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In reply to the discussion: Study: Everyone hates environmentalists and feminists [View all]bettyellen
(47,209 posts)end of the OP, more than the study.
What I said about it being twice as confrontational is from personal experience. Mine and approximately 80-100 other women I know who work in academia and activism the last 25 years. A majority of men do not like being told that anything is ever wrong- unless they happen to notice it first. And when you explain things calmly, many perceive it as angry because THEY are having an emotional reaction. They would be preferred to be agreed with, and perceive any issues raised as competition or confrontational when it is merely discussion.
Kind of impossible to actually "do" any activism when you accommodate this and pretend to agree with everything they say- or bend over backward instead of making the point you need to.
Most men have been evolving to deal with the great strides feminists have made in the last couple of generations. They do not hit their wives for talking up anymore. They do not expect us all to be barefoot and pregnant and shielded from the world we share. You can thank mouthy women for giving you all of that. All this noise about the failures of feminism is largely wishful thinking from those who do not know history.
They will get used to the expectation of listening and dealing with us with respect. But not if we shut up to please them. If things need to be done, it is a waste of time pretending otherwise to placate those less socially evolved. Society will progress with or without them, norms will continue to change. And that is good for all of us.