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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]grahamhgreen
(15,741 posts)184. Yeah, it's our job, and sometimes....
we get fantastic dates with smart, exciting women who tear with us us from this world into heavenly realms I hope you have tread
I encourage you to ask for guy's numbers, assuming you like them!
Seriously, it is generally considered in our society the mans role to ask. Example check out this guide for girls:
Crushin on a guy can be hard. And waiting for him to start crushin back can be even harder. But never fear! Weve got a few super easy tips and tricks for you to try on your cutie.
Be friends first
When youre crushin on a guy, we know that its hard to think of him as just a pal. But its important for him to get to know you as a friend before he can get to know you as something more. It might take time, but starting up a conversation with him a few times will totally go a long way.
Flash your pearly whites
A smile is a huge sign of confidence. Make eye contact with your crush, and flash him a killer grin. Hell know youre friendlyand thats a good thing! A simple smile might give you the opportunity to walk over and strike up a conversation with him.
Dont be afraid to flirt
If you want him to see you as more than a friend, youre going to have to flirt with him a li'l. Not too much, because you dont want to overdo it. But when youre fun and flirty, hell start to see you in a different way. It will always show that youre totally confident with who you are, which guys totally dig.
Change your route
It might be a good idea to switch up your route in the halls so you can pass him between classes. Its a great way to squeeze in a quick convo and catch up with him. With this in mind, dont switch up every single route. You dont want to seem like youre following him. If you get to see him once a day, itll be a sweet treat for you and him.
Listen as much as you talk
You obviously want him to know as much about you as possible, but you need to know just as much about him. When youre chatting with him, make sure youre not doing all of the talking. Make sure its a two-sided exchange!
Dress to impress
If you know youre going to see your crush, maybe spend a li'l extra time picking out your outfit, or do something different with your hair. Dont go all-out and get too fancy, but doing something different will definitely make you stand out and catch his attention.
Hang with a group
Suggesting a hangout sesh with just the two of you might seem like too much to him at first. Try getting a group of your girls together and tell him to bring his guys. That way, you still get to hang out with him, but you get to test the waters first. Added bonus? Youll get to know his friends and vice-versa.
Partner up
If you have a class with your crush, suggest being partners on a project. Itll be a great way to get some quality hang-time and get to know each other a little more. Youll get to see how you two work together, and he will too!
Get to know his buds
One of the best ways to a guys heart is through his pals. Its always a good sign when a girl can hang out with a group of bros and just have a good time. Your crush will see that youre really down-to-earth and easy to get along with. His friends will get to know you, too!
Dont let the secret out
Its totally cool for you to let your girls know youre crushin, but try not to tell your crush! It might make him feel uncomfortable, and he might still be getting a feel for the situation. If he likes you, hell make it obvious when hes ready. Just keep the friend thing going and hell figure everything out for himself.
http://www.girlslife.com/post/2011/09/27/Wish-your-crush-would-ask-you-out-already-Ten-ways-to-make-it-happen.aspx
So, this is pretty typical, if you're male, and you don't ask women out, you'll likely spend your life alone. Not true for women.
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Are you pretending that you can't tell the difference between seeing and staring?
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#10
Yeah! Those damn women should leave those things at home! Otherwise what choice do you have
Squinch
Dec 2013
#66
and you know what? most of the good looking older (out of teens) men do not do it. you know why?
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#20
wrong. it is decades of having the attention directed toward me and seeing the difference in the two
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#33
you men are the ones popping up declaring... you only want the good looking men looking. i am not
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#54
the "you men" out of the handful i am seeing now raising this point. saying "you" men to separate
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#82
then quit getting all bent out of shape when i say men. it does not mean ALL men. and when i say
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#103
you would be wrong. what i am not gonna do is work on quantifying the number i feel. if it is a lot
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#121
"what i will not do is be directed by you and others what i am allowed to post"
NoOneMan
Dec 2013
#128
I think there are situations where the line is fuzzy--and some where it is not.
tblue37
Dec 2013
#194
Have you ever dressed up to make yourself more attractive? Please be honest. I have,
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#24
Oy. If someone is actually dressing up to make themselves more attractive, i.e. seeking sexual
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#30
Not just for sex. But to attract a mate as well. Now, just say you see a prospective partner,
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#42
Most educated people know the difference between "seeing" and "noticing" and "appreciating"
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#125
of course she wanted to be ogled and leered at, why else would she leave the burka at home?
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#52
Quit dressing up to look attractive as that is women's JOB. I mean, REALLY!!!!11111
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#61
And there is a difference between a woman who is actively seeking dates,
Sheldon Cooper
Dec 2013
#163
"Women dress up to make themselves attractive, duh." Not the same as wanting a date. duh.
yellowcanine
Dec 2013
#23
Well, they don't "Dress to Kill" in order to kill somebody, now, do they?
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#170
Is the opposite true then? women who do not "dress up" are lacking self respect?
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#215
Oh I don't know - can't afford nice clothing - or they have a different notion of what they need
yellowcanine
Dec 2013
#220
I am one who feels no need to wear makeup, don't give a shit if you consider me "dumpy" because of t
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#221
i thought it was also. i really did. then perused the thread and see it is serious. nt
seabeyond
Dec 2013
#40
Of course. This is just a post to push back on the generalization of men as creeps. Attraction is
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#205
"It is our job"? W.T.F? Having a penis means you have a "job" of asking for dates and numbers?
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#39
Correct. Welcome to our societies norms. If a man never approaches, or asks for dates or numbers,
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#47
Words fail me. At least ones that won't get hidden. Suffice it to say.....
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#56
And is it also a Man's Job to work and support the woman? What is the woman's Job?
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#189
OK, so you concede the point that in our society, the man is expected to approach?
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#191
No, I do not conced that at all but am asking if supporting women is also men's job and
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#192
Don't you have any sources that are geared older then middle school? First Yahoo answers, then this?
Squinch
Dec 2013
#230
I have had no problem doing so. It gives the impressiomn you are interested and this is what? Bad?
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#90
Is there still a fair amount of women who have an expectation that the man make the first move
penultimate
Dec 2013
#172
I reced to put on Greatest page for wimmin and mens would learn about their JOBs.
uppityperson
Dec 2013
#69
As I said in the OP:) BUT, socially awkward men are creep shamed, quite often, when
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#198
When the guy is eyeballing you up and down, can't keep his eyes to himself
boston bean
Dec 2013
#120
How does a jury let the observation that a woman can have "slut all over her" go?
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#136
No, that was just a garden variety misogynist troll who has been MIRTed. nt
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#147
Yeah, jury let that post stand though. MIRT has to clean up after a lot of messes
geek tragedy
Dec 2013
#153
Someone posting in this thread has suggested (in at least one other thread)...
WorseBeforeBetter
Dec 2013
#131
Is someone saying guys are not supposed to ever approach women to ask them out?
penultimate
Dec 2013
#167
I don't think you will find any posts that meet the criteria of your last sentence. nt
boston bean
Dec 2013
#206
Someone sesiously alerted this. And lost 6-0. Unbelievable. Talkin gabout trying to...
Logical
Dec 2013
#171
Do you think it is rude to stare at someone when and make them uncomfortable?
hrmjustin
Dec 2013
#244
LOL. Yes, there are creeps. Labeling a male creepy for looking at a girl who has
grahamhgreen
Dec 2013
#204
But the media has indoctrinated people into believing that socially awkward/introverted is....
Taitertots
Dec 2013
#229
I do think the men shaming goes too far sometimes, but times have changed. It is not a man's job
liberal_at_heart
Dec 2013
#235