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In reply to the discussion: This message was self-deleted by its author [View all]ecstatic
(32,677 posts)I've ever discussed this topic or put much thought into my automatic reactions to certain behavior, but your quote is perfect: "Men are afraid women will laugh at them, women are afraid men will kill them."
I'm laid back and don't have a problem with an initial stare, but if I "coincidentally" end up near the same guy more than twice, and he's staring each time, that's when my "creepy" radar begins to go off.
My advice to well meaning "good guys" would be this: Either make your move/comment the first time you see the woman, or let it go. DO NOT purposely walk near her several times while you work up the courage to approach, because then it becomes a safety issue. As far as prolonged staring, like at a bar or something, it's hard to say. For me personally, the situation doesn't escalate until I've changed locations (within the venue) and I see the same guy (staring at me) again.