Ask Amy: Her response is spot on....

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31. Understood, but my first thought was - it was a mother who wrote in.

I would GUESS - and it's just a guess - that women in general are more concerned about being made fun of, or what would the neighbors think, or Dear God, what if our friends find out?!?!?!?!! Doesn't seem as though most men would get that mussed-up about it - especially to the point where they'd feel they have to write in to an advice columnist about it. Further, it's usually moms who remember the birthdays, buy the cards, write in the cards and send 'em or set them out where they can be easily spotted, get the gifts, wrap the presents, arrange the parties or activities, etc. At least in my experience, anyway. We have just the two kids and my husband usually has to double-check with me about exactly when the kids' birthdays are, or what year they were born. Just flies straight over his head sometimes (our anniversary too). And he's one of the most attentive, loving, supportive, and non-judgmental fathers there are.