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In reply to the discussion: Teacher gets 30 days jail for raping 14-year old student who later killed herself [View all]SamReynolds
(170 posts)He was 20.
I'd been pining for him all that summer at the pool. He worked as a lifeguard, and this is going back to the 70's. I was sure I was ready just because my hormones were going crazy. I developed early, and I watched him watch me. I was one of the tens of millions of 15 year-old girls in the world that were just figuring out that they had some power over boys. Most of the women on this site went through the same thing even if they won't admit it.
That lifeguard became my husband many years later. I'm not going to detail our first 'real' encounter, but according to society, he should have gone to jail. He still would have asked me to marry him after reconnecting years later. I know I would have felt horrible if he did go to jail, as if it was my fault.
This particular case in the OP is not very pretty. The teacher definitely went well outside of bounds here. But the knee-jerk assumptions that this girl killed herself because 'she was raped', rather than she 'felt responsible' are very small-minded. It may be the case that she felt violated, but I know that that one time, I didn't feel 'violated' at all. And without some evidence, no one here knows why she killed herself either. I'm not happy with this ruling either, but I don't know the whole story, and neither do any of you.
I'm sorry if this was too deep for the screeching brigade to handle.
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