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In reply to the discussion: My dad was a drunk, a staggering lush who alienated every person he knew... [View all]Skidmore
(37,364 posts)29. You find family where you are able to.
It is a healthy way to substitute for dysfunction. There is a book that I read long ago entitled "The Invulnerable Child" that dealt with the factors that contribute to children who have grown up in dysfunctional families and yet were successful adults. One of those factors was having a healthy relationship with a mentor from outside of the family. I can attest to how important a couple of teachers were to me and who taught me that beyond the narrow sliver of the crazy world I inhabited there was a whole world of possibilities. They gave me the feedback that I was worth something--I was of value.
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My dad was a drunk, a staggering lush who alienated every person he knew... [View all]
WCGreen
Jun 2013
OP
Alcohol can be very damaging. It caused enough distress in my extended family that i was never much
hedgehog
Jun 2013
#1
MY father was an alcoholic a also. HE WAS MURDERED BY ONE OF HIS "DRINKING FRIENDS"
trueblue2007
Jun 2013
#11
I'm glad you found sobriety. My father died of alcoholism when I was a little kid.
raccoon
Jun 2013
#4
You are blessed with an open heart that allows you to be happy in others' happiness
Hekate
Jun 2013
#38
Thank you for sharing this story... There for the grace of (insert) go we...
MrMickeysMom
Jun 2013
#9
"There's a hole in everyman's soul the exact shape & size of their father" said someone, some time.
duhneece
Jun 2013
#21
For some of us, Father's Day is NOT all about daddy being a role model...
Spitfire of ATJ
Jun 2013
#19
Try having your dad dump your mom for a hotter model and skip out on child support,...
Spitfire of ATJ
Jun 2013
#22
Trust me, once I decided to look to friends to be my family it got better.
Spitfire of ATJ
Jun 2013
#25
There's a post on here telling people to stop bashing the guy who paid their tuition....
Spitfire of ATJ
Jun 2013
#54
Every holiday, even the manufactured ones, is a chance for someone to shit on other people's joy
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
Jun 2013
#41
The same can't be said for the replies, nor in all probability, the recommends.
lumberjack_jeff
Jun 2013
#55
It's strange, I just picked up a brochure talking about the stages of acceptance
tavalon
Jun 2013
#39