happens. (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #39
there is a big "she asked for it" in all of this JI7 Apr 2013 #47
I find it telling that a lot of local news sites disabled comments on articles about this. (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #52
that is interesting, i hope some outside reporters go in there and check it out JI7 Apr 2013 #65
Oh, local media will go on the warpath about this Posteritatis Apr 2013 #72
Thank you, Posteritatis. redqueen Apr 2013 #86
140-year-old still-independent papers Get Things Done. Posteritatis Apr 2013 #97
"...and anything touching on bullying or most forms of rape draw them like flies..." nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #95
A mix of that and purely conventional victim-blaming, pretty much. Posteritatis Apr 2013 #99
My response: "Yeah, all that bullying turned you into a fine human being. I can really tell." nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #111
I think of it almost like separating the "wheat" from the "chaff." The "worthy" from the "unworthy." nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #60
it happened before also but the internet, texting etc does make it worse JI7 Apr 2013 #32
"it quickly went viral" Union Scribe Apr 2013 #18
And then think of all the kids prosecuted for consensual (albeit underage) "sexting." nomorenomore08 Apr 2013 #54
Her high school - the second one she went to try to get away from this - is right next to my house. Posteritatis Apr 2013 #20
Posteritatis, since you're from the area, I as a lifelong American have some Q's. alp227 Apr 2013 #151
I'll take a crack at those Posteritatis Apr 2013 #204
This is repeated victimization Prism Apr 2013 #85
and absolutely nothing will happen--read what the nova scotia justice minister said (reply #1) niyad Apr 2013 #94
He's (1) toast and (2) trying to change his tune slightly Posteritatis Apr 2013 #103
Thank you for this post. nt redqueen Apr 2013 #100
So heartbreaking. n/t TDale313 Apr 2013 #91
All those euphemisms only mean one thing. 'Boys will be boys. Think of their careers!' freshwest Apr 2013 #96
"Just a girl" redqueen Apr 2013 #104
... TDale313 Apr 2013 #107
tears baby. i am just in tears. i wish... so wish, there were people to stand up for you, loudly. seabeyond Apr 2013 #123
A girl's life cut short BainsBane Apr 2013 #141
This is absolutely disgusting and incredibly heartbreaking. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #98
Thank you for posting this. nt SunSeeker Apr 2013 #101
Thanks for the alert IrishAyes Apr 2013 #108
Post removed Post removed Apr 2013 #120
Terrible story. Warren DeMontague Apr 2013 #122
k/r witj sadness. 840high Apr 2013 #125
I am so ashamed because riverbendviewgal Apr 2013 #126
So very sad... chervilant Apr 2013 #129
This is unbelievably sad... one_voice Apr 2013 #130
This is so heartbreaking. DURHAM D Apr 2013 #135
It's a terrible tragedy. Bonobo Apr 2013 #143
Canada's Steubenville. Were her rapists football/hockey stars or something? alp227 Apr 2013 #152
Schools are infamous for not doing anything concerning bullying davidn3600 Apr 2013 #169
I'd say it's a "public schools in general" problem Posteritatis Apr 2013 #208
The problem was she didn't report it to the authorities when it happened. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #220
I am convinced Rex Apr 2013 #154
Evil and cruelty BainsBane Apr 2013 #171
+1000 smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #221
This is horrible and sad. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #157
Absolutely disgusting that this was handled so poorly. MineralMan Apr 2013 #172
Other girls Brooklyns_Finest Apr 2013 #174
Why do you think her rapists took a picture and shared it? Because they thought she'd be pleased? redqueen Apr 2013 #178
What the flaming holy fuck do you think rape is in the first place? (nt) Posteritatis Apr 2013 #200
The RAPE VICTIM was *NOT* a SLUT - so "slut shaming" is NOT the point. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #175
Bullies used "s*** shaming" to viciously attack her. It IS a HUGE point. redqueen Apr 2013 #177
The POINT is that she was RAPED. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #180
S*** SHAMING AND VICTIM BLAMING IS WHY SHE DIDN'T COME FORWARD SOONER redqueen Apr 2013 #182
Your reasoning make no sense. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #183
I'm sorry you don't see it. Very sorry. redqueen Apr 2013 #184
The humiliated (in my opinion) comes from everyone knowing IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #186
"We don't know how to deal with sex crimes in our culture." chervilant Apr 2013 #213
+10000 one_voice Apr 2013 #190
And FURTHERMORE redqueen Apr 2013 #181
Your inability to comprehend the English language is bordering on frothing hysteria. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #185
"NO ONE kills themselves because someone else said something "mean"" redqueen Apr 2013 #187
My "true colors" have been on display since 2004. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #188
Did I act like the world is going to end? I would like more solidarity among women. redqueen Apr 2013 #189
I came in disagreeing with you. I have re-read my post. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #191
And I apologize for going after you as I did. redqueen Apr 2013 #193
This stuff matters to us, so we both got passionate about it. IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #194
The article plainly says that people were calling her that gollygee Apr 2013 #201
i tried to find the article of a 12 yr old that committed suicide for being called a slut, and she seabeyond Apr 2013 #207
"Smart people"? chervilant Apr 2013 #214
Redqueen and I arrived at a point where we IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #215
You are not in that young girl's mind. chervilant Apr 2013 #216
Blah blah blah - talk about arrogant and condescending! IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #217
"...a little on the tart side..." chervilant Apr 2013 #218
Yeah! We have achieved mutual understanding! IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #219
I kinda wondered why the OP wanted people to know Rex Apr 2013 #209
Because those are the terms people are using to describe what happened to this girl. redqueen Apr 2013 #210
I am glad I don't have kids get the red out Apr 2013 #179
So with you. nt IdaBriggs Apr 2013 #192
The all pervasive objectification and sexualization of girls/women is primary to creating Zorra Apr 2013 #195
Thank you for this post, Zorra. So much. redqueen Apr 2013 #196
You're welcome, redqueen. Zorra Apr 2013 #197
Nova Scotia justice minister revisits review of Rehtaeh Parsons case Dr. Strange Apr 2013 #198
if they'd done so earlier BainsBane Apr 2013 #199
Thank you. n/t Judi Lynn Apr 2013 #202
Love the sweet sweet sound of that hundred-metre freestyle backpedal. Posteritatis Apr 2013 #205
I can't help wondering if the growing exposure, and redqueen Apr 2013 #211
The minister made a similar stupid mistake a few months ago Posteritatis Apr 2013 #212
Thank you, redqueen. Didn't hear about this until now. So damned wrong. n/t Judi Lynn Apr 2013 #203
Ugh! This makes me physically ill. I am sick to my stomach after reading this. smirkymonkey Apr 2013 #222
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